BalancingAct Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Hello, First post ever! I'm here because there's a very special girl in my life. I have been friends with her for 6 years and I've had a crush on her since day 1. I haven't had a detailed discussion with her about how I feel. I guess I like her so much and am afraid of being rejected. Anyway, I think she has a boyfriend right now. I'm not so sure, we never talk about that stuff. I just enjoy being with her when I can and we seem to get a long fine. She's about to move out of the country for a couple of years. The last time we hung out was a few days ago and I had a great time, overall. Although, I felt a little reserved. I felt at the time like I should give me all to my girl, and we definitely are just friends right now. However, at the same time I had the mindset that helps me through job interviews- I already got the job, I'm just on task (the interview as a process). It helped me keep my cool. Well, she had a good time too. Basically, I know I like her more than she likes me (I'm assuming based on actions) There might be a little spark in her heart for me. But that just seems like a stretch in itself if I'm completely honest with myself. I want her. But I don't to obsess. She's going to be out of reach for a couple of years (I want to keep in touch somehow, try to visit if I can make enough money too) My biggest fear: she has no feelings towards me. Love is a two-way street. I feel more lusty towards her if I'm honest. She's a good friend, sometimes I feel like I'm just her friend because I like her more than just a friend though. I'm rambling, and spent so with that I leave this open to any sort of advice, feedback. Link to post Share on other sites
goodgrief Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 You haven't acted before now, and you know why. It's uneven. If she had liked you and wanted to go out with you - she would have given enough signals for you to pick that up. It's not going to happen, so I suggest you simply find yourself a nice girlfriend, and one whom you know wants to be with you. You're wasting your time. It's a lost cause, and you should accept that. Link to post Share on other sites
jamcherries Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Yes, agree with 'goodgrief'. You acted the friend because you wanted to have sex with her, and when that looked unlikely to happen you held onto 'friendship' as a second best. She's unaware of that and will feel betrayed if you now make your 'feelings' clear. Link to post Share on other sites
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