Charlie Digital Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 Hey guys, I have a little question. Okay, things have been going well with my ex. Ive been going over there to see my son and take him places, and when I go over there, she talks to me alot, to the point where it doesn't seem like she wants me to go home. I'll be like, yeah I gotta work tonight, she'll seem all dissapointed.. Also, a couple trips ago she actually asked me to have another kid with her. Strange, I know but, one would think that meant she wanted me back but... Since that conversation, she has been rather cold, well I wont say cold but, more like she was before.. Hard to explain I guess but, she's not as warm and flirty like she was before.. Does anyone have any ideas as to why she's like this now? Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 When she asked you what was your reaction? Did you react like "hell no" or "whoa there" or like "well now that you mention it"? Have you tried to talk to her since then about it or has she tried to talk to you. Maybe you made her think that she was a total nut for asking. You have to tell us what you reaction was. Thats the piece to this puzzle. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 She might want you back. We'd need to know a lot more...why did you break up, how long have you been apart, is there someone else for either of you, how old is your kid, how long were you together, were you married, was the pregnancy planned, etc. Do you want to get back with her? Have you both dealt with whatever issues broke you up in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 I see what you guys mean.. sorry for that.. Well, we were together for 4 years.... broke up like a year ago, shes seen other people, as have I. Umm, I'm 23, she's 21 (5 year old son) my reaction to her question was, something to the effect of, there's not many things on this earth that I wouldn't do for you, so of course I will. (stupid answer. i was trying to play it smooth then she dropped that on me ) and we weren't married.. I hope that helps because I sure do need some advice Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 Also (i left out a couple things) we broke up because she thought I was too lazy, had no drive, didn't care about her feelings etc... and as crazy as it may sound... the pregnancy was planned! I was 17, she was 15 (kids, eh) Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Originally posted by Charlie Digital Also (i left out a couple things) we broke up because she thought I was too lazy, had no drive, didn't care about her feelings etc... and as crazy as it may sound... the pregnancy was planned! I was 17, she was 15 (kids, eh) That does sound crazy. Is there a difference between "intentional" and "planned" ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker That does sound crazy. Is there a difference between "intentional" and "planned" ? ahhh very true dyer..... intentional is a much better word. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 we broke up because she thought I was too lazy, had no drive, didn't care about her feelings etc... OK, that helps a bit. Do you agree with her assessment of you? Is it either accurate, or can you at least maybe see why she would think those things if they aren't true? Are (both of) you ready, willing, and able to change whatever was keeping your relationship from thriving? I'll tell you my reaction to your situation. You definitely got an early start with the planned teen pregnancy. I imagine that money is a bit tight...and that your son and you would be happier if all three of you were together. I don't know about her at this point. You're both still young, and if you have had a fairly good relationship so far, I see a lot of value in trying to put your lives back together as a family. It's a positive sign that she talked to you about another kid, even though she's seeing someone else. That means she sees you as the natural father of her children. If you can show her with your actions that you are also a reliable partner for her to build a future with, including care for her feelings, you may be able to put your family back together. It's worth a serious try. Please check out <URL removed> to see how both of you can do better at giving the other what he/she needs. Good luck, please keep posting as often as you need to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Charlie Digital Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 even though she's seeing someone else. No, that's the thing, she's free! She doesn't have a boyfriend or anything (she's gone out of her way to tell me that atleast 3 times) But I do love her alot, and I realize that I was all those things she said were the reason of our breakup and over the year or so, I believe I've done the best I can in order to change... for myself first. then for her. and thanks for the link, I'll be looking on it alot. Link to post Share on other sites
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