Overweight and man boobs, how much difficulty in the dating world?

[Labster12]

Not a problem with me but a problem with my friend. Both of us used to be a bit overweight, well I was overweight and he was obese back in our freshman year of high school. I managed to lose a lot of weight and now my BMI is around 23 percent, I don't have a six pack unfortunately but I manage to keep myself in shape.

 

Well my friend is also Indian (India) and he had much more strict parents than I did. His parents would not let him work out too much, they kept him inside the house and told him to study and quit worrying about his weight it will soon take care of itself and they often yelled at him for working out and eating healthy, his mom took it as an insult to her cooking. I am going to be honest folks but Indian parents, generally speaking, are not the best type of parents to have, traditional that is.

 

 

Now after his 10th grade year, his parents eased out a little. His BMI has dropped from 28 percent to 25 percent. He is about 5"11 and weights around 181 lbs. Here is an issue though.

 

1. He has man boobs, like his chest tends to sag a little, not as noticeable when he has clothes on but when we saw him take his shirt off at the beach you could see them.

2. He still has a minor potbelly sticking out, at times it is really small, doesn't stick out all the way but it does stick out a little, basically, not a flat stomach or six pack.

 

How big of an issue would this be for him in the dating world? He is 18, parents said that after 18 he can date any girl he wants.

[fit]

well I think the more approprite statement would be "he could date any girl who would be willing to accept man boobs"

I think in general woman are more accepting of men's physical shortcomings than vice versa. But if it bothers him I am sure he can sneak in some push ups and running here and there to get rid of the boobs. How could his parents possibly keep track of that ?

[Labster12]

well I think the more approprite statement would be "he could date any girl who would be willing to accept man boobs"

I think in general woman are more accepting of men's physical shortcomings than vice versa. But if it bothers him I am sure he can sneak in some push ups and running here and there to get rid of the boobs. How could his parents possibly keep track of that ?

 

Thing is he has been doing push ups for 2 months and still the moobs are not going away, well that is what I have seen him do at the Y.

[Yamaha]

Thing is he has been doing push ups for 2 months and still the moobs are not going away, well that is what I have seen him do at the Y.

 

You cannot spot reduce weight. Doing push ups will not reduce weight in the chest area. He will have to continue with exercising. Over time he will lose the fat if his moobs are not a hormonal issue.

 

I don't know of many women who would like a guy with boobs. Some might be accepting but not many.

[Labster12]

You cannot spot reduce weight. Doing push ups will not reduce weight in the chest area. He will have to continue with exercising. Over time he will lose the fat if his moobs are not a hormonal issue.

 

I don't know of many women who would like a guy with boobs. Some might be accepting but not many.

 

so he is basically screwed in the dating world

[GrayClouds]

so he is basically screwed in the dating world

 

Not at all, as long as his wallet is bigger then the boobs, he is golden.

 

http://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/anythingspossible.jpg

 

 

 

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[Labster12]

what was the link for?

[USMCHokie]

what was the link for?

 

I can only venture to guess that it was for a motivational picture or poster of some sort saying that "anything is possible!" Perhaps it has a kitten on it doing something CRAAAAZEEEEE!

[Labster12]

I can only venture to guess that it was for a motivational picture or poster of some sort saying that "anything is possible!" Perhaps it has a kitten on it doing something CRAAAAZEEEEE!

 

oh, and by the way, I think if you check out the dating section you may have a reason to be mad at me Dx

[Feelin Frisky]

Weight is one thing but a guy who lactates is another. All I can say is I'm glad I don't have jugs.

[Eeyore79]

I don't particularly care if a guy is overweight, as long as he isn't absolutely obese. My bf has a BMI of 29 and I think he's lovely

[GrayClouds]

Not at all, as long as his wallet is bigger then the boobs, he is golden.

 

http://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/anythingspossible.jpg

 

 

 

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Try it again:

 

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_8fpFPfje7fI/SsCATMqZt5I/AAAAAAAAAA8/kG05Rd2EbXA/s320/anythingspossible.jpg

 

See as long as the guy has other a$$ets, he will have no problems.

[USMCHokie]

Try it again:

 

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_8fpFPfje7fI/SsCATMqZt5I/AAAAAAAAAA8/kG05Rd2EbXA/s320/anythingspossible.jpg

 

See as long as the guy has other a$$ets, he will have no problems.

 

Yea...that is much more motivational than any kitten poster I've ever seen...

[WintersNightTraveler]

How big of an issue would this be for him in the dating world? He is 18, parents said that after 18 he can date any girl he wants.

 

Labster I think you already know the answer to your questions.

 

Everything else being equal moobs are a considerable minus in terms of dating. Of course however, this does not equate to "basically screwed", as you kind of dramatically declared...

 

Also note that BMI is not measured in *percent* as you called it. It is an index, not a percent. It's an important point because BMI (Body Mass Index) and body fat percentage are very different, and if you interchange the units of measurements you might confuse yourself or others. It's not unusual to have a BMI in the mid 20's and body fat below 10 and be in great shape. A BMI of 25 is not really very bad at all, whereas a body fat percentage of 25 is nearly obese for an 18 year old male.

 

Anyway the best answer to your questions is just for your friend to continue his improved diet and exercise and then the question won't matter. 5'11 180lbs is a great starting point and he's the perfect age to make huge rapid improvement. Many male posters here are probably already jealous of his height! So you and your friend shouldn't sweat it too much. Just cut out any fast food / total junk food and also add some running and sit-ups to those push-ups and his moobs will be gone in no time.

[Labster12]

Actually he is 6 ft, he does run as much as he can, and he looks skinny and fit with his clothes on, I mean it is not like he has a belly bulging out or anything.

 

If anything a lot of people have said he looks sort of buff.

[GrayClouds]

Actually he is 6 ft, he does run as much as he can, and he looks skinny and fit with his clothes on, I mean it is not like he has a belly bulging out or anything.

 

If anything a lot of people have said he looks sort of buff.

 

Come on, your "friend" is you. As long as you are kind, confident, and willing to put yourself out there, there will be someone who sees past whatever weakness there are and appreciate the strengths you have to offer.

 

I had more success at picking up ladies when I was my heaviest then I did then years before when I was running 50+ miles a week. The difference was I began to like myself despite not being perfect.

Edited August 23, 2010 by GrayClouds

[Labster12]

dude no, it is not me, like really not me

[In_Repair]

Bench presses and butterflies. Eating better and burning more calories will eventually lessen the "bitch tits", but bulking up the muscles underneath them will broaden the base and make them appear flatter. Just like doing squats isn't going to remove that fat ass you've had following you around for years, toning up the muscles will give it a better shape.

[tman666]

Gynecomastia, perhaps?

[Green]

If it isn't obviouse that he has man boobs with his clothes on then it won't effect his dating at all. As a friend you should only say posotive things.

 

He could easily date who ever he wants if he looks fit with clothes on.

[Labster12]

do you guys wanna see pics so you can judge whether or not he is fat?

[Green]

do you guys wanna see pics so you can judge whether or not he is fat?

 

You kinda sound like a bad friend if you would be willing to post pics of him to random people in an internet forum to see if he is fat.

 

Even if he is fat like 400lbs fat, if he could still leave the house and interact with people he would have a good chance in the dating world.

 

You describe him as a tall young guy who looks fit in his clothing and does well in school. Really the biggest obstacle to his dating would be himself and lack of experience as a youngman.

 

Seriously if he is 6ft tall and does well in school he will no doubt do fine in the dating worl. He will probably continue growing until he is 20 or 21 also... so really he could end up 6'1 or 6'2.

 

He has a bright future in dating and really why are you so worried about your friend and dating. You should just encourage him to have fun with dating and not worry about it. Nothing really to wory about.

[Labster12]

I just feel a bit bad for him, like he wants a girlfriend but at the same time he is picky about things like race and ethnicity. We are in a mostly Black and White area and he wants to date a Latina, Asian girl, Indian girl or Italian girl (he considers Italians and some Europeans to be other types of Whites).

 

I mean I was picky about race but I dated two White girls for the heck of it, even though I wasn't attracted I dated for the sake of knowing them and experiencing that chance but he won't even date Black or White girls.

 

Thing is he tells me he is just more attracted to the foreign spice or whatever. Anyways, thanks.

 

Ya know, I noticed something, unlike other sites, people on this site are actually really helpful and tolerant as well.

[Green]

my advice is don't feel bad for him and don't let him feel bad for himself around you. He has every chance in the world to get a girl if he just TRIES. Most important thing is he just enjoys himself and not stress about it.

 

He should be picky, not unreasonably so, but he should only go after girls he is attracted to.

[skydiveaddict]

Not a problem with me but a problem with my friend. Both of us used to be a bit overweight, well I was overweight and he was obese back in our freshman year of high school. I managed to lose a lot of weight and now my BMI is around 23 percent, I don't have a six pack unfortunately but I manage to keep myself in shape.

 

Well my friend is also Indian (India) and he had much more strict parents than I did. His parents would not let him work out too much, they kept him inside the house and told him to study and quit worrying about his weight it will soon take care of itself and they often yelled at him for working out and eating healthy, his mom took it as an insult to her cooking. I am going to be honest folks but Indian parents, generally speaking, are not the best type of parents to have, traditional that is.

 

 

Now after his 10th grade year, his parents eased out a little. His BMI has dropped from 28 percent to 25 percent. He is about 5"11 and weights around 181 lbs. Here is an issue though.

 

1. He has man boobs, like his chest tends to sag a little, not as noticeable when he has clothes on but when we saw him take his shirt off at the beach you could see them.

2. He still has a minor potbelly sticking out, at times it is really small, doesn't stick out all the way but it does stick out a little, basically, not a flat stomach or six pack.

 

How big of an issue would this be for him in the dating world? He is 18, parents said that after 18 he can date any girl he wants.

 

 

Your friend just needs to hit the gym and eat right, he could be in shape in three months, Flat gut and no man boobs. at his age very easily done.