Pretteangel Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 LETTING GO, is an art that we as humans have to learn. I think that when we can't seem to let go, we have to find out what is the matter in us that we have to hang on so desperately to another person. What is missing is self love and self respect and to get that we have to do some serious self work within us. Letting go, will come out of no where and it is a wonderful feeling when it does happen, and it will, trust me. When we truly love ourselves and we know that no one can give us what we should already have inside, we are free of pain. I think as human beings we tend to give up way to much power to another over us. It's like ok we meet this person, fall in love and hand over our entire being. We cant think, we can't eat, we can't do anything anymore because thisone person that we so desperately love has all the power over us now. I believe that when we love ourselves enough to stop behaving in such dysfunctional ways, we can be free to love in a healthy way. I am speaking very in general here not pointing at anyone. I have been on this destructive path once in my life , and that is all it took for me to realize that this is simply wrong. So I say to everyone on here that is in such self conflicted pain over someone else, pleast don't waste your precious life in such bad ways. Remember that you are very special and that you are very unique. People that don't love you for who you are and want to play stupid games do not deserve to be in your precious life. Have some self respect. There is someone for everyone out there that will love us and accept us 100%, however before this can happen, we have to love ourselves in a healthy way first. Remember you can't give something to someone that you don't have and you sure won't receive it back in a healthy way. Why work so hard and be so frustrated to be with someone that clearly does not want to be with us? Think about that, while we sit around all depressed and sad, the otheris out there living his/her live and has moved on. So we sitting there full of pitty for ourselves we wonder....how can this person move on so fast? Most of the time people that move on so fast do it on the rebound and those relationships will never work out. Why? because while we are smart and figure out what we did to contribute to the break up and fix ourselves, "They" decided to be cowards and just move on to another person , to another dysfunctional relationship that will not work out because "They" haven't fixed anything in themselves. Breaks ups happen people. Yes they painful, but only if you let them be. Use this time to search yourself and better yourself so that the next time you meet a "Looser" you won't be so fast to give up your heart so easily and you most definately think twice before you give "THEM" the power over you. Remember you are beautiful! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Hey Pretteangel, everything you have just said is straight out of my thoughts. If you love yourself, it's difficult to be hurt. I know that my s/o is not feeling the loss i am because she is the on requiring the space, so why should i hurt , well i do hurt, but the person i love isn't hurting for me, so it's easier, in a way. Things get easier, but we still love our s/o's so we don't give up, just put it to aside, for a while, as i say, for a while! Link to post Share on other sites
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