GUYS: How important is weight if a woman has a face you find attractive?

[Sphere]

A size 12 in the UK is like an 8 or 10 in the U.S.

 

Also, look at the picture that you linked to. That woman's legs are out of proportion/too fat in relation to the rest of her frame. You can't see her butt but she's probably got junk in the trunk as well. Women always seem to chastise men for failing to recognize that photo shoots of models can be made to hide a lot. She's hiding her @ss, ever wonder why?

 

I agree, it's almost as bad as airbrushing photos. Have you seen Halle Berry without make up? She's a 5 at best, Megan Fox? A 6 at best and Angelina Jolie? A 3 and that's being generous.

[Feelin Frisky]

BMI, shmee em I. If she's adorable but heavy, her look and confidence with who she is can be intoxicating.

[stuck with eharmony]

I dated a girl that was 5 - 6 and 180 lb I normally wouldn't be attracted to that but I got past that because her face was so pretty, so as a result I found her very attractive. After her I dated another girl of similar body structure but I face I didn't find atrractive at all. I quickly lost interest in her. So OP, yes the face can make a huge difference.

[Stung]

Well I'm not a guy but I have dated a few women in the past, and a couple of them were just as the OP described, with 'thick' bodies and beautiful faces. I actually find such women very attractive, I like a woman with some curves and muscle and am not particularly attracted to the petite/waifish look.

 

My dealbreaker is if she's blonde. I don't know what it is, I just can't find a fair blonde sexually attractive, male or female.

[MrNate]

Well I'm not a guy but I have dated a few women in the past, and a couple of them were just as the OP described, with 'thick' bodies and beautiful faces. I actually find such women very attractive, I like a woman with some curves and muscle and am not particularly attracted to the petite/waifish look.

 

My dealbreaker is if she's blonde. I don't know what it is, I just can't find a fair blonde sexually attractive, male or female.

 

As weird as it is to say this..we have similar tastes.

[MrNate]

BMI, shmee em I. If she's adorable but heavy, her look and confidence with who she is can be intoxicating.

 

I agree. The BMI scale is so flawed, it's laughable. It in no way accounts for muscle development.

[Sphere]

I agree. The BMI scale is so flawed, it's laughable. It in no way accounts for muscle development.

 

You don't need a BMI index to tell if you someone is overweight/fat. You can do that just by looking at them.

[somedude81]

I agree. The BMI scale is so flawed, it's laughable. It in no way accounts for muscle development.

BMI actually makes sense for women because they typically do no have a large amount of muscle. Also the number of women that do have muscle is a much smaller percentage of men that do.

 

It's also much easier to understand then dress sizes.

[marsle85]

Firstly, I'm a size 8- and I have an adorable face... but I STILL wish I was thinner. Why? Because relying on your face is a cop-out... physically and emotionally. I can look better, I know I can. I can look better in a bikini, I can look better naked, I can fit better in my clothes. Katie, it sounds like to me you're looking for validation for being overweight. Please do not use the United State's national average, because it's common knowledge the US has an immense weight problem. Obesity (often where these 12-18 sized women fall) is NOT okay... and this is coming from a girl who has struggled with her weight her whole life. After traveling to Europe, I was shocked to see how everyone was thin, and remarkably more attractive. I am not saying the women you posted are unattractive, or would even look better skinny... i'm saying the average woman cannot rely so heavily on impeccable muscle tone, personal trainers, specified diets and a great face... because that's simply not the norm for "women in America."

 

If you have a great face Katie, you're lucky. You're probably a very pretty, attractive woman. But if you have to ask if men will be attracted to you regardless of the rest of your body -- you clearly need to take a look at yourself. If you are INDEED happy with yourself, you are of good health and don't feel like your weight limits you, then great for you.

 

By the way, my experience with weight loss and a cute face? Your eyes look bigger, your lips are more pouty- your face isn't hidden by fat, OR insecurities.

[Stung]

As weird as it is to say this..we have similar tastes.

 

 

Ha ha. I bet you'd find it a lot weirder if we suddenly also shared the same taste in men

[alphamale]

Would you date her?

sure why not

[impz]

I probably might date someone like that, though I would definitely prefer to date someone who is a size 2-4 (my wife is a size 2). I think all in all, if the girl does look good appearance wise, and has a decent personality, I see no reason why weight should really go into play at all. (unless she is so obese that it's impossible).

[MrNate]

Firstly, I'm a size 8- and I have an adorable face... but I STILL wish I was thinner. Why? Because relying on your face is a cop-out... physically and emotionally. I can look better, I know I can. I can look better in a bikini, I can look better naked, I can fit better in my clothes. Katie, it sounds like to me you're looking for validation for being overweight. Please do not use the United State's national average, because it's common knowledge the US has an immense weight problem. Obesity (often where these 12-18 sized women fall) is NOT okay... and this is coming from a girl who has struggled with her weight her whole life. After traveling to Europe, I was shocked to see how everyone was thin, and remarkably more attractive. I am not saying the women you posted are unattractive, or would even look better skinny... i'm saying the average woman cannot rely so heavily on impeccable muscle tone, personal trainers, specified diets and a great face... because that's simply not the norm for "women in America."

 

If you have a great face Katie, you're lucky. You're probably a very pretty, attractive woman. But if you have to ask if men will be attracted to you regardless of the rest of your body -- you clearly need to take a look at yourself. If you are INDEED happy with yourself, you are of good health and don't feel like your weight limits you, then great for you.

 

By the way, my experience with weight loss and a cute face? Your eyes look bigger, your lips are more pouty- your face isn't hidden by fat, OR insecurities.

 

This.

 

There are so many women out there with so much potential, it's almost amazing that they don't realize it themselves. It's like a 10-20 lbs. difference that can take them from "ok" to "WOW!". Women know men like a nice shapely figure, so I say (especially considering there are very few ugly people in the world) why not play this to your advantage? Even if you're not genetically skinny, with enough effort, you can turn whatever you have into a banging bod.

 

I think women should take more time to realize just how much potential they have to be physically irresistible to the opposite sex.

[runner]

I don't mean morbidly obese. But maybe a few extra pounds or considered "thick". If a woman has a beautiful face, but may not be a size 2 or 4, but instead a size 10 or 12..would she turn your head? Would you date her?

 

i would think if one was very obese then it would show in the face, yes ? hence, if i found a woman's face attractive then it probably means that i'm attracted to the rest of the package as well.

 

add to that - there have been times where i've come across women who are way overweight, but whom i've imagined that might be gorgeous if she were to become more fit. (apologies if that comes off as insulting)

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[fit]

You didnt say how tall you were but I would date a size 12...if she had boobs, butt and was very toned. If she was saggy with back fat and cellulite (which 145 lbs could go either way unless your 6 ft which I dont think you are) then hell no. It wouldnt matter what her face looked like, if she looked gross naked the face doesnt matter. Guys are visual and the body is part of the visual ...unless your just getting a bj or something then the body doesnt matter nearly as much.

[Els]

But does anyone seriously think a 5'4" lady who weighs in at 134 ("normal" BMI) should be considered "slender" or "skinny"? I have no idea what dress size that would be. It really doesn't sound very slender to me.

 

That's the whole point. Your ideas of 'slender' (and thus attractive) do not conform to medical ideals (which a 5'4" lady at 134 is). Please stop trying to make them sound like they do. If that lady were to lose any more weight, it would be strictly for your aesthetic preferences; she would NOT be any more healthy than she already is.

[Els]

A size 12 in the UK is like an 8 or 10 in the U.S.

 

Also, look at the picture that you linked to. That woman's legs are out of proportion/too fat in relation to the rest of her frame. You can't see her butt but she's probably got junk in the trunk as well. Women always seem to chastise men for failing to recognize that photo shoots of models can be made to hide a lot. She's hiding her @ss, ever wonder why?

 

Yes, she is not aesthetically pleasing to you, we get it. Claiming that her size is medically obese is what's laughable. Stop confusing your preferences with actual medical facts and trying to brainwash the rest of the population into believing you.

[meerkat stew]

After traveling to Europe, I was shocked to see how everyone was thin, and remarkably more attractive.

 

Yeah, well that's because everyone in Europe smokes like a chimney and their bodies burn more calories trying to process the toxins. Europeans also have parasites from eating things they shouldn't eat, live hamsters and park squirrels and such (they don't do that around Americans, only behind closed doors in their secret societies). If you dangle a bite of steak in front of a European's mouth long enough, sure as the sun, here comes Mr. Tapeworm snapping out of the back of their throat for a grab at the morsel.

[BubbleFreak]

Yeah, well that's because everyone in Europe smokes like a chimney and their bodies burn more calories trying to process the toxins. Europeans also have parasites from eating things they shouldn't eat, live hamsters and park squirrels and such (they don't do that around Americans, only behind closed doors in their secret societies). If you dangle a bite of steak in front of a European's mouth long enough, sure as the sun, here comes Mr. Tapeworm snapping out of the back of their throat for a grab at the morsel.

 

Just pictured that in my mind.

[BubbleFreak]

The way I see it, if you have a facial deformity (and therefore seen as unattractive to the general population) it is harder to fix than if you are born with a beautiful face but have some extra weight. Unless you want to resort to plastic surgery.

[Katie29]

Firstly, I'm a size 8- and I have an adorable face... but I STILL wish I was thinner. Why? Because relying on your face is a cop-out... physically and emotionally. I can look better, I know I can. I can look better in a bikini, I can look better naked, I can fit better in my clothes. Katie, it sounds like to me you're looking for validation for being overweight. Please do not use the United State's national average, because it's common knowledge the US has an immense weight problem. Obesity (often where these 12-18 sized women fall) is NOT okay... and this is coming from a girl who has struggled with her weight her whole life. After traveling to Europe, I was shocked to see how everyone was thin, and remarkably more attractive. I am not saying the women you posted are unattractive, or would even look better skinny... i'm saying the average woman cannot rely so heavily on impeccable muscle tone, personal trainers, specified diets and a great face... because that's simply not the norm for "women in America."

 

If you have a great face Katie, you're lucky. You're probably a very pretty, attractive woman. But if you have to ask if men will be attracted to you regardless of the rest of your body -- you clearly need to take a look at yourself. If you are INDEED happy with yourself, you are of good health and don't feel like your weight limits you, then great for you.

 

By the way, my experience with weight loss and a cute face? Your eyes look bigger, your lips are more pouty- your face isn't hidden by fat, OR insecurities.

 

 

Ok, first of all I was not looking for "validation from men" as you put it. WTF? I'm 145 pounds, not 200. I posted this question curious about what men thought and though I have read some honest, non judgemental answers, I have also read some very nasty messages that seem to go after me personally. I don't have a CLUE why people that don't even know me and haven't seen me in person would say such UGLY things. This website seems to be filled with some very HOSTILE people, that take out their personal problems in anonymity. I'm pretty shocked by some of the things people said.

[Katie29]

Well I'm not a guy but I have dated a few women in the past, and a couple of them were just as the OP described, with 'thick' bodies and beautiful faces. I actually find such women very attractive, I like a woman with some curves and muscle and am not particularly attracted to the petite/waifish look.

 

My dealbreaker is if she's blonde. I don't know what it is, I just can't find a fair blonde sexually attractive, male or female.

 

lol! guess I'm out of the lineup...jk..

[Katie29]

LOL Im going through this now. I met this one girl online, she's got a gorgeous face but when I saw her in person, she was BIG. The distribution of cellulite is astonishing. Her face and torso are slim, her arms are a bit chubby, and her hips ass & thighs are huge. Not sure about her yet.

 

Hopefully she will realize how shallow you are and dump you before you decide how 'lucky" she is to be dating you.

[Katie29]

The op seems to be hostile that most Men arent attracted to overweight women she needs to get over it and realize you cant force attraction

 

As i said all you women whining how hard it is to lose weight lets switch plcaes and see if i can lose the weight before you can grow a few inches

 

 

Hostile? lol It was a question that I was curious about..I don't have any issues meeting men. They may not always be men I wan't to date. But I'm def not "hostile".

[Stung]

lol! guess I'm out of the lineup...jk..

 

Aw, you're probably not all torn up about it.

 

 

 

BTW Marsle, I know you probably didn't mean that quite the way it sounded, but I lived in one country in Europe for years and have visited several others repeatedly over a twenty year timespan. I can assure you that while Europe clearly does not have the obesity epidemic the United States struggles with, it's not really the case that everyone in Europe is thin. People wrestle with weight issues there, too, and gain weight as they grow older and their metabolisms slow down--not everyone is a slim teen or twenty-something. In addition some areas of Europe are beginning to catch up to American weight problems, as work hours increase, fast food restaurants pop up, and walking and bicycling become less prevalent modes of transport.

 

One thing I found interesting in my own experience in Europe, was while overweight people were openly acknowledged as being chubby or pudgy or whatever, they didn't seem to be mocked and reviled the way I have often seen happen in the US. Maybe that was just what I saw in my little corner, though. It's not like I interviewed all the chubby Europeans.