Broke it off for good and it doesnt feel good!

[9Lives]

I did it actually Tuesday. I told him if he knew for certain we was not getting back together, Im ready to let this go. He said we arent. I said okay. He then called instantly. He sounded a little uneasy. We talked for about 2 hours about everything and I just let him know Im not upset but Im ready. He seem to have some reservations, he listened alot and talked alot. I was fine.

 

Yesterday, he came to get his shirts about 8pm. He stayed until 1130pm. We didnt have any action. Just chilling and didnt talk about the relationship or anything. I was cool and calm. I told him I will miss him alot and to take care. Peace.

 

 

Today I am fine but I feel a little sad. I have read my book about addiction to someone already so I know I did the right thing. Nothing has changed and Im not going to stick around for anything else. He described what the relationship would be like if it continued and I know Im not going for it. Why do I feel sad? I dont know.

 

But I wanted to say to others who have to make "logical" decisions against the "heart" for a better future, you are not alone. You can do it too. Dont be like me. I dragged this out for 3 years!!! right here on LS...right here!

 

 

NC= No new pain!!!! Im happy about that. This pain has a time limit! Do yourself a favor and let go. If that person says they dont want to be together anymore, then work on getting thru THAT pain. It has a limit.

 

So many people...and it almost happen to me...get STUCK in the past. Years and years. Its so crazy....(not to mention a DATED hair style..yuk!) lol....anyway if we will go with the flow and let things go sometimes, we probably would find that happiness again if we let it happen. But at the end of the day.....it is up to you. You have to develop trust in yourself that you will have good love again. If it can happen to your crappy ex....it definately can happen for us.

 

I just need to stay strong and keep going forward. But today Im a little sad.

 

By the way, my ex has a new chic and she aint go nothing. He said some things that let me know. He is selfish with her too and she has to do things on his terms as well. Im better off!!

[BeagleGal]

Girl, you did the right thing, and you know it and that's a great. I understand you feeling sad. There's nothing wrong with that. Last couple of days I've been feeling a bit down too. But thankfully its not the same kind of pain or sadness I first felt and so that tells me I'm starting to heal finally.

 

You feel sad cause its a loss. This person was in your life for 3 years. He became routine/habit/addiction and to now cut that out of your life, its hard. I totally get it. But it was for the best.

 

With crappy exes, their terms/behavior rarely change, if ever. This new girl is just another whose enabled his selfish ways and he'll use her the way he did you. Its a pattern. Just like my ex.

 

Do something nice for yourself today and be happy that you got rid of someone toxic from your life.

 

 

I did it actually Tuesday. I told him if he knew for certain we was not getting back together, Im ready to let this go. He said we arent. I said okay. He then called instantly. He sounded a little uneasy. We talked for about 2 hours about everything and I just let him know Im not upset but Im ready. He seem to have some reservations, he listened alot and talked alot. I was fine.

 

Yesterday, he came to get his shirts about 8pm. He stayed until 1130pm. We didnt have any action. Just chilling and didnt talk about the relationship or anything. I was cool and calm. I told him I will miss him alot and to take care. Peace.

 

 

Today I am fine but I feel a little sad. I have read my book about addiction to someone already so I know I did the right thing. Nothing has changed and Im not going to stick around for anything else. He described what the relationship would be like if it continued and I know Im not going for it. Why do I feel sad? I dont know.

 

But I wanted to say to others who have to make "logical" decisions against the "heart" for a better future, you are not alone. You can do it too. Dont be like me. I dragged this out for 3 years!!! right here on LS...right here!

 

 

NC= No new pain!!!! Im happy about that. This pain has a time limit! Do yourself a favor and let go. If that person says they dont want to be together anymore, then work on getting thru THAT pain. It has a limit.

 

So many people...and it almost happen to me...get STUCK in the past. Years and years. Its so crazy....(not to mention a DATED hair style..yuk!) lol....anyway if we will go with the flow and let things go sometimes, we probably would find that happiness again if we let it happen. But at the end of the day.....it is up to you. You have to develop trust in yourself that you will have good love again. If it can happen to your crappy ex....it definately can happen for us.

 

I just need to stay strong and keep going forward. But today Im a little sad.

 

By the way, my ex has a new chic and she aint go nothing. He said some things that let me know. He is selfish with her too and she has to do things on his terms as well. Im better off!!

[9Lives]

Thanks B! Im soooo happy that I am stronger and I did a good thing for me. Yeah it a loss but its a bigger loss for him. I know that. When I looked at him yesterday and heard his conversation, I was like wow. I just cant deal with this crap anymore. So yeah, it the right thing, the best thing, a good thing. All the above. Im ready and Im not turning back.

 

If I get weak...KICK MY ASS!!!! ...ALLL YOU GUYS ON HERE.

Unless he is coming with some realness....they hardly ever do....get in my ass!

 

lol

 

No but really, Im gonna make it. I know I will.

[BeagleGal]

No probs! I'm so glad to hear you are happy, strong and feeling good about your decision. Of course, its always a bigger loss for them, especially when they are the ones that screw up and realize that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. But who cares about them. Who cares if they realize that its their loss and not ours. Just think of it like they did us a huge favor by being a**holes...

 

Same here, if I ever post something like "I miss my ex" and "I want to talk to him or text him", set me straight. Remind me that he's a worthless piece of sh*t, that he's a cheating, lying pussy and that I dont need to be "missing" him AT ALL. Ha!

 

Girl, they dont know the meaning of the word "real" so dont even expect it... (not like you are).

 

Of course, you'll make it, we all will. It just takes some time is all.

 

Thanks B! Im soooo happy that I am stronger and I did a good thing for me. Yeah it a loss but its a bigger loss for him. I know that. When I looked at him yesterday and heard his conversation, I was like wow. I just cant deal with this crap anymore. So yeah, it the right thing, the best thing, a good thing. All the above. Im ready and Im not turning back.

 

If I get weak...KICK MY ASS!!!! ...ALLL YOU GUYS ON HERE.

Unless he is coming with some realness....they hardly ever do....get in my ass!

 

lol

 

No but really, Im gonna make it. I know I will.