How does it feel?

[DinaRahmad]

How does it feel to be in a long distance relationship? I'm in one and I just wanna hear your stories. Write about anything. How you feel? How it affects you and stuff. I wanna see whether I can relate to it. Whether anybody else feels the same way as I am. It could be interesting.

[EmmieH]

On some days, it feels like you are walking on cloud nine, knowing that somewhere out there, there is somebody who loves and cares about you in a way you never thought possible.

 

On some days, it feels like your heart is being torn to itty-bitty-bits, because that person who loves and cares about you is not here with you, right now.

 

And then there's those days you're together... And those days, words cannot describe.

[madjac74]

On some days, it feels like you are walking on cloud nine, knowing that somewhere out there, there is somebody who loves and cares about you in a way you never thought possible.

 

On some days, it feels like your heart is being torn to itty-bitty-bits, because that person who loves and cares about you is not here with you, right now.

 

And then there's those days you're together... And those days, words cannot describe.

 

I think emmie said it perfectly. I'll add that it's a heavy feeling in your chest when you're missing her. Butterflies when you think about her. And when you're together nothing else matters and those memories of being together comfort you when you're apart. Smiling at a simple text, lighting up when she calls, randomly laughing about something she said earlier. When someone can do that to you I dont think any distance would matter.

[HeavenOrHell]

Assuming you're with the right person, which I feel I am, when you're feeling positive about it it feels fantastic, magical, amazing, loving, sexual, beautiful, special. I love looking forward to seeing him.

When I'm feeling negative about the distance/our future, I feel sad, I overthink too much, frustrated, insecure, that maybe life is too short (I'm in my 40's) to be missing someone badly for years possibly, depressed, lonely, I worry that I can't handle it, I hate not being able to be there for him if he needs support.

BUT, when I get a sweet text or email or a call or he appears on msn, or a card though the post, and when we meet, then all those negative thoughts/feelings just aren't there.

If that person is special to you then they are worth all the difficulties which a LDR can bring, they are worth waiting for

 

 

How does it feel to be in a long distance relationship? I'm in one and I just wanna hear your stories. Write about anything. How you feel? How it affects you and stuff. I wanna see whether I can relate to it. Whether anybody else feels the same way as I am. It could be interesting.

[DinaRahmad]

How about when you finally get to see them and you feel the happiest of all. You get to do everything with them. You feel complete in a way. You get used to them being around that easy, even if it's for awhile. Then, they have to leave again and it could be probably months or weeks till you see them again. How do you deal with that? Seeing them come and go? Do you feel like it gets harder each time?

[aerogurl87]

Some days it sucks, I'm not going to lie. Especially when we have a disagreement and he's not here to hug me when it's all over or when one of us is having a horrible day. In addition to that knowing he's 2,000 miles away and I'm here, just missing him every single day is horrible. Yep all that sucks.

 

But then we have days like today (when his uncle confirmed that he'll give him 3 weeks off of work so we can spend every waking moment together ) that are awesome. Knowing that I finally found the person whom I can be myself around without them trying to change me, is great. Knowing he loves me and is faithful to me and not having trust issues is awesome. The feeling he gives me in my heart is inexplicable, and knowing how good it feels to be together in person makes it all worth it. We haven't seen each other since early June, but in 2 months I'll be flying up to see him on the day before my birthday, and then we'll have 3 weeks together. Just him and I, and I can't wait.

[aerogurl87]

How about when you finally get to see them and you feel the happiest of all. You get to do everything with them. You feel complete in a way. You get used to them being around that easy, even if it's for awhile. Then, they have to leave again and it could be probably months or weeks till you see them again. How do you deal with that? Seeing them come and go? Do you feel like it gets harder each time?

 

Leaving is the worst. When I left after my first visit to see my snugglewubby (his new nickname, hehe) he told me he was depressed for 2 weeks. I cried the entire plane ride back, but when I got back home I tried to suppress how sad I was by hanging out with my friends all summer. That is until one day it hit me, all the sadness and how much I missed him, and I cried like a little baby all night.

 

Being apart is hard, it's been almost 3 months since I last saw my boyfriend. But I think knowing when you'll see each other again makes it a little easier though, because then you have the anticipation keeping your spirits up. I know when my boyfriend and I were uncertain about when we'd see each other again, it was really hard as neither of us had something to look forward to and we everything was just so uncertain. Sure we knew we wanted to be together, but there was no real definite plan yet on when we'd be together again, let alone permanently. So having a visit planned definitely helps ease the pain.

[DinaRahmad]

Leaving is the worst. When I left after my first visit to see my snugglewubby (his new nickname, hehe) he told me he was depressed for 2 weeks. I cried the entire plane ride back, but when I got back home I tried to suppress how sad I was by hanging out with my friends all summer. That is until one day it hit me, all the sadness and how much I missed him, and I cried like a little baby all night.

 

Being apart is hard, it's been almost 3 months since I last saw my boyfriend. But I think knowing when you'll see each other again makes it a little easier though, because then you have the anticipation keeping your spirits up. I know when my boyfriend and I were uncertain about when we'd see each other again, it was really hard as neither of us had something to look forward to and we everything was just so uncertain. Sure we knew we wanted to be together, but there was no real definite plan yet on when we'd be together again, let alone permanently. So having a visit planned definitely helps ease the pain.

 

I feel you. I was like that too on my way back home. Just cried the whole time. That's the worst pain I have ever felt in my entire left. Going out with friends are great and helpful. No doubt. But like you said, it justs take that one day to hit you hard and you feel too miserable. And all you want and need is for him to be with you, right there and then.

 

I don't know why, but sometimes I feel tired of having to feel like this all the time. The feeling of missing him too damn much and there's just exactly nothing I can do to let go of all the feelings I have inside me. The furthest I could only do was just tell him. And that's it. This has been going on for some time now. And I don't think I have the strength and patience to go through it again and again. It's kinda depressing, really.

[Citizen Erased]

I feel you. I was like that too on my way back home. Just cried the whole time. That's the worst pain I have ever felt in my entire left. Going out with friends are great and helpful. No doubt. But like you said, it justs take that one day to hit you hard and you feel too miserable. And all you want and need is for him to be with you, right there and then.

 

I don't know why, but sometimes I feel tired of having to feel like this all the time. The feeling of missing him too damn much and there's just exactly nothing I can do to let go of all the feelings I have inside me. The furthest I could only do was just tell him. And that's it. This has been going on for some time now. And I don't think I have the strength and patience to go through it again and again. It's kinda depressing, really.

 

Are you guys planning on one moving closer anytime soon? It has been such a relief now we're on the way to ending the distance. The first time I left, I have never been so devastated in my life and I never want to feel that way again.And my heart goes out to you because I know exactly how you're feeling.

 

To answer your original question, my LDR makes me feel that we can get through anything together. The other half of me isn't here and I'm always thinking of him, aware of his presence in my life, and he makes me more fulfilled and happy than I have ever been. That's what keeps me going, the goodbyes and the occasional crying session and the intense need to feel his arms around me, they're all incredibly hard but I'll take it, because I know I have him despite it all.

[HeavenOrHell]

I'm lucky in this respect as we've met up every 6 weeks so far, we said we don't want to go longer than 2 months without meeting up, we're able to do this as we're only 500 miles apart, albeit in different countries. I feel a little tearful when we part, but also feel bouncy and happy from seeing him, that's what I feel most.

BUT if I wasn't going to see him for more than 2 months then I would seriously struggle with it and I would feel depressed, my heart goes out to those of you who don't get to meet often

 

 

How about when you finally get to see them and you feel the happiest of all. You get to do everything with them. You feel complete in a way. You get used to them being around that easy, even if it's for awhile. Then, they have to leave again and it could be probably months or weeks till you see them again. How do you deal with that? Seeing them come and go? Do you feel like it gets harder each time?

[aerogurl87]

Are you guys planning on one moving closer anytime soon? It has been such a relief now we're on the way to ending the distance. The first time I left, I have never been so devastated in my life and I never want to feel that way again.And my heart goes out to you because I know exactly how you're feeling.

 

To answer your original question, my LDR makes me feel that we can get through anything together. The other half of me isn't here and I'm always thinking of him, aware of his presence in my life, and he makes me more fulfilled and happy than I have ever been. That's what keeps me going, the goodbyes and the occasional crying session and the intense need to feel his arms around me, they're all incredibly hard but I'll take it, because I know I have him despite it all.

 

I agree with CE. If you have a plan set in place to be together soon, that'll help also. My boyfriend and I are going to try and get me a temporary work visa so I can move up to Canada with him this spring. If that falls through, I can still move up with him for up to 6 months without a visa though So more than likely I'll still be moving in with him, which when I think about it will be great. So if you don't have a definite date or a series of events that need to happen before you can move to be closer together, maybe you should talk to your SO about it. Having a plan to be together and working towards it together can also help make it easier being apart because then you know there's an end in sight.

[SouthernSunshine]

It really ****ing sucks!! I wanna see her more often, even for a quickie, but NO... she way over on the other side of town. Spontaneity is a little more difficult this way.

[LisaLee]

It really ****ing sucks!! I wanna see her more often, even for a quickie, but NO... she way over on the other side of town. Spontaneity is a little more difficult this way.

 

On the other side of town? Is that long distance?

 

But I agree, it sucks ass. Very few good points to it. My boyfriend is leaving today and I found it difficult to even fully enjoy the last two days because I knew that on Sunday I would be driving him to the airport and by tonight he will be 800 miles away from me AGAIN. I feel like the life that I would love to live with him is going by without him. Not to mention the dependency I have to my computer, my cell... it can be quite depressing.

 

My beacon of light is that our LD is slowly but surely coming to an end. This time next year we will be living together. It can't come soon enough.

[DinaRahmad]

Are you guys planning on one moving closer anytime soon? It has been such a relief now we're on the way to ending the distance. The first time I left, I have never been so devastated in my life and I never want to feel that way again.And my heart goes out to you because I know exactly how you're feeling.

 

To answer your original question, my LDR makes me feel that we can get through anything together. The other half of me isn't here and I'm always thinking of him, aware of his presence in my life, and he makes me more fulfilled and happy than I have ever been. That's what keeps me going, the goodbyes and the occasional crying session and the intense need to feel his arms around me, they're all incredibly hard but I'll take it, because I know I have him despite it all.

 

Well, we have actually. But it's a little bit more complicated cause I'm about to further my studies and he just got a great job. I'm not saying it's impossible. But everything's a little difficult when your folks has a hard time letting you go. They are supportive, relationship wise. But they think I'm not ready which I am. I am so ready, because me and my SO has been discussing it for awhile now, about everything in detail and we just couldn't stand being apart anymore. I mean, who wouldn't? We could only see each other once a year and he has to been the one coming down considering that my folks get too worried when i'm going to his place all alone. But we're trying to make anything and everything to work. And not give up on each other. So, that's pretty much a good thing, I guess.

 

As for my question, I know what you mean. You'll know that everything will be worth it in the end, all the tears, the sadness. Honestly, I feel that those couples in LDRs who makes it work are the most amazing couples ever. Cause it's hard. Not seeing each other all the time, be with each other. It takes strength, patience and trust and those qualities takes alot of work.

[DinaRahmad]

I'm lucky in this respect as we've met up every 6 weeks so far, we said we don't want to go longer than 2 months without meeting up, we're able to do this as we're only 500 miles apart, albeit in different countries. I feel a little tearful when we part, but also feel bouncy and happy from seeing him, that's what I feel most.

BUT if I wasn't going to see him for more than 2 months then I would seriously struggle with it and I would feel depressed, my heart goes out to those of you who don't get to meet often

 

You're really lucky. :) But 6 weeks as an overall is pretty long too.. I mean, some couples can go insane without meeting their SO for a day. But the thing about this LDRs is that it makes the next time you meet extra special. It'll be like getting the most amazing surprise birthday present ever! But getting to that "next time" is rather difficult cause you need all the patience and strength to get through each day.

[DinaRahmad]

I agree with CE. If you have a plan set in place to be together soon, that'll help also. My boyfriend and I are going to try and get me a temporary work visa so I can move up to Canada with him this spring. If that falls through, I can still move up with him for up to 6 months without a visa though So more than likely I'll still be moving in with him, which when I think about it will be great. So if you don't have a definite date or a series of events that need to happen before you can move to be closer together, maybe you should talk to your SO about it. Having a plan to be together and working towards it together can also help make it easier being apart because then you know there's an end in sight.

 

Yeh.. we're planning something alright! Can't stand it anymore. Makes me go all depressed and anti-social when I think about it which is really not me. It sucks having to feel like this all the time and having this "problem" in my head every waking moment. I really hope we can work something out soon. He's coming in 17 days for a month after not seeing him for 6 months. So I hope we can pretty much figure something out while he's here. Wish me luck!

[DinaRahmad]

On the other side of town? Is that long distance?

 

But I agree, it sucks ass. Very few good points to it. My boyfriend is leaving today and I found it difficult to even fully enjoy the last two days because I knew that on Sunday I would be driving him to the airport and by tonight he will be 800 miles away from me AGAIN. I feel like the life that I would love to live with him is going by without him. Not to mention the dependency I have to my computer, my cell... it can be quite depressing.

 

My beacon of light is that our LD is slowly but surely coming to an end. This time next year we will be living together. It can't come soon enough.

 

Awww. Yeh. I know how you feel. Being away again is just too much to handle. I cried every single time he has to go. EVERY TIME. It's like we never get use to it which is rather odd. I mean, it's like if you go to the gym everyday, you don't feel the pain anymore right? Well, this isn't like that. But yeh, I'm so with you when it comes to being VERY dependant on your computer and stuff. Sad, really. But they are what we need to keep it going.

[alm77]

sometimes it feels desperate, sometimes brilliantly uplifting and warm to the depth of my soul. he is my best friend, my confidant, the only man who has ever loved my completely and wholly, yet he is half a world away. i feel at times like the good times are a dream and that i awaken to a nightmare. other times i awaken with a skip in my step and i'm filled with the joy and anticipation of the mere thought of possibly gazing into his eyes once more, for even a moment. it truly is so heartbreakingly painful when your visit is over and you have to walk away. its over in an instant...what is always worse for me though is the waking up on the first few days back home. you feel sick, you sweat, you feel like you're going to hyperventilate because you have no control over it and know that you won't be back by their side for some time. just got back from a six week visit with my LDR. we are now on a break as he's unsure what he truly feels. he's confused by the distance, the time, it doesn't seem real as I said before, and i can appreciate this confusion that he is having. i experienced it in the beginning. i feel that LDRs can provoke any emotional that a human being es capable of experiencing, and on that note i'll just say that i've experienced some of the most amazing emotions with him during our journey. whether it works out in the end or not, i'd never go back and not have it the way we did, because the good feeling definitely has outweighed the bad. the suffering we all experience is a love-based suffering and i'd like to think that its most definitely worth it. for those of us who will make it through to the other side, we will be that much stronger in the end. i have faith in that. hugs and be strong!

[purpleone123]

How does it feel.. I too can relate to what a lot of people on here are saying about their LDRs. It makes me feel like I have a special treasure inside of me that's just for me.. that no matter what, that I have a guy in the world who loves me and I have a guy who I can love back. That might sound a little desperate but you meet who you meet, you love who you love.. I can't help who I fell in love with, my baby. He's in Costa Rica and I'm in Canada and it's really hard but I'm not looking to replace him with somebody closer by. I wrote my own article of advice for people who are in LDRs.. I'm not trying to force you to look but it's my own advice on how to make it work!! http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Long-Distance-Relationship-Ideas-You-Dont-Want-to-Miss-These

 

Good luck to everybody!!

[Romance]

I feel really, really sad a lot. Especially when I see my friends with their boyfriends, holding hands and walking to class and making plans to hang out nightly. Idk, it just feels unfair and i'm filled with jealousy often.

 

I am very bad at handling my ldr, i hate it.