Cases in which small towns are better for interracial couples than big cities?

[Labster12]

So I live in a small town which is mostly Black and White, you can say a small city. Now most people date and marry within their own race (at least 95 percent do) and other than Asian girl - White guy, you don't see interracial couples.

 

Recently I talked to my teacher and former soccer coach, a Black man that used to live in Los Angeles and he is married to a White woman. Now he came back from a trip to Iowa to visit his friend and there was a neighborhood get together, he told me he saw and met

 

1. A Black guy and his Lebanese wife.

2. A White German guy and his Puerto Rican wife.

3. An East Indian (India) guy and his Venezuelan wife (yes, East Indian guy - Latina, I have never ever heard of this happening in places like LA or NYC).

4. A Middle Eastern guy and his Brazilian wife.

 

Now my former teacher told me he talked to the German guy and the Indian man and they told about their experiences living in big cities. He said the German man used to live in Los Angeles, he was foreign and a lot of Hispanic men gave him a very tough time for being with a Puerto Rican woman. The Indian man he says used to live in Phoenix where a lot of the Hispanic guys and other guys would flirt with his wife and many people asked him why he didn't stick with his own type of women.

 

My teacher said that sometimes, smaller towns are better for some interracial couples because they may end up facing less racism there than in bigger cities where people would often end up throwing fits over them being in a relationship. My teacher used to live in NYC and he said that in Queens or the Bronx, if a Black man went with a White American woman he would often catch tons of flak from it from both Black and White guys.

 

Anyways, your thoughts.

[USMCHokie]

I live in the DC area and I've seen it ALL...every possible combination your little imagination could possibly conceive...

 

No one gives a crap...

[Feelin Frisky]

I lived in NYC all my life until this year. You'd think NYC would be inter-racial Valhalla but surprisingly it wasn't--especially in the outer Burroughs. When I got an apartment in a white neighborhood in Brooklyn with my black g/f, someone threw a rock through the realtor's window that very night. There were times before that when we were in her old neighborhood and black people would suck their teeth and make disquieting gestures toward us. I've long parted company with that ex but we parted as lovers. Now I'm here in Va Beach and I can't get over the race mixin'. White women strolling around with half-black kids, white men with black girls--no hatin'. Who'da thunk? I've come south to find integration. Too late regretably...

[NYCGirly]

Have to agree with Frisky- you'd think the bigger cities like NYC would be the interracial utopia. Not. I've had the "pleasure" of overhearing snide comments made towards interracial couples. Whether in a big or small city, there will always be negativity about something so benign as interracial dating.

[Maggotface]

I live in a little southern hick town so no interracial coupling is not very common or accepted, along with gay relationships.

[lso802]

I live in the DC area and I've seen it ALL...every possible combination your little imagination could possibly conceive...

 

No one gives a crap...

 

Yep. I love it here not just because of that, but also b/c it encompasses DC, MD & VA.

[USMCHokie]

I guess DC is a place like no other in the US...with a very international demographic...

[Labster12]

Actually in NYC I noticed that Black guy - Latina (Puerto Rican mainly) is widely accepted and all that. My teacher said that if a Black man dates a woman with White skin and black hair but she happens to be Puerto Rican, everyone is okay with it, but if she is White (Non Hispanic), you better believe people are going to throw fits.

 

I went to DC for a month or so, met a lot of people, majority of them were dating and married to partners of their own race. Except for one or two Asian girl - White guy couples, I didn't see anything else. Now in Nashville I went to a book store, was sitting down and reading, had a conversation with an Arabian guy who had to leave because his girlfriend (Latina) called him, they looked so happy together.

 

Maybe small towns don't really deserve the bad rep they get. Here in the south, people could care less if an Arab or Middle Eastern guy dates a Latina or vice verse because to them both are just a bunch of immigrants, from what I have heard, out in Southern Cal people don't take kindly to that pairing at all.

[fwang]

I live in a big city in the south of USA and seldom see interracial couples. Maybe sometimes, I can see Asian girls with white guys but I never see black guys with white girls.

 

I am Asian and only interested in dating White guys. People from my race think I am bad. lol

[Feelin Frisky]

....and I kind of dislike it when I see a decent looking white woman with guys who are non-white because it just means one less available woman for me...

 

*chokes off a laugh* Can't say I never been envious of some black laddy buck with some iconic white trophy girl. I get it 'cause I've done the reverse but still...one less for us, eh?

[Labster12]

I heard from a lot of youtube videos which my friends linked me to and a lot of threads posted on some other sites that Asian women out on the West Coast don't want Asian guys which is sort of confusing to me but my friends said it is very common for something like that to happen.

 

As for me, I don't personally care, I have run across Asians girls who have been obsessed with having a White boyfriend and I would personally not date an Asian girl like that.

 

See here is what I really concerning interracial dating, when people date interracial but look down on others for doing it. I have run across at least 3 Black guys who have dated a girl outside their own race and while doing it, I noticed a lot of them give Black girls flak for dating outside their own race. My Black friend (a girl who is dated a Chinese guy) told me she received so much flak from Black men because she was with a Chinese guy and one time a Black guy dating a White girl called her a sellout.

 

My girlfriend tells me Hispanic men are a lot worse, then again, this is generally speaking.