SlevinKalebra Posted August 28, 2010 Share Posted August 28, 2010 Ok, so if you read the original post here's the follow up. Nad if you have any thoughts please share I followed through like I had said and told the psychologist what was going on. And just like I knew would happen, they said it was definitely necessary to report the situation with my daughter and my stbxw's son. It was reassuring to hear that they felt I was right to be as worried as I am. The therapist asst. said if I did not report it they would. This was the push I needed and the next day I drove to social services and made the report. They were very receptive and planned on investigating immediately. Today at court (pretrial hearing for the divorce) The judge was wrapping everything up and could tell I had something to say. Once I had told her about the journal and his actions in the past she told me it was highly irregular to place an emegency injunction at this point in the preceedings she said I needed to do so. So tonight or tomorrow I will begin drawing it up. Here's where I need advice I so do not want to hurt my stbxw and more than that I don't want to hurt my daughter. I am thinking the emergency injunction should be written so that anytime my stbxw is at work my daughter would be with me. I could request full custody, and that is also weighing heavy on my mind. In the past I had on several occasions exploded at my stbxw's son for innappropriateness towards my daughter. And invariably her response would be I am blowing it out of proportion. Or she'd even tell me "no that didn't happen what actually did happen is...." Even when she wasn't even home. I hope the injunction would make her be much more vigilant, but I worry that she would not be. Now that the steps have been started I feel lost as to what to do next. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 28, 2010 Share Posted August 28, 2010 you can't MAKE someone do or not do something. bottom line is - protect your daughter at all costs... including if someone gets mad at you. it's the right thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SlevinKalebra Posted August 28, 2010 Author Share Posted August 28, 2010 I do not care if someone is mad at me. I would be devestated if I could not spend my days with my daughter. I do not want to do that to my stbxw. And my daughter is stuck in the middle, I don't want her to think that her parents are going to dissappear. Divorce is hard enough on kids but at least the presence of both parents is a comfort Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 28, 2010 Share Posted August 28, 2010 I do not care if someone is mad at me. I would be devestated if I could not spend my days with my daughter. I do not want to do that to my stbxw. And my daughter is stuck in the middle, I don't want her to think that her parents are going to dissappear. Divorce is hard enough on kids but at least the presence of both parents is a comfort since the Mom makes poor choices that surround her daughter (ex = druggy=jailbird) and her son that puts your D at risk too, then your daughter will be better off NOT being with the Mother. IF she sees the child - it should be under supervised visits... hopefully the court will mandate that for your daughter's best interest, since you seem to be worried about your exW and hurting her feelings. how old is your daughter? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SlevinKalebra Posted August 28, 2010 Author Share Posted August 28, 2010 She is two. Link to post Share on other sites
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