CailinPig Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 I'm still struggling (ie not trying) to get over an ex. I'm happy enough, but because he has still shown feelings for me (he's with a new girl) it's hard to fully move on. However, that's just my background. I find it very hard to do the whole dating thing. I feel uncomfortable, desperate, obvious, embarassed, self-critical, critical of th other person.... so many things i can't name. The way I met the only love of my life was through just gettin to kow each other in college and falling into going out together. I now find dating to be such a strange way of forming new relationships. It's so shallow and artificial and both people know why they're there, it's uncomfortable and horrible. I really hate it. Worse than all of this, is that I can't fancy someone unless I know them. Sure I can find them good looking, but that spark? I just won't have it unless I already know them. So I tend to not follow up after the first date, cos I would rather chew my own arm off than meet up again. I really would love to know if anyone else is in this situation?Please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
paddletennis Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 Hi there. Not sure where you're from, but check into meetup.com. It's a website that gets people together - not hookups or dates - and you go out and do different activities. If you like Happy hours, or hiking, etc, meetup gets those people together and you go out, and well, meet new people. No pressure, and maybe you'll find that spark with someone! Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted August 24, 2010 Share Posted August 24, 2010 ;)Stop dating. You're obviously hating it at the moment and you're just not ready. Spend some time with you. Do the things you like to do,for you...sport, coffee dates with friends, window shopping,reading..whatever- . I am in a similar position to you and am enjoying watching some tv dvd series/reading etc. I also have joined a diverse group of mixed sex people so I am beginning to make friends with similar interests. I frantically hit all the web sites for new partners etc but decided that I just wasn't ready:o Can't wait arounf forever waiting for a magic prince (probably a toad anyay) so am going to just try and stop worrying and LIVE my life for ME. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CailinPig Posted August 25, 2010 Author Share Posted August 25, 2010 paddletennis, i live in ireland, so im not sure we'd have anything like that here, but i'll check it out anyway and see, thanks! worlybear, thanks a mil, you're right. That's what I kinda wanted to do anyway, ya know? Just be myself and live my life and not worry about whether im single or with someone or whether im into my ex or not, but just to be myself and if anythings gonna happen, let it happen. i just think datings so contrived! Link to post Share on other sites
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