Emily55555 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Alright this guy i Really like and have liked for the last 3 months....he finally told me he liked me...so i told him i felt the same... but the thing is...hes soo shy!!! and hasn't really had many girlfriends.. and he keeps telling me he wont go out with me until we're better friends. It really hurts to hear him say this. since we've been friends for quite a while. He sed close to the same thing about 2 weeks ago.. How long should I wait for him...i can't wait forever... he told me he doesn't want a gf because everyone will talk about it and say things... and also that hes afraid of getting dumped and feeling stupid. i just went out with 2 guys since the last 4 months.. and he told me he thinks that i dont really care who im going out with as long im going out with sumbudy.... that definatly aint true cuz i thought of everything i ever wanted in a guy and he was the first one and only one i could think of. i just want to be his gf and now im getting the feeling he just wants to be friends... what should i say to him??? i dont think i can wait.... i just want him to be mine & ive always known hes the perfect guy for me :'(..... Any suggestions? Help Thanx Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 How bout you ask him to go out with you, or try to find out why he thinks you need to be better friends first. Link to post Share on other sites
Wildchildnsc2 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Hun, I've been in your shoes before. I really like a guy, and he said he liked me too, but didn't want a relationship. The truth was that he didn't want a relationship with ME. Maybe you should let this one go. It will be better for your self esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
samantha28 Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Hi Emily, Now, it does seem that this guy is attracted to you. He may either feel pressured that he needs to ask you out because you discussed it with him...or he may have issues about himself. I think that you should give it some time. If you want to date other people, you should. You don't have a ring on your finger. If this guy really wants a relationship, he himself will come to you and ask you out. One thing I know for a fact is that men like to "chase" women. And once he starts seeing you confident and happy and dating other guys, then he will start realizing that he'd better act fast. And if he doesn't, then it's his loss. If you allow yourself to date other guys you may find somebody even better or he may ask you out...either way if you give it time, the outcome will be good. Link to post Share on other sites
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