Lifes games

[princess75]

Hello! This is my situation. I have resolved to try to make it work with my ex bf. I am too much in love with him, and we are both willing to forgive and forget. He cheated on me, went with another gal and all but I figured out what is the use of me being in "revenge" or "victim" mode when I am still in love with him. He has earned his way back, has been comprehensive, has listened to my attacks and is making the effort to gain my trust again. Now there is one BIG problem for which I dont know If I should let go of him or should I stick and wait. Right now we are friends and we know we love each other. I have started going out with another man but this second man knows the truth and I broke up the relationship we were about to have. Now the problem is not from my side, it is from the side of my ex. The gal he cheated me with is having a heart problem, and is about to undergo an operation. I know it sounds cruel, I dont want him to leave her at this very moment ..nor does he. But he says he knows for sure it is not love and is asking me time(cause he loves me). Now, what should I tell him to do? It is very inhuman not to provide support to someone in these times, as well as it is hurting inside not to be with him yet. I know it sounds egoist, but what is the right path? Am I being cruel to that other gal?

Thanx

[opentonewadvice]

The right thing to do right now would be putting a few of your feelings to the side just to let him atleast be by her side due to her medical conditions. But this does not mean him being there 24/7. at the same time, he must also respect your feelings in the proicess. since you will be respecting his present situation. After those things boil over the two of you must then have a talk with her mainly him letting her know where they stand, so that she will not have any expectations of continuing a romantic relationship with him. That simply helps eliminate all drama. Now as far as the two of you go you then must decide what type of changes are you willing to make this time around this relationship and what were all the changes your ex needed to make the reason you really broke up. right them down explain and let him know exactly how serious you are about sticking to these changes and how important they are to how this new relationship will survive. But the first step remember is you being open and honest with him about your feelings, which shows him in turn that he can come to you more about situations without holding back and ending up sharing those thoughts in the company of another woman, because it seems like he really only went to this other woman to have for comfort and gratification because he was insecure and lost in his feelings about you. He never had the love and compassion for this woman he had for you. He realizes that now, but does not want to still just diss on her while she is down right now. In any case you must be more open this time around.