Dante311 Posted August 29, 2010 Share Posted August 29, 2010 Hello dumpee. I understand and can empathize with both being a dumpee and a dumper. Where do you stand amongst severed relationships? Breakups can be devastating battle grounds where many lie wounded and some even battered beyond all liberation of a broken heart. Within you lies an unexplainable emotion... a void that you carry since that moment your partner tore from you the very essence, the life force that bound you. Pouring forth, your tears as crimson as the blood that courses through your veins, leave ashen trails upon your sunken face deep within the shadows of your misery. I look to you now for strength. I seek hope from deep within you. And you rise to your feet and take the lingering esteem and credence before you. When you're the dumpee it is never easy, but this is the moment you are vulnerable - you can redefine your very existence and meaning in this world. This is the opportune moment to meet terms of who you truly are and can be. To become a better man or woman in his/her own right! You take these tears of agony and the wretched, writhing affliction that burns in your belly and bury them, literally in the dirt beneath your feet. Close your eyes and inhale deeply through your mouth and remember who you once were prior to meeting them. And slow, exhale through your nose knowing who you are. Do this a few times. Now, look in the mirror. Wipe your tears of woe away. That is you. Take this past relationship and remember the bad... and learn from it all. And bury the bad in the deepest, darkest regions of your mind and never uncover them. Identify the good of the relationship. Now hold these dear to your heart so that whatever the future may bring you in fortune and lust... bring these good tidings with you. Never forget that you are unique in your own way. Never fail to realize that your heart and your soul are in your keeping alone. You may choose who to give or take them from. So that one day... you may meet the one who will willfully give his/her heart to you no strings attached as you do the same unto them without hesitation! I truly believe in my words. I firmly admonish caution in self-destruction. THEY are not worth the cause. Justify your meaning. Enact your own norms upon your own sense of worth and being. Do not let anyone tell you you are worthless. In time... I promise you... they WILL miss what they saw in you. They temporarily fill that void you feel now with someone new, but eventually... as they look deep within their current partners eyes, they see your reflection staring back at them. Suddenly, their heart begins to slow as their blood pressure drops. A sudden rush of nausea befalls them as they linger on the thought of you... I was there. I can relate. They may not contact you and you should DEFINITELY not contact them... but know that you are a better person now. Their existence is of on concern to you because you should not deal with these immature antics. You are on to better things and better people to come. And one day... you may find true love and understand this. Good luck. We are with you. And you, with us. So thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
lullaby Posted August 29, 2010 Share Posted August 29, 2010 Hello dumpee. I understand and can empathize with both being a dumpee and a dumper. Where do you stand amongst severed relationships? Breakups can be devastating battle grounds where many lie wounded and some even battered beyond all liberation of a broken heart. Within you lies an unexplainable emotion... a void that you carry since that moment your partner tore from you the very essence, the life force that bound you. Pouring forth, your tears as crimson as the blood that courses through your veins, leave ashen trails upon your sunken face deep within the shadows of your misery. I look to you now for strength. I seek hope from deep within you. And you rise to your feet and take the lingering esteem and credence before you. When you're the dumpee it is never easy, but this is the moment you are vulnerable - you can redefine your very existence and meaning in this world. This is the opportune moment to meet terms of who you truly are and can be. To become a better man or woman in his/her own right! You take these tears of agony and the wretched, writhing affliction that burns in your belly and bury them, literally in the dirt beneath your feet. Close your eyes and inhale deeply through your mouth and remember who you once were prior to meeting them. And slow, exhale through your nose knowing who you are. Do this a few times. Now, look in the mirror. Wipe your tears of woe away. That is you. Take this past relationship and remember the bad... and learn from it all. And bury the bad in the deepest, darkest regions of your mind and never uncover them. Identify the good of the relationship. Now hold these dear to your heart so that whatever the future may bring you in fortune and lust... bring these good tidings with you. Never forget that you are unique in your own way. Never fail to realize that your heart and your soul are in your keeping alone. You may choose who to give or take them from. So that one day... you may meet the one who will willfully give his/her heart to you no strings attached as you do the same unto them without hesitation! I truly believe in my words. I firmly admonish caution in self-destruction. THEY are not worth the cause. Justify your meaning. Enact your own norms upon your own sense of worth and being. Do not let anyone tell you you are worthless. In time... I promise you... they WILL miss what they saw in you. They temporarily fill that void you feel now with someone new, but eventually... as they look deep within their current partners eyes, they see your reflection staring back at them. Suddenly, their heart begins to slow as their blood pressure drops. A sudden rush of nausea befalls them as they linger on the thought of you... I was there. I can relate. They may not contact you and you should DEFINITELY not contact them... but know that you are a better person now. Their existence is of on concern to you because you should not deal with these immature antics. You are on to better things and better people to come. And one day... you may find true love and understand this. Good luck. We are with you. And you, with us. So thank you. Yeah, I've been on both sides and it's true that the dumper does get to feel the void and it's the most painful thing when you know they're not coming back. Beautifully put Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dante311 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Share Posted August 30, 2010 Yeah, I've been on both sides and it's true that the dumper does get to feel the void and it's the most painful thing when you know they're not coming back. Beautifully put Thanks. I was having a 'moment' last night... I have some good women trying to swoon me and I don't want ANY of them. I want one woman from my past and she burned me soooo bad. My heart still burns with anger and suffers the anguish of being torn to pieces heh Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Thanks. I was having a 'moment' last night... I have some good women trying to swoon me and I don't want ANY of them. I want one woman from my past and she burned me soooo bad. My heart still burns with anger and suffers the anguish of being torn to pieces heh Your heart has been crushed, just like mine. There is nothing left of it to give to another, just like mine. I will never trust anyone again. If you want to stay sane, you should do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 [/b] If that does turn out to be the case, how will you cope? What will you do, assuming you return again from Afghanistan? How will your days be filled? Part of me hopes I wont come back. But if I do, I will just go back to work and skydive alot. (It does wonders for the soul) Btw, how did you know I was getting deployed? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dante311 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Share Posted August 30, 2010 SDA... you army, navy, marine, or bird? And it's me, bananaboat. g-d bless your soul Skydiveaddict Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 SDA... you army, navy, marine, or bird? And it's me, bananaboat. g-d bless your soul Skydiveaddict Hey bananaboat! Good to see you're still around! I am army nat'l guard 21 Bravo (combat engineer) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dante311 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Share Posted August 30, 2010 Hey bananaboat! Good to see you're still around! I am army nat'l guard 21 Bravo (combat engineer) hooah! Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Hello dumpee. I understand and can empathize with both being a dumpee and a dumper. Where do you stand amongst severed relationships? Breakups can be devastating battle grounds where many lie wounded and some even battered beyond all liberation of a broken heart. Within you lies an unexplainable emotion... a void that you carry since that moment your partner tore from you the very essence, the life force that bound you. Pouring forth, your tears as crimson as the blood that courses through your veins, leave ashen trails upon your sunken face deep within the shadows of your misery. I look to you now for strength. I seek hope from deep within you. And you rise to your feet and take the lingering esteem and credence before you. When you're the dumpee it is never easy, but this is the moment you are vulnerable - you can redefine your very existence and meaning in this world. This is the opportune moment to meet terms of who you truly are and can be. To become a better man or woman in his/her own right! You take these tears of agony and the wretched, writhing affliction that burns in your belly and bury them, literally in the dirt beneath your feet. Close your eyes and inhale deeply through your mouth and remember who you once were prior to meeting them. And slow, exhale through your nose knowing who you are. Do this a few times. Now, look in the mirror. Wipe your tears of woe away. That is you. Take this past relationship and remember the bad... and learn from it all. And bury the bad in the deepest, darkest regions of your mind and never uncover them. Identify the good of the relationship. Now hold these dear to your heart so that whatever the future may bring you in fortune and lust... bring these good tidings with you. Never forget that you are unique in your own way. Never fail to realize that your heart and your soul are in your keeping alone. You may choose who to give or take them from. So that one day... you may meet the one who will willfully give his/her heart to you no strings attached as you do the same unto them without hesitation! I truly believe in my words. I firmly admonish caution in self-destruction. THEY are not worth the cause. Justify your meaning. Enact your own norms upon your own sense of worth and being. Do not let anyone tell you you are worthless. In time... I promise you... they WILL miss what they saw in you. They temporarily fill that void you feel now with someone new, but eventually... as they look deep within their current partners eyes, they see your reflection staring back at them. Suddenly, their heart begins to slow as their blood pressure drops. A sudden rush of nausea befalls them as they linger on the thought of you... I was there. I can relate. They may not contact you and you should DEFINITELY not contact them... but know that you are a better person now. Their existence is of on concern to you because you should not deal with these immature antics. You are on to better things and better people to come. And one day... you may find true love and understand this. Good luck. We are with you. And you, with us. So thank you. This really helped me today. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Still great advice BB, glad to see you back and helping us little folk Link to post Share on other sites
Crusoe Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 My heart still burns with anger and suffers the anguish of being torn to pieces The way out is down Dante, find Virgil, he will show you the way. Link to post Share on other sites
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