GrayClouds Posted August 14, 2010 Share Posted August 14, 2010 @ hope & gc - yeah I guess now it is time to actually face those fears and go out there and take them head on... As scary as it is there is no turning back now, I burnt that bridge and now the only way left is forward... You did not burn that bridge, it was napalm weeks ago but you was just pretending it was a pretty sunset. The only thing that has changed it your attitude, go back and read some off those old post and remind yourself. Then after your done comeback and tell everyone what your going to do tomorrow to celebrate the start of your great new life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smk Posted August 14, 2010 Author Share Posted August 14, 2010 You did not burn that bridge, it was napalm weeks ago but you was just pretending it was a pretty sunset. The only thing that has changed it your attitude, go back and read some off those old post and remind yourself. Then after your done comeback and tell everyone what your going to do tomorrow to celebrate the start of your great new life. Yeah now I am going to work on me, to become a better me, a stronger me, a me who is gonna grab life by it's balls and live it, without ever needing validation from another person, I am no longer going to let another person define me or my happiness, I make my own happiness, I create my success and future, I create my own validation.... Link to post Share on other sites
Thierro Posted August 14, 2010 Share Posted August 14, 2010 If you’re going through hell, keep going. It's the only way you will ever get out. Read every post that Mr Grayclouds has written. Same for Taramaiden, Caliguy etc. etc. Read every fine print here on LS to stimulate your positive thinking. Keep watching movies like Swingers, Fight club, read those motivational quotes. Write them down somewhere. Buy a cheap guitar and focus your creativity on it. Go out and face your fears. Go through the hard feelings. This is a challenge and you are not giving up. This is exciting! You are in a battle with yourself. Tame your mind that is holding you back. Find that what is important; your self-acceptance. Damn, you are a great guy; it shows. We all know this. But this doesn’t matter when you don’t feel this way. You have major potential, just like everyone around here. But you know what it takes to take life by the balls and lead it. You are going through ****. You are going through a miserable period. But in the end it’s your choice if you kneel down or stand up and take on the world. Knowing is not enough, we must apply, willing is not enough, we must do Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted August 14, 2010 Share Posted August 14, 2010 Yeah now I am going to work on me, to become a better me, a stronger me, a me who is gonna grab life by it's balls and live it, without ever needing validation from another person, I am no longer going to let another person define me or my happiness, I make my own happiness, I create my success and future, I create my own validation.... Originally Posted by GrayClouds: Then after your done comeback and tell everyone what your going to do tomorrow to celebrate the start of your great new life. What can you do tommorrow to reward yourself and have some good healthy fun and show, even if in a small way, that you can be kind and care for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Thierro Posted August 14, 2010 Share Posted August 14, 2010 Yeah now I am going to work on me, to become a better me, a stronger me, a me who is gonna grab life by it's balls and live it, without ever needing validation from another person, I am no longer going to let another person define me or my happiness, I make my own happiness, I create my success and future, I create my own validation.... I know that you feel like you don't want this. You don't want life to be so complicated. You just want it go easy on you. You want the comfortable uncomplicated state with your ex. Parts of you don't want to fight and don't want to hear everyone saying; Just let it go. Sometimes you just want to give up and crawl away in a corner waiting for life to become better and to be gentle. This is our greatest enemy talking. We are poisoned right now. We are taken by a virus that puts false believes in our head and it is misleading our feelings. Reset. Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted August 14, 2010 Share Posted August 14, 2010 Just a bump in the road. It's really hard that she kept texting you and knew you still have feelings for her. Keep strong my friend. Is there a champion in the room? Yep, it's you!! Keep that head held high...but watch out for low flying planes... Link to post Share on other sites
Author smk Posted August 15, 2010 Author Share Posted August 15, 2010 You did not burn that bridge, it was napalm weeks ago but you was just pretending it was a pretty sunset. The only thing that has changed it your attitude, go back and read some off those old post and remind yourself. Then after your done comeback and tell everyone what your going to do tomorrow to celebrate the start of your great new life. Well last night I actually had a good time - I cooked a great meal for 8 friends and family, baring the one moment when a friend asked about the ex I never talked about her, and even when I did I simply said we split up and changed the topic... I did have a couple of beers and a couple of gin & tonics but I actually did for the sheer enjoyment of having a drink as opposed to numbing the pain that is slowly starting to go... Sure I did wake up in the middle of the night yet again (damn I hate 3am) and thought of her, but then I went back to sleep. I woke up this morning and the first thought of the day wasn't about her. Today I am going shopping again and having brunch with a female friend and 5 of her other friends (and I am the only guy there) come on SMK still has it... Then I am going to go for a run this evening and watch swingers finally... I also treated myself to a chocolate brownie this morning because I thought I deserved it, damn I made them yesterday and didn't even eat them because of a fear of putting in weight that I have... Anyways that's the plan for today... Guys you are great the words and advice and support I have gotten here these past few weeks is priceless for everything I have my MasterCard... Lol... Link to post Share on other sites
Author smk Posted August 15, 2010 Author Share Posted August 15, 2010 Just a bump in the road. It's really hard that she kept texting you and knew you still have feelings for her. Keep strong my friend. Is there a champion in the room? Yep, it's you!! Keep that head held high...but watch out for low flying planes... Good to see you buddy - how are you keeping up??? Yes we are the champions and we gonna rock this boat baby... Link to post Share on other sites
sultry33 Posted August 15, 2010 Share Posted August 15, 2010 Hey SMK , did you watch swingers? I watched it last week great film;) I did exactly the same as you he however responded saying "he will love me forever, just wont be with me.. move on" it hurt like hell to not text call or contact him.. I have done a couple of times over the last 2 yrs but was like a kick in the gut every time and that was just small how are you?s You have done the right thing.. it hurts yes but you are going to be just fine keep busy and good luck:D Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted August 15, 2010 Share Posted August 15, 2010 Good to see you buddy - how are you keeping up??? Yes we are the champions and we gonna rock this boat baby... I'm just numb these days. Found out the ex is with a new guy and is happy. Link to post Share on other sites
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