(500) Days of Summer

[Chrome Barracuda]

Yep, I would have been bolted that dumb bitch outta my place! lmao.

[CaliGuy]

Yep, I would have been bolted that dumb bitch outta my place! lmao.

 

 

When I was younger, I used to kick crazy chicks to the curb. As I got older, I got more gentile. Turns out, that was probably not the best move. I was trying to find how to balance things out and I went the wrong way.

 

As of now -- I am just being happy being single and the LAST thing I am looking for is a relationship.

[CaliGuy]

Ok I have watched this movie now several times and I wasn't upset or depressed the first couple times but the last few times it's sorta bothered me. I wouldn't say it is depressing me, but it sort of relives past experiences in my life that I would care NOT to remember.

 

Still love Zooey Deschanel though. Her quirky personality is VERY loveable.

[zengirl]

Well I watched "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" last night and while it had some intriguing and complex things, I didn't think it was a realistic movie. At least with (500) Days of Summer there are some very real complexitives of a one sided-relatioship that I can certainly relate to (it's happened to me too).

 

With ESotSM, nobody gets their relationships erased. If this was something that we actually had, I'd probably be first in line -- though I'd probably want a lot of other memories erased as well haha.

 

Of course, it's not strictly realistic. But in a way, I find it's more emotionally true than (500) Days. Emotional truth and realism aren't generally related.

 

(500) Days is realistic, but its emotional truth is extremely shallow.

[CaliGuy]

Of course, it's not strictly realistic. But in a way, I find it's more emotionally true than (500) Days. Emotional truth and realism aren't generally related.

 

(500) Days is realistic, but its emotional truth is extremely shallow.

 

Well in reality, 500 Days is more like the real world and almost EXACTLY the way my relationship that brought me to LS over 5 years ago. So in that sense, the movie made a lot of deep connections with me.

 

With Eternal, as much as I loved Jim Careys acting, the truth is that nobody can erase someone from their mind no matter how hard they try. The way the movie was written and directed was brilliant though and I really enjoyed it.

 

But in my mind, if a guy has ever had a girl walk away because she "Didn't feel the same way with you" then this is the movie to watch.

 

And yes much like Tom I moved on, have dated others and while I haven't met Ms Right, I certainly no longer stay when I know I am not the one for them.

[phoenix1]

This movie was so painful for me to watch, I was Tom. My ex, like Summer, danced in and out of my life and I let him. Even when I finally said "That's it", he just couldn't let me go, and he had to toy with me some more. It reminds me of the scene where it's raining and he gets mad and leaves and she comes over to his house, apologizing and he just falls for it again. That was me.

 

The worst part for me is the end, where she says something about how she was "not sure" with Tom, and with this new guy, "I just knew, there was no doubt". My ambivalent ex never wanted to let me go, but never could fully commit. I stayed in that painful place for a few years. I have this horrible feeling he is going to marry this women he is with now (for only 6 months), and although I don't want him back, ugh, it hurts.

 

I hope to never let myself be in this place again, after all it takes two.

[rocket182]

So I just watched this last night. It's EEEEEEEEEEEERIE how much it was exactly like my last two serious relationships -- especially the one that brought me here about 5 years ago. I mean everything was spot on. Even to the point where the lead actor (Tom) is invited to Summer's party on the roof.

 

I know someone posted the "Expectation/Reality" scene but it brought back vivid memories of being in the same position as he was on that roof and seeing her show off her engagement ring to all her friends.

 

The most common theme is "Always being someone they like hanging out with and acting like boyfriend/girlfriend without the title, but eventually dump you and marry someone they literally just met".

 

The only part that doesn't match is near the end when they are sitting on the bench and Tom is being really nice to her and saying that he is happy for her. I couldn't ever get myself to the point where I was OK with being dumped for someone she just met.

 

Anyone else watch this movie and make a real life connections with this? I highly recommend watching it for guys who have been dumped. It definitely proves one thing: "If she doesn't want a title, if she doesn't act like she wants to be with you -- she doesn't!" LOL

 

 

I first watched this movie after I was stuck on a guy for a year and we kindof had a "thing" but nothing official. My bestfriend said that tom was me, and after I watched it I agreed.

[Pink Cupcakes]

I didn't interpret the movie as you did. I saw it as she just one day broke up with him, but not because she had met another guy. she met him after they broke up.

[Pink Cupcakes]

Oh and I disagree about the bar scene. Tom had no business being violent over the other guy hitting on his girlfriend and making an annoying comment. I would break up instantly with a "man" who acted as he did. Yes, punching a guy in the face who makes an annoying comment about you being her boyfriend is violent behavior.

[ascendotum]

Certainly sounds like you reminisce a bit with this movie having watched it a number of times. You seem a bit of a contrast. A bike racer who also loves Morrisey & The Smiths.

I find myself agreeing with Merkat’s assessment of Tom and ShadowPlay’s assessment of Summer, still when I was younger I would find myself falling for a free spirit/hipster girl like that so easy and likewise also have experienced being a ‘placeholder’ boyfriend.

The only relationship movie that I have seen a number of times (apart from ESOTSM) is 'Chasing Amy'. Coming from Kevin Smith it is not your typical rom-com. Really loved the lead girl (Joey Lauren Adams) in that movie plus also can relate to the issues Ben Affleck had to come to terms with over falling in love with this fun loving girl with a 'wild' past.

[CaliGuy]

I first watched this movie after I was stuck on a guy for a year and we kindof had a "thing" but nothing official. My bestfriend said that tom was me, and after I watched it I agreed.

 

Yep, not hard to see it when the hints are given they don't want a relationship with you but do the SAME things they do with you if you *had* an official relationship. They save the title for someone who is a priority, not an option.

 

I didn't interpret the movie as you did. I saw it as she just one day broke up with him, but not because she had met another guy. she met him after they broke up.

 

She may have broken things off with him but they still behaved as if they were in a relationship, doing the same things, etc. If she just wanted Tom as a friend she should have never let the relationship progress.

 

Remember SHE was the one who approached Tom and kissed him in copy room.

 

Certainly sounds like you reminisce a bit with this movie having watched it a number of times. You seem a bit of a contrast. A bike racer who also loves Morrisey & The Smiths.

 

Yeah some of the same things rung true in my own life though I never wrote greeting cards

 

I find myself agreeing with Merkat’s assessment of Tom and ShadowPlay’s assessment of Summer, still when I was younger I would find myself falling for a free spirit/hipster girl like that so easy and likewise also have experienced being a ‘placeholder’ boyfriend.

 

Been there. Like I said, the girl who drove me to find LoveShack did exactly the same thing to me as Summer did to Tom.

 

The only relationship movie that I have seen a number of times (apart from ESOTSM) is 'Chasing Amy'. Coming from Kevin Smith it is not your typical rom-com. Really loved the lead girl (Joey Lauren Adams) in that movie plus also can relate to the issues Ben Affleck had to come to terms with over falling in love with this fun loving girl with a 'wild' past.

 

Hmmm ok I'll have to check that out. Right now, I really do love ESOTSM and love the work of the actors, especially Jim Carey.