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Well, I now have a huge problem on my hands.

 

When me and my ex dated, she wanted me to teach her how to do MY LINE OF WORK. I am self-employed and she seemed to like what she seen as far as my job was concerned. She would always ask me to teach her how to do what I was doing, but I just shunned her off thinking she was not serious and also thinking that if I were to ever break up with her.....we would still have JOB ties. I did not see myself spending the rest of my life with her, so obviously being tied to her because she was dependent on me for job reasons was not to my liking. So I never showed her my job, or gave her an oppurtunity at it.

FAST FORWARD.

 

We have recently starting talking again. And work came up and she says that she is still very intereseted in doing what I am doing. Working side by side with her seeing her daily and helping her to do my job would be very hard to do since I have so many feelings for her. My main goal was to get her back, now that we have started talking again.........work got thrown into the mix. When I dated her, she would seriously get pissed at me because I would not show her my job. But I was thinking about other things at the time. I don't know how I could possibly work with her and just see her as a friend. I mean rewind 6 months (with my current state of mind) and I would have not minded showing her my line of work and we would have been fine. But now there are 2 things in the mix. I want her back, she would like to get out of her line of work that she is doing now...........but I find that it would be very hard for me to work with her just as "friends" and see her almost daily as just friends. I would be willing to show her my line of work, but being back with her was my main priority. Juggling the 2 now seems almost impossible.

 

I feel that if I tell her, "hey I cant train you because I have to many feelings for you" that she may see this as," so your saying I would have to be back with you, for you to train me".

Do you see what I am getting at here?

If we were back together and everything was fine, I would have no problems training her now. But were not back together.

What do I do???

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How does anyone in this world actually get together and stay together? Well, let me give my two pence. I think that you should train her. This is possibly her way of trying to spend time with you. Questions though. Who did the breaking up and why? How long since you broke up and who initiated the reunite as friends? These all definitely factor into situation.

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I did the breaking up because I was scared to settle down. I treid to get her back right after I broke up with her because I thought that I made a mistake. But she said she needed time.

 

I would contact her about once a week after we broke up, then I stopped for about 3 weeks and she contacted me. Ever since then we talk about 2-3 times a week.

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[font=century gothic][/font][color=olive][/color]HMMMM...No, I dont think that you would come across as.....so your saying I would have to be back with you, for you to train me".

I think you should tell her how you feel about teaching her your 'hit man ways' and simply let her know that it is not personal that you dont mind talking like you are now but that you may fall even more for her if you worked in such close proximity. This gives you a way to let her know how you feel without seeming needy, just only as if you are protecting your heart. If she wants to be with you then the ball is in her court. BTW... Whens last time you asked her how she felt NOW?

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