Qgal Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Interested to hear how you all define "a crush". Especially from a guys point of view. Please elaborate- not just dictionary version. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 For me a crush is when I think about a girl a lot, usually all the time, I get butterflies when I am near her, I might stutter a little. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 A crush is when you like someone, but they don't know it (yet?) Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 No they can know Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 She asked for personal interpretation and definition, not a debate. When they know, I don't feel it's a crush anymore. They can feel the same way, but once they know you know that they know that you know (etc.,)--It takes a step further. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Yeah true, she didnt ask for a debate, so i wont argue anymore So ill ask another question, do you like having crushes? i dont. Link to post Share on other sites
Qgal Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 You guys make me laugh! I love it Sooooooooo is a crush... liking someone... only when it is a secret to the other person? If you find out they like you...then what is it? Would you say it's "like" or something stronger? Now no fighting Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Originally posted by Qgal You guys make me laugh! I love it Sooooooooo is a crush... liking someone... only when it is a secret to the other person? If you find out they like you...then what is it? Would you say it's "like" or something stronger? Now no fighting I am not fighting, Dyer is picking on me, bully,lol, jk, dyer. i think that person can know, but usually they don't. As for is it like, depends on your definition of like, i think like is when is any attarction, so a crush is more then like, it is when i decide that a girl is worth the time, effort and possibility of rejection for me to take the risk and to flirt with her. For example, i have a crush on the girl that i gave a valentine's to, i like at least a few dozen girls. PS. That girl does not post on this site, the girl on this site that got a valentine's from me is not that person. Link to post Share on other sites
Qgal Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 In answer to your question...do I like having crushes? I would have to say yes. It gives me something pleasant to think about and puts a smile on my face. However, if it turned into unrequited love/lust then i think I would hate it. Lightbulb moment! I finally get it! Light vs Dark. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Originally posted by Qgal You guys make me laugh! I love it Sooooooooo is a crush... liking someone... only when it is a secret to the other person? If you find out they like you...then what is it? Would you say it's "like" or something stronger? Now no fighting A crush is when you really want someone, and can't stop thinking about them. You get nervous talking to them, or when they're around you. You just want to screw them SOOOOOO badly, you'd give anything to do it. lol. Maybe not for everyone, but my Zodiac symbol is Scorpio (symbol of sex), so I can't help it! Never mind that last sentence! Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 I think the definition of crush depends on your age group. In school it's called puppy love. ie: John told me that Steve likes me so I'm going to get Sally to ask Steve if he really does likes me. In your 20's It's more of a lust thing, oh man she/he's HOT. Make your move and maybe they'll take the bait. When your in a relationship it's more of a flirt thing knowing that, that's all it's ever going to be. Make eyes at each other smile make simple conversation and then move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Qgal Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 To Sparky: Down boy! Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 um, well, I usually go with the mainstream definition, but right now I consider a crush to be more than just thinking a girl is attractive - but when you develop feelings for her. Some may try to hide these feelings so she will not know, some may express them and she does know, but neither of you have the courage to take it to the next level - even if it is mutual. For me, I can find many girls attractive - good looking or having a good personality, I crush on a few of them - seeing that I would enjoy having a relationship or even just a date with them. I usually develop a stronger crush on one of them and sorta concentrate on that girl, and she's the one I really want to date. If I ever were to get a date then, it wouldn't be a crush in my mind - unless things dont work out and you get back to where you started. My relationships have never passed beyond crush stage yet - but I'm looking to change that very soon if things work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Does anyone know how to get the girl you have a HUGE crush on to like you? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Originally posted by Sparky Does anyone know how to get the girl you have a HUGE crush on to like you? Hypnosis. Link to post Share on other sites
Qgal Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Sparky: I think a good sense of humor is always charming. A smile or grin (but not goofy) is always a good place to start. Also, having a special quality or talent. Being unique... unlike the rest of the guys. Set yourself apart...in a good way. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Any REALISTIC ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Originally posted by Sparky Any REALISTIC ideas? Right, because sense of humor, the ability to smile, a single talent, and uniqueness are way out of the realm of possibility? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Smile. What the Beatle-lookalike said. Smiles are a powerful way of signaling to the conscious and unconscious mind, that your intentions are positive. Take a look at UCFKevin's smile. It is open and radiates personal warmth. Such a smile can really open doors and defrost hearts. Don't grin like an idiot. Practice. Smile at strangers, like middle aged ladies walking down the street, and check your success rate in getting a really happy smile back. When you're vastly more successful than you thought possible, then start using your smile at school. Smile and be friendly and polite with everyone - and save your best, most radiant smile for the girl who has unknowingly stashed your heart in her backpack. Confidence. The friendly kind of guy that can afford to be nice even to the dweebs because he frankly makes up his own mind about what's right for him. Not snooty, just knowing that he's a good guy who deserves good things in life. The way guys act when they know that their dads love them and that their moms think they're the greatest. And if you don't really feel that way, fake it 'til you make it. (You can confess your secret sorrows and insecurities to her after you have won her heart.) Also - hygiene. No heavy cologne, but make sure you always smell good - like soap or shaving cream - and your hair is clean and combed. Casual clothes are fine, of course, but have them on the tidy side of whatever people are wearing. Your shoes should not be filthy and broken down and smelling like you fished them out of a dumpster. And forgive me if this is obvious, but some of you sweet fellas need reminders on the basics. Good luck, stand up straight, SMILE! And be open to a flock of girls around you... Link to post Share on other sites
Qgal Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 CONFIDENCE!!! We are all unique. Think about why you are and USE it. Link to post Share on other sites
quickmorph Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 a $100,000 line of credit and a Porsche (though not a Cayenne) Link to post Share on other sites
RedneckRomeo Posted February 29, 2004 Share Posted February 29, 2004 I dont think there is a sure-fire way to get your crush to like you. Just be yourself, and if its meant to happen, it will. There is no way to MAKE a person like you - but you can help them along by showing them the great person that you are inside, not as a braggard would but just by being your normal self, being confident in that normal self, and letting things flow as they will. Sometimes while letting things flow, we realize that our crushes were not the best choices for a boy/girlfriend - and we find someone new with better qualities. Rarer, though, a better person is not to be found, and they feel likewise about you. When you look back, its easy to see how it all meshes together to create a perfect picture, and in the end, it will ALL be worth it, even the troubles. EVERYTHING!! Link to post Share on other sites
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