Does breast size matter?

[Von]

You sound like a jerk

 

 

Anyway if someone told me to get implants, it would probably be the last word they ever spoke. I LOVE my small breasts, no sagging, can exercise, wear what i want. If someone is going to throw away all i have to offer cause they arent BIG enough i say thank god cause i've dodged a major bullet

 

to the OP PLEASE dump your g/f and give her the chance to be appreciated by a different guy. Also maybe you should CHECK their breast size down to the inch so you will know if you can get off on them or not in the future before breaking their heart.

 

Excuse my while i vomit a little im my mouth at some of these men.

 

 

Maybe you should check your attitude at the door before commenting and making immature remarks.

 

OP. Don't listen to bad advice. If you have a good relationship you should be able to speak with her about anything. It depends how easy going she is. I have a best friend with real small breasts and she says out loud all the time that she cant wait to find a guy to buy her boobs. People who are comfortable in their own skin wont be so upset if you were to bring up something you can help them with. The same goes for someone who has bad breath, or messed up teeth, or terrible hair, or obesity, or some other thing.

 

It's like someone coming up to me and saying "hey, youve been looking out of shape lately, I'd like to help and I know a great gym and it's low pressure". I'm not going to get mad at them and accuse them of ridiculing me. How immature. Nope, I'd be open and want to know about it.

 

My point is I'm sure she knows her boobs are small and if you know that you want to be with her long term you have a common fix available that will solve your issue. If she is not open to that and you can't get over the issue then make a decision whether to stay.

 

I'm waiting for the "been dating a guy who can't seem to get it up enough" thread and all the replies advising Viagra and healthy exercise. Sheesh you'd think I wasn't trying to help.

 

Now go throw up some more nothappyjan and learn some courtesy while your at it

[utterer of lies]

Am I the only guy who dont like fake boobs? It seems to me a lot of guys dont care. But I do. I think fake tits look weird.

 

Me too. I like big boobs, but only if they are natural. Good for me that in Europe fake boobs aren't very common.

[oaks]

Am I the only guy who dont like fake boobs? It seems to me a lot of guys dont care. But I do. I think fake tits look weird.

 

Never met a pair up close. As a consumer of porn, sometimes they look awful and sometimes they look great. No idea what they feel like.

[delilah123]

I like tall men, but I would never dump a guy of average height just because he wasn't tall. Same goes for broad shoulders, blue eyes, big hands, etc., etc.

 

If you're willing to dump a woman for having small breasts, I think you must not care that much about her.

 

i agree I like tall men.. thing is I WOULDNT date a guy shorter then me in the first place.

 

I could not enjoy sex with a guy smaller than me (I'm only 5'2.. so really, they'd have to be quite small, and I'm pretty slim as well so I really prefer a guy who is bigger then me..)

 

I find this predicment strange.. while yes I imagine you will grow to find her more attractive, I doubt you will ever find her THE HOTTEST THING EVER and that's sad. Because you could be with someone you were v attracted to. I'm confused as to why youd have sex with her in the first place though

[delilah123]

Men ARE superficial. He should be applauded for recognizing he has a problem with it, but still choosing to stick around. Imagine how she'd feel if he dumped her because she had small tits? She'd probably kill herself or hate men forever. It's good that he's trying to resolve his issue. Sounds like he does want to be with her for who she is, the problem is what she has (or rather, hasn't) got.

 

erm, i'm female and I think he should dump her.. why on earth would you be with someone you weren't attracted to. like seriously why..

 

I'm not saying it should be the only or even the main factor, but there is zero reason to settle for someone who has a great personality but you aren't turned on by, then to find someone with both.

 

This benefits the girl too, remeber there are guys out there who prefer girls with smaller boobs (I know! I have naturally big boobs and hear it all the time that they prefer smaller) so she could be with a guy who loves her personality AND wants to have sex with her all the time. Win Win.

[nothappyjan]

Maybe you should check your attitude at the door before commenting and making immature remarks.

 

OP. Don't listen to bad advice. If you have a good relationship you should be able to speak with her about anything. It depends how easy going she is. I have a best friend with real small breasts and she says out loud all the time that she cant wait to find a guy to buy her boobs. People who are comfortable in their own skin wont be so upset if you were to bring up something you can help them with. The same goes for someone who has bad breath, or messed up teeth, or terrible hair, or obesity, or some other thing.

 

It's like someone coming up to me and saying "hey, youve been looking out of shape lately, I'd like to help and I know a great gym and it's low pressure". I'm not going to get mad at them and accuse them of ridiculing me. How immature. Nope, I'd be open and want to know about it.

 

My point is I'm sure she knows her boobs are small and if you know that you want to be with her long term you have a common fix available that will solve your issue. If she is not open to that and you can't get over the issue then make a decision whether to stay.

 

I'm waiting for the "been dating a guy who can't seem to get it up enough" thread and all the replies advising Viagra and healthy exercise. Sheesh you'd think I wasn't trying to help.

 

Now go throw up some more nothappyjan and learn some courtesy while your at it

 

My problem is you saying theres something WRONG with a person for how they are born, your tone is very condescending towards small breasted women,

 

People dont suggest short guys go have leg extension surgery. Comparing it to weight loss is ridiculous, small breasts doesnt affect your health.

Do you know how much harder it is to detect breast cancer with fake breasts. At least i dont know have to deal with back ache etc from large breasts.

 

If i had a billion dollars and could have fast, pain free garaunteed suregery i would still say NO as i like myself just the way I am and so do Many men

 

Ive never had a guy have a problem. There are many goregous women with small breasts, actresses included. Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, Keira Knightley just to name a few.

 

Comparing it to things like bad breath, obesity etc is extra rude and I'd love to see a picture of you, you must be the most goregous man on earth to have such arrogance towards women.

[angielove]

OP. Don't listen to bad advice. If you have a good relationship you should be able to speak with her about anything. It depends how easy going she is. I have a best friend with real small breasts and she says out loud all the time that she cant wait to find a guy to buy her boobs. People who are comfortable in their own skin wont be so upset if you were to bring up something you can help them with. The same goes for someone who has bad breath, or messed up teeth, or terrible hair, or obesity, or some other thing.

 

HAHAHA I cannot believe you are comparing small breasts to bad breath, messed up teeth, terrible hair and obesity. Wrong category my dear!

 

To the OP: break up with your girlfriend. If you are not attracted to her what is the point?! There must be SOME attraction for a relationship to work. If you aren't attracted to how she naturally looks, she isn't for you. DO NOT TELL HER TO GET A BOOB JOB. My god... when did that become an acceptable thing to tell something?!

[oaks]

If i had a billion dollars and could have fast, pain free garaunteed suregery i would still say NO as i like myself just the way I am and so do Many men

 

If you had a billion dollars, even more men would like you just the way you are.

[nothappyjan]

If you had a billion dollars, even more men would like you just the way you are.

 

Who said i don't Oaks :cool:

[oaks]

Who said i don't Oaks :cool:

 

A billion, you say?

[oldguy]

Hi

I am seeing a lovely girl. We've been dating for 6 months nearly now. She is very slim and is virtually flat chested. I am a breast man always have been. I just don't get much satisfaction visually when we are together in bed if you know what I mean. I thought it would pass and I would just get used to her chest and love it regardless but it's not happening.

I've read the post about how physical attraction increases with time but it just hasn't with me and I'm finding myself staring at woman who are larger in that department and I'm not a pervert!

 

Any other guys got over this hurdle? I am ashamed of myself that I am unable to 'enjoy' her body as it is! Am I doomed to always ONLY find larger breasted women attractive? By the way I'm not after HUGE ones just a B cup would be fine, something to hold onto but my girlfriend has the body of a child. And no I am not going to ask her to get a boob job!!

 

Incidentally we got together by chance - it was a one night stand that just carried on and now we are dating. I wasn't even that attracted to her at the start but I want to know if I can ever be attracted to her.

 

Seriously, this is an issue? Does she have a face? What about her eyes, nose, lips, smile, the way she makes you feel when your with her? I’m sure her breasts are fine as well. What I don’t understand is how you can profess your love for a woman while fixating on the attribute that YOU find least appealing rather than all of the ones you find most appealing, ya duffus, ;.

 

I fully understand having preferences. Mine is women, I just love ‘em, all colors shapes & sizes, there wonderful.

[Stockalone]

Hi

Incidentally we got together by chance - it was a one night stand that just carried on and now we are dating. I wasn't even that attracted to her at the start but I want to know if I can ever be attracted to her.

 

I believe that if it isn't there after 6 months, attraction to her won't magically appear in the future.

 

But only you answer that question for yourself. If you feel like you will never be really attracted to her the way you need to be, then you shouldn't continue the relationship.

 

 

If you're willing to dump a woman for having small breasts, I think you must not care that much about her.

 

I think the real problem is that he started dating someone he wasn't really attracted to.

 

Maybe her small breasts are the only reason why he isn't physically attracted to her. But what does it matter if it's breasts or something else that causes the lack of attraction?

 

Also, it sounds like this is the first time he is dating a woman with small breasts. If it turns out that he really can't get past that, then at least he now knows for certain that he isn't attracted to women with small breast, no matter what.

 

It is really unfortunate for the woman he is currently dating, though. She did nothing wrong.

 

 

I just thought "deficiency" was the wrong word. Breast size is more of a preference for some men, while some don't care at all. Most are just happy to be close to naked boobs. Many men actually prefer small or average size breasts.

 

I agree, but the OP doesn't seem to be one of them, though. And neither am I, I have only dated women with bigger breasts, because that is what I am attracted to. I have simply never been attracted to women with small breasts.

 

 

YOu should break up with the her. She deserves a man who wants to be with her for who she is. You sound very superficial.

 

If he can't get past his lack of attraction, then I agree that he should end the relationship. That said, I don't think there is a right or wrong when it comes to physical attraction. We are all superficial when you think about it.

 

 

You sound like a jerk

 

Anyway if someone told me to get implants, it would probably be the last word they ever spoke. I LOVE my small breasts, no sagging, can exercise, wear what i want. If someone is going to throw away all i have to offer cause they arent BIG enough i say thank god cause i've dodged a major bullet

 

to the OP PLEASE dump your g/f and give her the chance to be appreciated by a different guy. Also maybe you should CHECK their breast size down to the inch so you will know if you can get off on them or not in the future before breaking their heart.

 

Excuse my while i vomit a little im my mouth at some of these men.

 

I think that was uncalled for, although you can certainly think what you want.

 

I just don't understand why having breast size as an exclusion criterion is so terrible, when almost everything else seems to be acceptable when it comes to not wanting to date someone.

 

And as I said in my reply to Ruby Slippers, the OP seems to be dealing with a situation that is new to him. It's not like he constantly dates women he isn't attracted to, with the goal of breaking their hearts.

 

 

Ive never had a guy have a problem. There are many goregous women with small breasts, actresses included. Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, Keira Knightley just to name a few.

 

I am not attracted to either of them. But I know there are plenty of men who would are into that body type and would kill for a chance to date one of them.

[oaks]

Ive never had a guy have a problem. There are many goregous women with small breasts, actresses included. Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, Keira Knightley just to name a few.

 

I wish Kiera Knightley would eat more cake. She's a pretty girl and there's nothing wrong with her breasts, but she's so damn skinny!

[jasperste]

I didn't expect this many replies but thanks to you all.

 

To repeat I do not want my girlfriend to get a boob job. I wouldn't ever suggest such a thing, I like natural breasts. And I'm not into huge ones either I just like women and find their bodies attractive but my girlfriend is completely flat chested. She has no breasts to speak of. And yes, we just fell into this relationship. To cut a long story short, we were drunk when we 'got together'. Then we just met up more and more and now I am in a relationship with her. She is generally very very thin and has no curves at all. This I can hfind attractive and I find her petiteness attractive but the lack of breast is the issue.

When we met she was wearing a padded push up bra. She was apparently in to me and wanted to attract me. She flirted with me and being a stupid man I couldn't resist.

I am battling with my conscience. I know it's shallow to end a relationship because of this but the lack of breast has made me think about how else we are not 'compatible'.

 

She is happy with her size and in fact puts down women who have larger breasts and calls them 'fat'. This makes me think that deep down she is insecure as she calls even slim women fat just because they are a B cup.

 

Of course she has so many amazing qualities and I have grown to love these things even more - I was just hoping I would also grow to love her body.

 

She has started to dress 'sexier' I have noticed recently. She says I make her feel sexy but this just makes me feel worse. I find her less attractive in these tight clothes as they accentuate her flat chest.

 

I think I agree that things will not get better in time. I feel terrible and I am a grown man almost 30, not a teenager.

[jasperste]

Ive never had a guy have a problem. There are many goregous women with small breasts, actresses included. Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, Keira Knightley just to name a few.

 

 

 

But these women DO have breasts they may be small but they are breasts. My girlfriend is just completely flat. To make it clear she just has nipples, not breast tissue at all

Edited October 20, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[OliveOyl]

I see no difference in shallowness between wanting a woman with certain sized breasts and wanting a man of a certain height. Many women have defended that there's nothing wrong/too shallow with wanting a guy taller than them. I say there's equally nothing wrong with not wanting a flat-chested woman.

 

Both may be a bit shallow but if you have a built-in strong preference, best to go with it.

[jasperste]

Isn't sort of 'in built' that if you are a hetrosexual man you are attracted to the female form which is hips, breasts, etc as these attributes signify fertility, ability to feed and give birth to children?

And a hetrosexual woman is attracted to a tall, strong man that will be able to hunt and feed the familty and protect them?

[jasperste]

Isn't sort of 'in built' that if you are a hetrosexual man you are attracted to the female form which is hips, breasts, etc as these attributes signify fertility, ability to feed and give birth to children?

And a hetrosexual woman is attracted to a tall, strong man that will be able to hunt and feed the familty and protect them?

Now I sound as if I am trying to justify my feelings! OOpps didn't mean it like that.

[somedude81]

Dude, it sounds like the best thing you can do is break up with her. Just don't tell her that you're going to dump her because you think her breasts are too small. Think of some other reason.

[Sanman]

I only date women whose breasts are so large they cannot physically get up if they fall face first to the ground. Thus, I am still single. Take a lesson from that OP. :cool:

[LadyFlame]

erm, i'm female and I think he should dump her.. why on earth would you be with someone you weren't attracted to. like seriously why..

 

I'm not saying it should be the only or even the main factor, but there is zero reason to settle for someone who has a great personality but you aren't turned on by, then to find someone with both.

 

This benefits the girl too, remeber there are guys out there who prefer girls with smaller boobs (I know! I have naturally big boobs and hear it all the time that they prefer smaller) so she could be with a guy who loves her personality AND wants to have sex with her all the time. Win Win.

 

The fact he's even bothering going through a dilemma about this proves he cares about her; and he's obviously revolted with himself for thinking of finishing it due to something as shallow as breast size. But that's men for you.

 

I'm lucky in the sense I have an almost-perfect figure. My breasts aren't huge and perky (in other words, blatantly fake) they're a C cup but perky enough, plus I have a round, curvy butt which makes up for upper half. And I have great thighs. Obviously, getting older I'm having to maintain it which is a pain in the neck but worth it. It means I don't have to go through these types of insecurities about my figure. The only issue I have is that when guys get to know me, they usually run away because they can't handle the so-called craziness.

 

He should be a (strong)man and stick with her.

[Lizzie60]

Hi

I am seeing a lovely girl. We've been dating for 6 months nearly now. She is very slim and is virtually flat chested. I am a breast man always have been. I just don't get much satisfaction visually when we are together in bed if you know what I mean. I thought it would pass and I would just get used to her chest and love it regardless but it's not happening.

I've read the post about how physical attraction increases with time but it just hasn't with me and I'm finding myself staring at woman who are larger in that department and I'm not a pervert!

 

Any other guys got over this hurdle? I am ashamed of myself that I am unable to 'enjoy' her body as it is! Am I doomed to always ONLY find larger breasted women attractive? By the way I'm not after HUGE ones just a B cup would be fine, something to hold onto but my girlfriend has the body of a child. And no I am not going to ask her to get a boob job!!

 

Incidentally we got together by chance - it was a one night stand that just carried on and now we are dating. I wasn't even that attracted to her at the start but I want to know if I can ever be attracted to her.

 

I have not yet read the whole thread.. but to me, physical attraction is not something you can control ... you either have an attraction to a certain physical type or not.

 

A lot of men are attracted to large breasts.. you certainly are not the only one.. Some men are like 'addicted' to watching or looking at large breasts women.

 

I have huge breasts.. and let me tell you I get a lot of attention.

[somedude81]

and he's obviously revolted with himself for thinking of finishing it due to something as shallow as breast size. But that's men for you.

 

He should be a (strong)man and stick with her.

 

I suspect you are short, hence why your post seemed so bitter. I'm 5'6 but I like guys between 5-8 and 5'11. I'm not into guys over 6ft. They're too tall for me.

 

Do you have any idea how hypocritical you are?

 

You claim that men are shallow for wanting a girl with a decent sized bust and then you say that you only want guys between 5'8 and 5'11. Never mind the fact that you're only 5'6.

 

So who is shallow, the man who wants a woman who has a B or bigger, or the woman who will not date a man that is her height or several inches taller than her?

[LadyFlame]

Do you have any idea how hypocritical you are?

 

You claim that men are shallow for wanting a girl with a decent sized bust and then you say that you only want guys between 5'8 and 5'11. Never mind the fact that you're only 5'6.

 

So who is shallow, the man who wants a woman who has a B or bigger, or the woman who will not date a man that is her height or several inches taller than her?

 

Shallow is realism. Being a realist doesn't make me hypocritical, nor does it mean that I would "dump" a man i love because of his height. Both the height and the breast size are part of the shallow nature of humans; but as humans we have the choice whether to act on it like that or not. If I was really in love with someone but he was tall, I would do my best to overlook the height issue because the other qualities are so wonderful. As I said, I'm not into tall guys, but if I just so happened to get with a tall guy who was great in every other aspect, I'd be strong and stick with him.

 

HENCE WHY I SAID HE SHOULD BE STRONG AND STICK WITH HER.

 

[thehead]

I didn't expect this many replies but thanks to you all.

 

To repeat I do not want my girlfriend to get a boob job. I wouldn't ever suggest such a thing, I like natural breasts. And I'm not into huge ones either I just like women and find their bodies attractive but my girlfriend is completely flat chested. She has no breasts to speak of. And yes, we just fell into this relationship. To cut a long story short, we were drunk when we 'got together'. Then we just met up more and more and now I am in a relationship with her. She is generally very very thin and has no curves at all. This I can hfind attractive and I find her petiteness attractive but the lack of breast is the issue.

When we met she was wearing a padded push up bra. She was apparently in to me and wanted to attract me. She flirted with me and being a stupid man I couldn't resist.

I am battling with my conscience. I know it's shallow to end a relationship because of this but the lack of breast has made me think about how else we are not 'compatible'.

 

She is happy with her size and in fact puts down women who have larger breasts and calls them 'fat'. This makes me think that deep down she is insecure as she calls even slim women fat just because they are a B cup.

 

Of course she has so many amazing qualities and I have grown to love these things even more - I was just hoping I would also grow to love her body.

 

She has started to dress 'sexier' I have noticed recently. She says I make her feel sexy but this just makes me feel worse. I find her less attractive in these tight clothes as they accentuate her flat chest.

 

I think I agree that things will not get better in time. I feel terrible and I am a grown man almost 30, not a teenager.

 

Dude, you're so guilt-racked it's obvious. You're being reasonable though. I'm one who isn't into the flat-chested chicks or those with huge breasts. I just like a chick in proportion.

 

At the end of the day, you have to be with someone you're into--physically and emotionally.

 

So, when are you going to tell her?