6yr relationship repairable after cheating?

[Zoinkers]

Hello everyone, I just registered for this website because I have nowhere else I can immediately turn. I hope this will help shine some light on the subject and allow me to get some other meaningful points of view.

My story begins about 6 months ago when my girlfriend met a girl at work. We started hanging out with the new girl and her boyfriend. Months had past and we started to feel a very strong couples bond building with our new friends. We found ourselves hanging out every weekend and just having a wonderful time. Recently I started feeling very uncomfortable around my girlfriend, as if she was hiding something from me. I asked a few semi-jokingly times like 'are you hiding some?' or 'when are you going to tell me your secret?' but nothing ever came out of that. Last thursday at work I started adding things up and came to the conclusion in my head that my feeling was about her cheating and I was 100% sure something was going on. I confronted her that night and she said she did in fact have feelings for the other boyfriend but nothing ever happened. The next day she asked if we could have some wine and sit down and talk about it. Shortly after starting the conversation she said she had lied and something had in fact happened and she began to tell me 'everything'.

 

On July 4th we were at a party and it was around midnight. I wasn't feeling all that well and wanted to go home and the other girl also wanted to go home so I offered to take her home if her boyfriend would take my girlfriend home. 4 hours after me leaving the party they started talking, and ended up kissing. Things started to get heated and they moved into one of the spare bedrooms where they continued to make out. She took her shirt off ( down to her bra ) but he then decided it was going to far too fast and they should head home.

 

Weeks later the two couples took a trip to Portland for a brew festival they have down there every year. We decided to share a room so that the cost could be cut significantly. One of the nights after I had gone to bed ( and the other girlfriend ), they two of them continued to drink. Flirting continued as they passed her phone back and forth writing suggestive things. It eventually got to a point where she suggested leaving the room but he didn't want to do that because he knew they wouldn't come back. After that he pulled down his pants and showed his penis to her. Shortly after that he took her hand and placed it on his penis outside his shorts. Fortunately at that time I had to go to the bathroom and walk in on them, but they had already begun to seperate.

A few weeks later ( this being about 2-3 weeks ago ) we decided to go over to their house for a party. At around midnight I wanted to go home but she wanted to stay. I had to get up early for an engagement I had, so I was fine leaving here there because multiple people had offered to drive her home. She didn't make it home that night. After returning home from my morning activity she said she just got too drunk and everyone had left so she crashed on the couch. Her story now is that the night wore on and they continued to drink. At around 4am they got into the hot tub and started talking ( while the other girlfriend was passed out on the bed inside ). He then pulled her close and started to touch her vagina ( though she says he never did anything but touch ). She suggested they take it farther and she grabbed his crotch inside his pants but then quickly moved away.

 

They haven't talked since. She claims that she knows it was wrong and, although she says it isn't an excuse, she was always 'very drunk' when anything would happen. On the one hand they never had sex. On the other, I am almost certain they would have if she got her way. Thankfully he stopped it????

 

I don't really know what to do at this point. I know she loves me, but I can't help but feel this is just a prelude to something much worse down the road. We have been going out for 6 years and I know we have had our troubles, but I never thought cheating would be one of them. Her parents divorced because of infidelity, and we've seen how it can torture a relationship as it has with her brother and his fiance. I feel like a defacto answer is to just end it, but that is always easier said than done. Has anyone had something similar happen? Is there any light at the end of the therap tunnel?

[Kentucky Jelly]

Why bother? You are not married, no kids, she is obviously hot for another dude, she has destroyed any trust that once existed. cut her loose. Why volunteer for future problems that you don't need? End it.

 

Oh yeah, and tell the other girl about it as well, she needs to know.

[cesar13]

definitely tell the other girl

 

 

When it comes to sexual cheating , its a big no no. I'd NC for real.