Jump to content

BF issues - planning ahead & birthday gifts


Scarlett513

Recommended Posts

I've been dating my bf on and off for going on about a year now. The pattern seems to be that his inconsiderate behavior pushes me to a point where I end it, and then he begs to have me back, full of promises & apologies. Despite my reservations, I take him back bc for whatever reason I'm crazy about him.

 

I'm a person who loves gift-giving and so I have given him very thoughtful gifts for special occasions in the past. On the other hand, part of his Christmas gift to me was a dinner out that never materialized and on valentine's day he left my house telling me he had to go to the mall that day to get me a gift. Then we had take out for dinner while we watched tv on the couch. My birthday was better and we weren't technically together at the time. He took me out for a nice dinner but no card or gift. I don't mean to sound ungrateful as it's not about money spent but about the thought put into a gift. Anyway his birthday is now coming up and I don't know how to handle it. Part of me doesn't want to make a big deal over him bc of his past behavior. The other part of me wants to make him feel special on his birthday and do something thoughtful. Also I don't want to set a precedent where we no longer give gifts to one another. What would you do?

 

Also, when you ask someone to "let you know" if they are free to hang out on a particular day, how long is appropriate for them to get back to you? Bf and I have differing opinions on this and it infuriates me to no end when it takes him hours to days to give me a simple yes or no.

Edited by Scarlett513
Link to post
Share on other sites
×
×
  • Create New...