Just another reason we have children grow up to be abusive.

[Clep]

I took my son today and his friend to a place where kids get to play and run around in an indoor place much like McDonalds play place, but on a much larger scale. It is such a large scale that parents can play with their children on all the equipment as well.

 

A bus of children comes in with six caregivers. The caregivers all sit together at a table in the eating area and proceed to chit chat for two hours, not once watching the children they are supposed to be caring for.

 

I am playing with my two children and and the children that are around us. One child get's angry with another child not giving him the ball he wants in a ball pit that holds approx two thousand balls. He jumps on the child and starts punching him in the face. I pull him off the child and set him a side. The child getting hit starts to walk away to go to his grandma that was caring for her other grandchild at the moment. The abusive child jumps on him from behind and is now punching the back of his head, right in front of me again.

 

I now take the child by the arm and lead him to the eating area asking who this child belongs to. One of the parent helpers of the bus group says "he is mine". I let her know he was punching another child and attacked him twice so I removed him to take him to his mom so she can deal with him.

 

She has the nerve to say I have no right to touch her child and should be going to find her to share with her what is going on. I let her know that I was not about to leave a child getting beat up to try to match up the parent with the child's description out of a hundred kids. She shares again not to touch her child and if her son is beating up another child, that the child must have deserved it.

 

I let her know if she was watching her kids, she would be parenting her child and not someone else. She ignores that, repeats herself and I again said more forcefully "get up off your seat, care for your children and set some boundaries or someone else is going to be in the position to do so, whether they want to be or not". I then walked away.

 

She consoled her son for being picked on and sent him off to play again. And people wonder where abusive people and parents originate from. Amazing.

[sb129]

This happened to me a couple of weeks ago.

 

The indoor play area where I go has a babies/ toddlers sections, and we had been there having a nice time for about an hour and were getting ready to go.

 

Then a couple of really rough and tumble boys came in I think they were about 4 so technically still allowed in the junior area but... they ran all over the place not noticing that there were babies on the floor and the parents just laughed and took pictures of them doing it.

 

I thought about challenging them, but the coward in me scooped up my daughter and left.

 

Although I HAVE told management once when there was a kid there who had been dropped off by his mother (against the rules) as he was being a little sh** and there was nobody to control him.

[donnamaybe]

And I'll bet she NEVER spanks her child.

 

Yup. It's SOOOO much easier to sit on your fat arse and eat pizza (did I get the right locale?) than to actually PARENT your children. That's the same reason I no longer brought my kids to public Easter egg hunts. My oldest, when he was three, was pushed to the ground quite forcefully by what looked to be an 8 year old because my son's hand was JUST about to grab the one and only golden egg that had $50 in it. I will NOT subject my kids to that kind of ill treatment by the children of other people who teach their kids no manners.

[sb129]

I think some people use those playgrounds as substitute parents- the one I go to has a cafe and I see lots of people sitting there drinking coffee and reading.

Maybe they had older kids.

 

My little girl is too young to play unsupervised, but in all honesty I have a blast playing with her in there, its fun and nice for us to spend fun time together.

[worlybear]

Had to add that the other day I took my 8 yr old daughter to an outside adventure theme park (aeriel wires/massive rope swings ,bridges and HUGE slides(very steep). We were waiting to use the steepest slide (big enough for adults too) when this little girl (3 or 4) tugged my arm and asked me to help her into the slide sack. She then sat down and "froze" at the top of the slide. Where's Mum? shrugs..down there somewhere (points to huge crowd of people milling about. Got my daughter to go down 1st and then sat with child. she held my hand and we went down together and stood waiting at the bottom of the slide. Eventually a woman wandered over and claimed her. Mother showed no concern or curiosity that her daughter aged approx FOUR had been by herself and had hooked up with another, uknown adult. WTF! Such careless disregard of your child's safety verges on abuse! Why do people have kids if they can't be bothered to look after them?

[Clep]

And I'll bet she NEVER spanks her child.

 

Yup. It's SOOOO much easier to sit on your fat arse and eat pizza (did I get the right locale?) than to actually PARENT your children. That's the same reason I no longer brought my kids to public Easter egg hunts. My oldest, when he was three, was pushed to the ground quite forcefully by what looked to be an 8 year old because my son's hand was JUST about to grab the one and only golden egg that had $50 in it. I will NOT subject my kids to that kind of ill treatment by the children of other people who teach their kids no manners.

 

She was eating pizza on her rather large arse. It amazes me that people have the distorted thinking. People are so worried about protecting their children from any harm, even self inflicted that they rob them of learning experiences that allow them to mature. Then we end up with self absorbed adults that think boundaries don't apply to them.

 

I would have just removed my child from the establishment if my child was beating up another, but then again I am interacting with my child, not sitting on my rump in an area where I can't even see them.