onesadgirl Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 I have written quite a few times on the same situation.... My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me out of the blue and slept with his ex! I was devasted! I made myself sick, I didn't eat or sleep, and I cried buckets of tears! We had a pretty good relationship, an argument now and then but who doesn't. We've been living together for about 3 1/2 years.... Things were great, we were even talking about marriage and kids! Its been 3 weeks since the breakup and I followed the no contact rule. He has been calling me and we have had some heart to heart talks. On Valentine's Day he showed up with flowers and we stayed up talking until 5am! He wants a second chance. I'm so afraid of being hurt again! He swears this will never happen again, how do I know? I love him with all my heart and want him back but I don't want the pain of a broken heart ever again! Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 It is up to you, whether or not he is a risk worth taking. Link to post Share on other sites
KitWalker Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 This thread is all about second chances, you can read countless threads of people (like myself) who beg to get that 2nd chance, who want to make things different than how they were and just have that small glimmer of hope to allow ourselves and the ex get back together and make our lives great! What have you got to lose giving him a 2nd chance? You're crying and hurting without him at the moment.... if you believe in your heart that you two could make it work.....i know what I would be doing.... Link to post Share on other sites
mfrmboy Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Ive been there second chance third chance. Before you even try again ask yourself can I trust him? If he did it once will he do it again? If he's late comming home or if you cant reach him on the phone what will you be thinking? If there is no trust then there is no reason to even try. I know that in my recent past relationship of 7yrs. after he left and came back then left again and back again. Then left again but this time I wont let him back in Im trying to be friends with him but the pain is still there. It's impossible to forgive and forget. You may forgive but you will never forget. If you feel that you can trust him and believe that he would never do it again then go for it. Good Luck and take it slow. Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=olive][/color] Okay, what you have to ask yourself is was he sleeping with her before you broke up? Did he break up with you just to sleep with her? or did that just happen because he had broken up with you and was single. Maybe she was contacting him and he thought that he might still have feelings for her and then after the bleeps between the sheets he realized that it was you he loves and really had just needed some sort of closure with this other girl. Maybe he had doubts during your whole relationship and now he wont. OOORRRR, maybe she just called him up, he knew what would happen, broke up with you so it wouldnt be cheating and now he wants you back becuase that was just bleeping and you are love. Either way, you KNOW him and you have to decide if you think he would do it again or not. If you truly do not think so then yes give him a 2nd chance. And then if it happens again at least you tried and Hey, heartbreak only takes months to get over, not like always wondering what if. Link to post Share on other sites
Pretteangel Posted February 20, 2004 Share Posted February 20, 2004 It will happen again! If you take this man back it is like saying to him "oh it is ok that you can dump me and sleep with your ex, because I take you back with open arms" He will loose the little respect he may have for you. And yes, doing what he did is totally disrespectful to you! Move on and find a man that truly loves you! Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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