beachwrangler Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 Shes 20 and im 23. Been dating for 8 months. This past weekend was amazing she told me she felt the closest to me she ever has before. Well sunday I screwed it all up. I requested a girl on facebook that one of my bestfriends use to date that ive known since my childhood. When she added me I deleted the notifcation of us being friends. Well I was on my email and left the room and my gf saw that I had an email confirming us of now being friends but saw I had deleted the notification of us being friends on my actualy facebook page. She took this as me hiding it from her and now she thinks I did it because I was either trying to talk to her or already was. I wasn’t at all I love my gf to death and would do anything for her. I shouldve never tried to hide it. Was really dumb of me and is not worth the hurt Ive caused her. She told me she missed me yesterday and wants to eventually marry me but then that night told me she doesn’t know what she wants and if she can be with me. Shes afraid if I hide something that small I will hide something much bigger. When im not gonna hide anything from her not anymore. I have always been loyal to her and want to spend the rest of my days with her. I just feel its too late. I already feel like im losing her as she told me last night ” i was happier single, no stress, no worries, no jealousy” but then she tells me her life sucks when im not there and isn’t happy without me. I just want to make things right. Already told her how sorry I was and how much I loved her and sent a long apology note. So she texted me this morning telling me she loves me and wants to see me today. So after class she came over and everything seemed find. She told me she loved me numerous times, had sex, cuddled all the norm like nothing had ever happened everything was perfect. Then she flipped the switch. She was on top of me kissing me and seemed to want to have sex again and she stopped looked at me and said she was going home. I told her I loved her got no reply and she drove off. Once she got home told me she was confused and that she was talkin to her friends (most of her friends happen to be guys) that said guys who hide small things always will hide big things such as cheating. This hurt that she would believe them over me. She then sent me a text saying “I know you like to look at other girls and request them on fb for all i know your probably looking for another gf. I responded with “Im putting everything into you bc I wanna be with you. I found the girl i want more than anything if i was just lookin for another i wouldn’t care about any of this. I swear on everything your who i want i dont give a **** what other dudes say im tellin you i want you and will always love you. just be with me baby ill prove you and all of them wrong. Havent heard anything since. I really do love this girl but dont know what to do to make her believe me. Sorry for the long post. Link to post Share on other sites
lilyy.12 Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 I know it hurts but too be honest you gf is making too much drama for such a silly thing. If my bf was like that pfss we wouldnt lasted a week. idk but in a relationship she must have confidence in herself & also trust you! if she trusts you enough to make love then why doesnt she trsut you with such a silly thing as a request. i do too erase those kinds of things cuz its dumb to keep them & i want to read what ppl have left me. there is nothing wrong with that. she shouldnt be so weak minded & actually go by her feelings. im sorry but thats not a women thats a lil girl. take care G.LUCKK. Link to post Share on other sites
White Dove Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 All this over a stupid notification on Facebook? I used to delete the news feed on my page because I don't like how it makes my page look cluttered, I wasn't trying to hide anything from my SO. Your GF is blowing things out of proportion. Perhaps deleting off Facebook would make her feel much better Link to post Share on other sites
FearandLoathing Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 Wooooow. Is your girlfriend a really jealous person? My ex was a very jealous person and he was always accusing me of stuff when I was doing NOTHING. Believe me, I know how frustrated you feel right now. We ended up breaking up because he began doing all the stuff he accused me of doing our entire relationship and because he discovered that lots of other girls were into him. He told me it was because he was too jealous so he couldn't be with me. I'm just saying, sometimes people freak out because they know what they would be doing in that situation...even if it's exactly opposite of what you're really doing. The only thing you can do is try and convince her it meant nothing? Very frustrating, I know. Link to post Share on other sites
deux ex machina Posted August 29, 2010 Share Posted August 29, 2010 (edited) Drama. Don't say you are sorry one more time. At this point, there is nothing to make up for and I have to wonder if you feel your integrity is being questioned right now - if you feel that way, let her know. She might not be aware of how damaging her actions can be. At any rate, best to draw a line, and don't feed it anymore. Edited August 29, 2010 by deux ex machina Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 29, 2010 Share Posted August 29, 2010 Great information. Nice projector job by her. Coincidence that she has all those male friends. Time to re-evaluate. She made a good call. Gave you a gift. Thank her for it. Link to post Share on other sites
DavidWhite Posted August 29, 2010 Share Posted August 29, 2010 Wow she sounds very jealous, but look on the bright side, atleast she really cares about you. Link to post Share on other sites
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