schatzy62 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I meet this very nice woman last February and have seen her at a few parties and BBQ's and we have had some great conversations. So last Sunday while at a BBQ where she arrived late and I had to leave early due to other commitments I had asked her just before i left if she would be interested in going out some time. Her reply was "Yes I would like that" so I responded that I would call her the next day and we could set something up. Also I knew from our conversation over lunch that she had family reunion commitments that evening. I did not want to call to early on a Sunday morning knowing that she would have had a few drinks and a late night before. So I called about 10:50 am and she answer the phone and at least sounded as if she was happy to hear from me. I had gotten her number but had not given her mine (this will play in later) So we made plans to meet on Tuesday night but no specific time or place. But I should call her Tuesday to confirm time and place. I called her Tuesday mid day not really expecting to reach her as she see dental patients all day. But she answered the phone and after I said Hello she responds with "I am so glad you called, i forgot to program you number into my phone and I got a confirmation call this morning about my massage tonight and have to postpone, I'm sorry. I forgot to put it in my phones calender." We spoke a few more minutes about a few other things and she then said "I'll call you later to set something up" It is now Thursday and I have not heard from her. I know she is rather busy with a charitable foundation she is assisting with and trying to get some details with that sorted out for a motorcycle ride/BBQ in just a few weeks. So my questions to you all are: 1. Should I reach out to hear and how, Phone call, Text, Facebook message, other? 2. How long should I wait to try and contact her? ( i dont want to seem pushy ) 3. Was she just leading me on at the BBQ when she said she would like to go out? 4. And other comments or advise would be appreciated. Thanks
FL Lady Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 (edited) Hmmm.... This is a tough call. Not sure your age range. Her massage may be legit since she works in the dental field and has to constantly bend over/around patients. I would suggest you call her again Friday afternoon or if you are willing to be patient, try her again next Tuesday (since Mondays are hectic in medical offices). Or try her around 8pm in the evening this Thursday night. Play it low key and cool. Edited August 26, 2010 by FL Lady
BobSacamento Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I would not call again. However, I would not wait around by the phone as well.
FL Lady Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The main reason I'd suggest you give it one more shot is that you called her during the work day. It's better early on if you call during the evening when she is less distracted. I don't think arranging the first date should be up to her. Since something legit, likely, came up for her foe the Tuesday. If she blows it off this time, it's a no go.
BobSacamento Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The main reason I'd suggest you give it one more shot is that you called her during the work day. It's better early on if you call during the evening when she is less distracted. I don't think arranging the first date should be up to her. Since something legit, likely, came up for her foe the Tuesday. If she blows it off this time, it's a no go. What makes you think she'll be arranging? All she'll be doing is calling, after that he will propose the plans and they can arrange a time. If she doesn't call then she is a flake and not worth his time. If he does call, there is a chance she may be angry because she specifically told him she would call him back. He'll come off like he doesn't listen.
caramel c Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Even though it does sound legit, she did cancel and she did say she'd call. It's not a bad idea if you call, but I still think she should call. She didn't say when she'd call so hang tight and if you don't hear from her soon just forget it.
Mad Max Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 You already called. The ball is in her court. I say give it another week or so. If you don't hear from here, move on. If she was truly interested, she's make time. Even if it wasn't for a dinner, it would be for a drink or something like that. Let's be honest, how long could a drink be? Half hour-45 minutes?
spiderowl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 She said she would like to go somewhere with you, so that's a good sign. If she wasn't interested, I'd have expected her to just smile or be vague, joking or changing the subject. But, if she definitely said she would call you and hasn't, I would not contact her. If it was left vague, that's a different matter but once someone takes responsibility, like she apparently did, then she should follow up. If her story about not storing your number sounded authentic, then I guess it's just about possible she failed to do it twice. I doubt if I'd manage to do the right thing on my phone either. If you think there was the possibility of misunderstanding somewhere, then it would be an idea to follow up, but otherwise no. If she was interested, she would not be able to rest until she'd got back to you.
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