kalena9488 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 unfortunately not! Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 yeah, i had kinda hoped for one too but my birthday is in a month..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author kalena9488 Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 Don't be surprised if you don't get one on your birthday either! I had hoped for that as well and he told me he would never ask on my birthday! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Sorry to hear that kalena, I know you had your hopes up. Have you talked to him on when he might propose? Its a fair question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kalena9488 Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 The answer to that is "one day"! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Well that really narrows it down. Ask him if its going to be this year or next. Don't be afraid to talk to him on where you two are headed. Try and do it in a light hearted manner, so that he doesnt feel pressured. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 How long have you two been together? Are you living together? The reason I ask is because I am currently in a 11 year relationship, living together. I always thought my boyfriend would propose to me as well, but he kept giving me that same answer as your partner is giving you, "one day". So here after 11 years I sit, and my "one day" has still not come yet. He now also says, "it's like we're married now anyways, why get married?". And I still get the "one day" answer now and then. I express to him that I only want something small and simple, just to make it official, he sometimes says "it's too expensive". I've heard all the excuses. So I suggest to you, if this is truly important to you, sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with him (don't apply pressure or ultamtums, just speak your mind and let him know this is something that you want for your future) or else you may end up in my shoes, 11 years down the road and still not married. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Originally posted by jmargel Ask him if its going to be this year or next. Don't be afraid to talk to him on where you two are headed. Try and do it in a light hearted manner, so that he doesnt feel pressured. I agree with jmargel. You DO have a right to know where the relationship is going after you've been with someone for a long period of time. Then again, he's in his rights not to give dates or make a future committment. To me though.... it would make a difference on if he just isn't ready or if he isn't sure you are the one. That's the question I would want him to answer if I were in your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
faith04 Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Hi silver, I'm new here. This site is great! Anyway, reading your response to this thread sounds all too familiar. I'm currently dating a man who is getting close to 29 yrs. old. I love him dearly. So sweet, makes me laugh....I just love him to pieces. I know he's the man I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with. At the beginning of the relationship, he talked about us moving in together, building a house, him taking care of me (he suggested that, not me....in fact! I told him I could take care of myself), and even after 3 months of being together looked at me and said "Honey, will you have my gorgeous babies?" I said maybe. He says Maybe? I said, well, we have to be married first. So our relationship goes on to a year. And it comes out....hits me like a ton of bricks! He says,"I like it the way I got it" He says he wants to be with me for the rest of his life, talks about us growing old together, blah, blah, blah.....But.....doesn't want to get married. And he doesn't say it's because he's afraid of divorce, or just plain scared. It's just plain old....I like it the way I got it. He says, why do we need a piece of paper? I explained to him that it's the fact that he would be committing himself in a deeper sense if we were to get married. Plus, I'd love to be able to look down at my finger and see the ring that would be a constant reminder of how much he loves me. We've been together for only 2 1/2 years. So, I can stand to wait and see if he changes his mind later on down the road. We're now planning on buying a house together. There's no doubt in my mind that he loves me with all his heart. He just doesn't want to get married as far as I can see. I was so upset about it for a long time. I got over it. All that matters to me now is that I have him in my life. I'm only 23 so I'm not exactly in a mad rush to get married. You never know, I may propose to him one day if I feel like he's changed his tune. You know I think one thing that may play a big part in him saying he just wants us to stay boyfriend/girlfriend forever......I once dated his second cousin, like 3 years before I met him. We had sex once. My honey knows all about it. He's said that it bothers him, but he's stayed with me regardless. Although, he makes jokes about it at times. He once told me that "if it wasn't for my having been with his cousin, we would have already been married or at least engaged". If anyone out there is reading this, especially a guy, I could use some insight. My boyfriend and I fit so perfectly and I don't forsee wanting to be with anyone else but him. I love him, he's my soulmate, my best friend, my sweetie. We even have "snuggly sunday's". He's the one that came up with that one. I'll have to post the whole story when I have more time, although I think I already went a little nuts! Taliho! Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 19, 2004 Share Posted February 19, 2004 Why don't you do the proposing? It is leap year. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted February 19, 2004 Share Posted February 19, 2004 It is a leap year..get in there ladies and propose yourself i you are so DESPEREATE to get married Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted February 19, 2004 Share Posted February 19, 2004 ooor that is freaky.... Link to post Share on other sites
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