guest Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 I posted this else where but didn't get much response. PLease give me some opinions. OK, this is the situation. Me and my X girlfriend from 7 years ago are still friends. We spit up after she moved with her mom and have been friends ever sense. Ive always had some feelings for her and probably always will. Recently she moved closer to me ( a few hours) and our friendship really grew. Every few weeks we see each other and hang out, shoot pool, ect. Well, because she was sort of seeing someone and was in the process of breaking up with him I didn't try to advance any. I thought friends would be a great place to start and see if eventually I can get into her life as more. So I listned to her about her breakup and tried to remain friendly but not make her deal with my feelings while she was dealing with this breakup. Well, a few nights ago she was up and we all went to the bar and then back to a freinds house. This night she ended up sleeping with one of my friends. She is aware of the fact that this would have bothered me and she does know I still care about her and like her even if I was not saying it. I was waiting for her to move past her current breakup situation. I realize that we are just friends now but I think any friendship that started from a relationship in which feelings and emotions have been invested is going to be fragile. I really never expeted this and it is a big dissapointment in how I view her character. I mean, I know she still occasionaly is involved with her X. Plus, I realize that she could meet some one and go home with them. A stranger. The fact that she came after a friend feels very painful and not considerate on her part. Im not sure how I should handle the friendship from this point. Many people have said tell her to get lost and some have said that this is extreme. What should I do. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 She realizes now that Im pissed. She tells me she never realized that I would feel this way. She says she didn't know about my feelings and how i felt about her but I think this is bull. She says she would never have done it if she thought it would ruin our friendship. Im not sure how to react to her anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Wildchildnsc2 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 First off, lay it out in front of her: You find it distasteful that she would sleep with one of your friends. Tell her that you still have feelings for her and that you want to be with her. You two have a history, so maybe you should also consider looking back at your history. What made the two of you not work out the first time? What if it going to repeat itself this time? Quit thinking about the bad things she's done, go talk to her, and if she asks as if what she did was just fine, then I agree with the people that are telling you to give her the boot. Work things out buddy! Link to post Share on other sites
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