Hmm, Not so sure. You tell me.

[Ninja Extordinaire]

I was just wondering what to do in this situation.

 

Broke up with Gf on Tuesday last week, wasn't destroyed but was more dissapointed to say the least cuz we got along so well.

 

She ended up calling me on Saturday and I finally got to the bottom of WHY we broke up and found out it was because Im still friends with my ex.

 

Now this Gf was cheated on by EVERY guy that she dated (My first reaction was "Awww..crap.) and ASSUMED I would of done the same. Now I know myself, I also know that I never cheat on ppl.

 

There was never any chance of anything with my ex because she respects me.

 

My recent Gf of course doesn't know this we were only together 2 months.

 

SO..

 

After talking to her on Sat, she isn't so sure she made the right choice in breaking up with me. I said I never did anything in the first place and found it retarded but understood the reason why she got so defensive. I saw her tonight, and things were of course different. Not that extremely different, but its the fact that she used to show a lot of emotion (hugs n kisses which is what I like AND I recipricated) and now I have a feeling if I pursue this again, shes going to put on that nice shell of armor.

 

I know I have a choice to not pursue this again, but we do get along great, and tonight was the first night I saw here since the breakup and we did kiss and she said she missed me, but I don't want to get suckered.

 

Should I give it a couple of days and test the waters? Swim elsewhere if its too cold?

 

 

P.S My Ex the "Friend", it's not like I saw her more than my acutal GF, and I only saw her once during the whole 2 months with this new girl. Just thought I'd clarify.

[Darkangelism]

Yeah give it a few days, see what she wants to do, if bad, move on.

[ldybg51]

You should not wait. This will reinforce her idea that you may have been with this other girl. I know it is weird but if she is insecure then her mind is making all kind of things up right now. You have most definitely got to make her see that you care for her and want to be with her and prove to her. Obviously if she is this upset then she didnt realize that you and your ex were still friends, which you should have been honest about up front but If it just wasnt that big a deal then make her see that. But most assuredly do not wait. Prove to her SHE is the important one.