dlb311 Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR TWO AND HALF YEARS. WE ARE NOT RUSHING INTO ANYTHING. BUT WE BROKE UP FOR A LITTLE WHILE AND NOW BACK TOGETHER. I SAW HIS PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME AND HIS MOM WAS COLD AND STANDOFFISH TO ME. I WALKED IN AND SAID HELLO AND SMILED AND SHE SAID HI AND WALKED AWAY. HIS FATHER WAS NICE AND ASKED HOW I HAD BEEN. MY EX WAS THE ONE WHO BROKE UP WITH ME. BECAUSE HE GOT SCARED OF US MOVING TO FAST. WE WERE TOGETHER FOR TWO YEARS AND HE WAS PLANNING ON MOVING IN WITH ME. AND GETTING MARRIED SOON. BUT IT WAS TO SOON. WE ARE ONLY 22 AND 23. ITS YOUNG IN MY EYES. I DON'T WANT TO EVER GET DIVORCED SO I WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT ITS DONE RIGHT. BUT HE IS JEWISH AND I AM NOT. I AM NOT RELIGIOUS AT ALL. MORE LIKE HIS FAMILY IS JEWISH. HE ISN'T. BUT I WAS THINKING THAT MAYBE BECAUSE I AM NOT JEWISH AND NOW I AM BACK SO SHE KNOWS ITS SERIOUS BETWEEN US IT BOTHERS HER. I CAN TRY TO SIMPATHIZE WITH A MOTHER BUT I LOVE HIM AND I AM A GOOD PERSON. HE LOVES ME TOO AND WE WANT THIS TO WORK. BUT I FEEL LIKE I WILL NEVER BE A PART OF THE FAMILY LIKE HIS SISTERS HUSBAND IS. SHE WAS COLD TO ME WHEN WE FIRST STARTING DATING BUT THEN SHE WARMED UP TO ME AND LET ME IN. NOW I GUESS I HAVE TO START OVER. I WAS WONDERING IF ANYONE HAD GONE THROUGH THIS OR IS GOING THROUGH THIS AND HAS ANY ADDVICE. IT HURTS NOT TO BE WELCOMED IN SINCE I WAS VERY CLOSE TO HIS FAMILY BEFORE. IT TOOK TIME SO MAYBE IT WIL TAKE TIME AGAIN. SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING TO MY MAN? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 Oy gevalt... Well, my best friend's father told him "If you marry a girl who isn't Jewish, I won't be there." So perhaps this is the same sorta situation. It's not just Jewish parents, could be Christian, white, black, whatever parents who want their kids to marry inside their own race/religion. On one hand, you shouldn't live for anyone but yourself, don't live to make others happy. And on the other, it could cause strife and emotional problems, so it could be a dilly of a pickle. Personally, I saw f*ck'em. If you love each other, marry each other. Can't make everyone happy. Live for yourselves. Carpe diem! Lassez faire! E pluribus unim! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dlb311 Posted February 17, 2004 Author Share Posted February 17, 2004 thanks I am trying. its hard when you think you are not good enough. I know I am. its just thought I am way into family and want his family to be apart of ours. and not that they wouldn't be because I have been with him for a long time now and I know they can let that go (his mother) can let it go but I always wanted a close mother inlaw. I guess sometimes is just doesn't work out they way you dreamed. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Yeaaaaaah but things can change. Just be yourself. Hopefully they'll come to accept you and love you as one of their own children. Link to post Share on other sites
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