Buttercup Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 I have known this guy for about 2 years, and we have been good friends. There has always been major chemistry between us, but he had a gf. He broke up with this girl about 6 months ago and we have been getting closer and closer. I have never felt such a connection with anyone before in my life, and I know we would be great together. We had a long chat about the situation the other night and he poured out his heart. He told me that he could fall in love with me and even see himself marrying me (!) but he had a major problem with my age. I am 22 and he is 33. Although we are probably on the same level emotionally, he says he is getting to the stage in his life where he is thinking about settling down and having kids (not now, but before he turns 40), and he knows I won't want to do this for awhile yet. He said he can't waste the next few years in a relationship - no matter how good - that will end because of this. I think it is also a problem that none of his friends really take me seriously, they just see me as a little fling. I agree that these are legitimate fears that he has but I don't think you should always think with your head. We are so perfect together and I want him so badly sometimes I want to scream in frustration. How can I convince him to take a chance? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 I was once convinced to toss my reservations by someone who urged me to 'throw caution to the winds'. You could always give that a try... Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Does he want a good, happy, health relationship or just a wife and kids? Just b/c he wants a wife and kids doesn't mean he will be happy if he's not with the right person. I wanted kids and a marriage at one time to. I ended up in a horrible marriage tring to get pregnant for 4 years with no luck. Then the light bulb turned on and I realised that why would I want to bring a child into such an awful marriage anyway. When I met my bf he told me that he couldn't have anymore children right off the bat and I had a discision to make, wether I wanted to be in a relationship that I can't have children or in a relationship that is healthy and happy for once. Anyway I have 3 wonderful cats that I love like my babies. Link to post Share on other sites
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