Ella whispers Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now. We get along great, have fun, a lot in common, all that. He is divorced and has custody of his son. In the beginning I was sort of on a rebound and felt ready for a relationship but I felt that he wasn't because of some subtle and not so subtle actions he made. We both said we wanted things to progress slowly, no expectations, no labels etc.. When his ex came to visit w/ their son she stayed at his house for a week (at this time we had been seeing each other for almost a month). He asked that I not call him, let him text me first because it would start a fight between them and he didn't want that around his son. From what he has said they had a pretty toxic relationship. I found that odd since he said she was seeing someone but honored his request and hardly spoke to him while she was here. As soon as she left it was back to the way it was. Fast forward to now: At dinner last night he made a comment that when he goes to pick up his son from her she wanted him to drive all the way up instead of half way and stay the night there and drive back the next day. He said he didn't want to do that, saying something about her "sucker" bf. I asked why he was a sucker and he said that when she came to visit 3 months ago they had broken up days before and when she got back home they got back together. Kinda sounds like what happened w/ he and I no? I said "So he's a sucker for not realizing that she broke up w/ him to come here and have sex w/ you...." He basically said yes. I didn't pry and ask of they did have sex while she was here, I'm assuming that they did. I have been out w/ other men through this "relationship" and don't feel particularly jealous or upset. I don't want more children since mine just turned 18 and I feel like it's my time to do some of the things that I missed out on in my teens and 20's. I feel okay w/ spending time w/ him knowing that "forever" isn't the plan. I have tried to simplify things and say okay, You wanted a distraction from xMM, he wants a distraction from his xW, maybe they will reconcile, and he just wants companionship. I wanted someone make me less lonely yada yada. We both have needs that we fulfill and even though there's no future goal, our goals for now are being met. I qwas talking to a friend of mine and she said it sounds crazy and I'm over thinking it not thinking simply about it. Any input? Link to post Share on other sites
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