Tim7332 Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 How and why does this work? Seems like when I'm nice to any woman I want to sleep with she loses interest. But the ones I ignore and treat ****ty want me. What's the proper way to use this on women? Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 Women generally don't like having things "used" on them. Other than a vibrator. Link to post Share on other sites
Dblock10 Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 How and why does this work? Seems like when I'm nice to any woman I want to sleep with she loses interest. But the ones I ignore and treat ****ty want me. What's the proper way to use this on women? like my thread be an ASS get the girl. people want what they feel they cant have. when you are "nice" there is no substance in you from a girls point of view that makes them want to "want you" its just how girls work (or dont :S) Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 How and why does this work? Seems like when I'm nice to any woman I want to sleep with she loses interest. But the ones I ignore and treat ****ty want me. What's the proper way to use this on women? It's called "nice guy syndrome" Treat a woman with respect, and prudence and you are immediately perceived as weak and undesirable. Walk all over them, treat them like crap and they will perceive you as strong and confident. Then the chase is on. Sad, but a fact of life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tim7332 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Share Posted August 12, 2010 It's called "nice guy syndrome" Treat a woman with respect, and prudence and you are immediately perceived as weak and undesirable. Walk all over them, treat them like crap and they will perceive you as strong and confident. Then the chase is on. Sad, but a fact of life. If you've already been too nice to a chick and she lost interest is it too late to treat her like **** if you're still talking to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 This generally applies to women with low self-esteem. If you're responding to those that treat you horribly, you're the problem, not the other person. If a woman is emotionally healthy, she won't tolerate being treated like dirt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tim7332 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Share Posted August 12, 2010 This generally applies to women with low self-esteem. If you're responding to those that treat you horribly, you're the problem, not the other person. If a woman is emotionally healthy, she won't tolerate being treated like dirt. who wants a chick with healthy self-esteem? I'm not looking for a wife here. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 who wants a chick with healthy self-esteem? I'm not looking for a wife here. indeed Tim Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 If you feel the need to create drama in order to get a chicks interest then be prepared for some drama in return. Nothing needs to be created nor any acting is required to find a good woman. Rejections will happen along the way, but that is a good thing. You learn from it and improve. Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 who wants a chick with healthy self-esteem? I'm not looking for a wife here. If you want all that drama, find the biggest nutjob you can find. If you feel the need to create drama in order to get a chicks interest then be prepared for some drama in return. Nothing needs to be created nor any acting is required to find a good woman. Rejections will happen along the way, but that is a good thing. You learn from it and improve. Very true. But, I think Tim purposely looks for the most emotionally disturbed women. That's his prerogative. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 If you've already been too nice to a chick and she lost interest is it too late to treat her like **** if you're still talking to her? No it's not too late If she calls , don't answer. Call her back later but be brief. Never text her or call her first. Keep here guessing. If you get another date w/her, take her out for drinks, hold her hand but dont be afraid to flirt with other girls at the same time. Make her want to chase you. The whole trick is to be a confident jerk mixed in with a little nice guy all at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 12, 2010 Share Posted August 12, 2010 Very true. But, I think Tim purposely looks for the most emotionally disturbed women. That's his prerogative. He feels that is the best he can do or he wants one who he has stuff in common with. I can't think of any other reasons why anyone would want something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tim7332 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Share Posted August 12, 2010 No it's not too late If she calls , don't answer. Call her back later but be brief. Never text her or call her first. Keep here guessing. If you get another date w/her, take her out for drinks, hold her hand but dont be afraid to flirt with other girls at the same time. Make her want to chase you. The whole trick is to be a confident jerk mixed in with a little nice guy all at the same time. Yeah I work with her though. I don't call her or text her anymore. I know she's attracted to me but she's hung up on the whole work thing. I also tried too hard initially and I think I came off as desperate. How can I salvage this? Or should I? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 How can I salvage this? Or should I? just don't pay any attention to her whatsoever and she'll eventually come around Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 just don't pay any attention to her whatsoever and she'll eventually come around I didn't know you worked with her, but Alpha is right in my opinion. That should work Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 No offense to anyone but isn't it ironic that the OP and those individuals here telling him to treat women like dirt are all single? Perhaps your game plan needs some work. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 I know a lot of guys who say this stuff over and over again in person, but it's only because they chase after the women who don't like them and who treat THEM like crap. People who enjoy treating others like crap in relationships, usually enjoy getting it in return. I helped one of these guys stop chasing after those girls, he couldn't get a relationship at all for a long time before I did. He finally opened his eyes and noticed the very nice girl that he was best friends with at the time who didn't play games and crap and now they are in a happy relationship. People who crave drama and games insist on playing games and causing drama in relationships. And the rest of us just stare at them like this: Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 No offense to anyone but isn't it ironic that the OP and those individuals here telling him to treat women like dirt are all single? Perhaps your game plan needs some work. No Pyro, it's a whole different ball game for you. If you find instant chemistry and fall in love as you did, than none of these rules apply to you. You are one of the lucky few Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 If you're a complete ass all the time, the girl will eventually decide that you're not worth chasing and will move on. There has to be enough nice guy behaviour that she thinks it's worth persisting with the relationship, because you're really sweet sometimes and she wants more of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 I also keep wondering why there's the double standard here. If a girl came on here and said,"All the guys I've ever dated treated me like crap!" Everyone would say,"Stop going after *******s then." Guys come on here and say,"All the girls I've ever dated treated me like crap!" And everyone goes,"Then treat THEM like crap." No, just stop trying to date all the bitches. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 If you're a complete ass all the time, the girl will eventually decide that you're not worth chasing and will move on. There has to be enough nice guy behaviour that she thinks it's worth persisting with the relationship, because you're really sweet sometimes and she wants more of that. yea you sort of have to mix it up Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 No Pyro, it's a whole different ball game for you. If you find instant chemistry and fall in love as you did, than none of these rules apply to you. You are one of the lucky few you ignored my response to this in another thread, but aside from my relationship I am in is what I was referring to. I have never treated someone like dirt to try and get their attention. Some of the women who rejected me I could've probably kept around if I took your advice but what is the point of having someone like that around? My point is using common courtesy will work. Sometimes it won't but this same thing can be said about treating women like dirt, so in the end what is the point of treating them badly? Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 If you have to treat a woman like crap to win her over, that's a reflection on both of you. You because you had to put on an act and her for responding to such behavior. My dad told me when I was younger; just be confident and fun. Have stuff going on in your life and a fun personality, and people will want to be around you, men and women alike. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 Some of the women who rejected me I could've probably kept around if I took your advice but what is the point of having someone like that around? Because once you are in a relationship it can flourish. Then the games will stop. People refuse to admit that dating is all a game but in the early stages tha'ts exactly what it is Link to post Share on other sites
fwang Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 A woman who doesn't like you won't give a damn about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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