SadandConfusedWA Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I find it bizarre. At least from the sample that posts on LS. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men display so much bitterness and hatred, towards women in particular that they end up poisoning every thread on here. Lots of us are in the same boat (regardless of the gender). Why hate? Link to post Share on other sites
InceptorsRule Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Well I've been married for about 17 years and everyone here keeps calling me "bitter" so I'm not sure there's a correlation. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 On the surface: Because many of the bitter men that post on LS are leftovers from the SoSuave invasion of LS and the bitter guys just never left.. Go figure.. I guess they liked LS better Deeper underneath: I would hazard a guess and say that both sexes are equally as bitter or have bitter moments in their lives. It is a natural reaction to being hurt to hurt back but the trick is that you are supposed to heal and cease being bitter in order to be happy.. I have had some bitter moments in life before and those were directly related to the pain I was going thru at the time and once the pain was gone so was the bitterness.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Some haven't learned, myself included for many years, to care less about the social rejections they've experienced, as well as the betrayals and inequities. Further, in a society of men which discourages networking and promotes competition, men feel isolated. Those of collaborative spirit rather than dominant spirit then feel further rejection unless they mold themselves to society's norms and standards. I've found the clear path is to accept things as they are and to care less about other people, society in general and pay more attention to living a fulfilling life for *myself*. Everyone has their own path and we all end up in the same place, dead. Make the most of living 1 Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 men tend to be singular-minded, especially when something consumes them. Women also are blessed with the ability to talk the subject to death with close friends and family, and therefore purge those negative feelings more quickly. Just my 2 cents Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I find it bizarre. At least from the sample that posts on LS. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men display so much bitterness and hatred, towards women in particular that they end up poisoning every thread on here. Lots of us are in the same boat (regardless of the gender). Why hate? Are you seriously asking this question? Assuming you are single; in an average month, how many dates do you go on? How many men will you "hang out" with? How often do you have sex? What are the chances that if you called a man today, you would have a date this week? Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Hm, maybe it revolves around rejection? Since men, on average are likely to experience it more, after enough rejections they become disheartened, which in turn leads to anger. I guess the question would be 'why does it lead to anger, instead of self reflection?' This is what I would say anyway. I don't really see bitterness happening from other causes on this site. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyJake Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I find it bizarre. At least from the sample that posts on LS. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men display so much bitterness and hatred, towards women in particular that they end up poisoning every thread on here. Lots of us are in the same boat (regardless of the gender). Why hate? Because women realize they're better off, and men realize their lives are better with women?? ;) Link to post Share on other sites
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 The whole paradigm of online dating sets up guys for repeated (albeit minor and ultimately meaningless) rejection. Some of us aren't thick skinned enough for it. Since this is a website, I think the online dating thing has a large influence on the posters. Almost everyone has tried it, or is at least familiar with it, here. I do think you might have a bit of a skewed view because your threads and threads like yours tend to bring out the bitter guys. There are bitter women here too, just not quite as many as men. They pop up instead in the threads on sex, porn, looks, masturbation, etc. IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 BTW any man or woman is invited to answer those questions. The answers will explain why single men are more bitter then women. The simplest reason, is that for women, dating is like playing the game on easy mode. Link to post Share on other sites
kalikula Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Don't know, I have noticed a TON of woman hating on this forum though. I'm assuming it's because even though we're single and haven't found the right person, us women could still get sex pretty much whenever if we wanted it.... And because (as the person above me said) they have to deal with tons of rejection while we tend to put ourselves out there less anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 The simplest reason, is that for women, dating is like playing the game on easy mode. More like they don't have to put a quarter in the machine to play, or perhaps have unlimited credits. But we pretty much agree. On a side note, I see this thread going down in flames quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I forgot to mention: It could also come from the idea that 'women have it much better in areas men lack'- in particular: # of suitors,dates, sex, etc. So I guess when you have to take on a much more active role, and face rejection, as opposed to being more passive, it can create some resentment. Just my $0.02. Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 More like they don't have to put a quarter in the machine to play, or perhaps have unlimited credits. But we pretty much agree. On a side note, I see this thread going down in flames quickly. HAHA I'm calling it now man. 17 pages. 2,800 views. Getting my popcorn ready. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Who hatin'? Not moi. I can't speak for other men. I lament my circumstances, situations and choices. But the one thing I keep seeing on LS that I totally find myself in complete disagreement with is projection of traits on to an entire gender. I have made it my ethic to see the world as one of uniqueness of the individual. It is only the notions and social defaults that I would put on trial and not "women", "men" or any such gross over-simplification. Telling one's self these sweeping generalizations is a way of enforcing validation of one's own plight and excusing the self from testing and retesting actual reality. Viva uniqueness of the human being and to hell with stereo-typification. Link to post Share on other sites
goodgrief Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I find it bizarre. At least from the sample that posts on LS. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men display so much bitterness and hatred, towards women in particular that they end up poisoning every thread on here. Lots of us are in the same boat (regardless of the gender). Why hate? I've only been here today, and I have gotten that impression too... This thread would bear that out...with one fairly scathing post from one woman, there are a few nore guys giving the same...I'm actually quite shocked. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 The simplest reason, is that for women, dating is like playing the game on easy mode. I don't think is even remotely true. If it was true a woman would only be on a site for one day and she would have found the man to build a life with. Finding someone you are compatible with isn't easy for both sexes.. Many of the women I went out with years ago are still dating and still online.. I am married now to someone I met on match. Looks like I was playing the game on the easy mode Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Because most men are single due to not being able to generate interest from a woman, which isn't a good feeling--while most single women are single by choice, but could change that in a matter of seconds. I'm not bitter towards women; just stressed to an extent that I'm single. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I think its equal you probably just notice the bitter posts from the Men more.. Plus Men arent supposed to show their feelings weaknesses or insecurities so places like this may be the only place some of us can vent for the first time where women can go to their girlfriends.. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I don't think is even remotely true. If it was true a woman would only be on a site for one day and she would have found the man to build a life with. Finding someone you are compatible with isn't easy for both sexes.. Many of the women I went out with years ago are still dating and still online.. I am married now to someone I met on match. Looks like I was playing the game on the easy mode Fidning love obviously is equally as hard with genders but finding dates is much easier for the average single women then Man.. AS a single guy unless youre good looking you have to put yourself out there and face numerous rjections in hoping to just get one yes to go on a date while most women just sit back and wait and filter who they wanna give a chance to date them.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovecake Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Men tend to deal with their emotions more aggressively than women. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I don't think is even remotely true. If it was true a woman would only be on a site for one day and she would have found the man to build a life with. Finding someone you are compatible with isn't easy for both sexes.. Many of the women I went out with years ago are still dating and still online.. I am married now to someone I met on match. Looks like I was playing the game on the easy mode You are talking about finding a life long partner. That could be equally difficult for a man and a woman. But dating casually? There is no comparison. It is so much easier for a girl to find a date then a man it's ridiculous. If a girl is at least cute, and has a good personality she could date as many men in a week as she wanted. She's also in complete control of whether sex happens or not. She has power. One thing I'm currently having trouble with is my jealousy of how easy women have it. Last week I had one date with one girl. After looking at her FB page she apparently had four "dates" with four different guys, me included. She's also the only girl I've gone out with in the past two months... Link to post Share on other sites
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 I like that almost every single reply has been from a dude. Maybe there are just way more men on the site. Or it could be the avatar and subject line. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted August 17, 2010 Author Share Posted August 17, 2010 Wow. Good quality responses so far. I probably spoke too soon I have seen some women being bitter in the porn threads, but I never post on there because I basically love porn myself and have never had an issue with SO watching it. I have briefly visited SoSuave. WOAH. Men that post in that place must live in an alternate universe. The amount of women hating going on in there is Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 Who hatin'? Not moi. I can't speak for other men. I lament my circumstances, situations and choices. But the one thing I keep seeing on LS that I totally find myself in complete disagreement with is projection of traits on to an entire gender. I have made it my ethic to see the world as one of uniqueness of the individual. It is only the notions and social defaults that I would put on trial and not "women", "men" or any such gross over-simplification. Telling one's self these sweeping generalizations is a way of enforcing validation of one's own plight and excusing the self from testing and retesting actual reality. Viva uniqueness of the human being and to hell with stereo-typification. Amen. I'm so effing tired of all the generalised statements about women on this board. I am constantly being told that because I am a women, I by definition can not stay faithful, just go on dates to get cheap meals, leave relationships for no good reason whatsoever, get married because I want someone to provide a house and pay the bills, have no capacity to commit, have unrealistic expectations of marriage, don't provide enough sex, withhold sex as a means of gaining power, am too emotional, am too feminist, am trying to make men into women, am trying to control my partner and making him into a door mat, am manipulative and calculating and plan my divorce years ahead. ... and men get the same with a different set of characteristics (but I agree, possibly with less display of bitterness). Link to post Share on other sites
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