"What the OW gets"

[Mimolicious]

Hey Ladies, (Mimo, I heart you.)

 

I have a couple hours before we leave, so what the heck.

Strawberry, I am sorry to disappoint you. However, I share your concerns. I've received PM's from newer members saying pretty much the same thing your post does, Strawberry (along with some really nice supportive ones too). I get nervous about PM's, because they are usually the ones with the subject, "Your post as been flagged for violating Community Guidelines," so I changed my PM status.

 

I asked the moderator to change the OP of this thread to leave my former status out, since it wasn't noted in my quote, and has very little to do with the topic at hand (other than to ridicule). Not only that, but it has been ages, literally hundreds of posts since I have posted as an OW. I asked the Mod if he would consider altering the OP to edit my past out of it. (Criticism of Moderation staff deleted here.)

 

Strawberry, it is an internet forum open to the public. I have discussed this with others. I have considered leaving LoveShack, and that looks like the most likely option. I was advised by others to stay, but to adopt a new username, leaving this one behind for good. I am uncomfortable with that because I have made friends here and do not wish to be dishonest with them.

 

I do not know what to tell you, but I appreciate your support.

 

WTH!???? Where are you going????? AGH! I tried to pm you but can't.

[pureinheart]

I did not want to comment before because I was scared of ridicule but I am really upset!

 

I read that quote somewhere else and I remembered it because it was kind of funny and really blunt! I remembered the name because I was a huge fan of a tv show that had a girl with that name. I was shocked to know that she was an other woman due to this thread. I don't come to this sight often to know each and every person or post. I don't think that was very fair to post information about another person! On other support sights we are allowed to quote posts within that thread but not other threads. I did not know quoting was so loosley allowed at this sight!

 

I am afraid that someone will quote something I said in another thread and someone will be mean about it like you guys are. I don't want that to happen to me! I should have thought allot more carefully about posting personal problems here but it was advertised as a caring close-knit community. It really is not.

 

One major rule of thumb is to not post personal info that is sensitive to you on ANY internet site....it would have been best to lurk a bit as some do to get a feel of the forum...

[pureinheart]

Hey Ladies, (Mimo, I heart you.)

 

I have a couple hours before we leave, so what the heck.

Strawberry, I am sorry to disappoint you. However, I share your concerns. I've received PM's from newer members saying pretty much the same thing your post does, Strawberry (along with some really nice supportive ones too). I get nervous about PM's, because they are usually the ones with the subject, "Your post as been flagged for violating Community Guidelines," so I changed my PM status.

 

I asked the moderator to change the OP of this thread to leave my former status out, since it wasn't noted in my quote, and has very little to do with the topic at hand (other than to ridicule). Not only that, but it has been ages, literally hundreds of posts since I have posted as an OW. I asked the Mod if he would consider altering the OP to edit my past out of it. (Criticism of Moderation staff deleted here.)

 

Strawberry, it is an internet forum open to the public. I have discussed this with others. I have considered leaving LoveShack, and that looks like the most likely option. I was advised by others to stay, but to adopt a new username, leaving this one behind for good. I am uncomfortable with that because I have made friends here and do not wish to be dishonest with them.

 

I do not know what to tell you, but I appreciate your support.

 

Hi JThorne,

 

I had noticed in your posts that you hated your past, and if I may be candid, although it's not meant to offend, it's really just an observation. It seemed to me like you were coming down hard on the issue of EMA's and the people involved in them. At first I was offended, not "personally" as it did not apply to me, but then realised it could be a self hatred and shame concerning the past.

 

There is not a person on this earth that has not done something they regret, wish they had not done...BUT it did happen, and that's ok because we are ALL HUMAN.

 

Having extremist tendancies myself, swinging that pendulum as far each way as I could without realising.

 

There is a desire in all of us to do things the right way, when we don't we become disappointed in ourselves and at times try to over compensate...I see this moreso in this forum, I do it myself.

 

As long as you know who JThorne is, then that is all that matters...you know I never told my mom why I D'ed my exH's....and she jacked with me about them and made fun of the D's...finally I told her that that was my past, period.

 

I think to try to "erase" your past will only bring it to the forefront that much more...now concerning LS, that is just one indication of the erasing effect...you are who you are, and you were who you were period, if people don't like that and are going to judge you based on your past, then that speaks quite loudly of their character. Man, if you had to deal with my past you'd really trip out.

Edited September 1, 2010 by pureinheart

[The Prophesy]

She never was an OW. She was a BS the whole time.

[2sure]

The long term posters that leave or consider leaving are often the most relevant, intelligent,self-reflecting posters and also those that have much to offer given their own experiences as well as their perceptions of others. Ive noted before how if you take some time to read someones pasts posts...you can actually follow along with the changes everyone who is sincerely trying to figure things out goes through.

 

Ironically, it seems to be those members who show no change , who repeat redundantly over years the same things - that most resent these posters and ultimately drive the intelligent and sincere away. Those posters that are continually defending and offending have only that to offer.

[2sure]

She never was an OW. She was a BS the whole time.

 

 

LOL!!!!!. See how clever we all are.

Oh - and maybe she was a MAN too!!

[Tony]

The long term posters that leave or consider leaving are often the most relevant, intelligent,self-reflecting posters and also those that have much to offer given their own experiences as well as their perceptions of others.

 

They also usually stay on the topic of the thread when they post. That's why I hate to see them go. Now, I'd like to know how the post partially quoted above relates to the OP.

[2sure]

If you will give me maybe half an hour I'm sure I'll come up with something.

[2sure]

I dont need a half an hour. As it turns out, It coincidentally has everything to do with the original post.