jean-luc sisko Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 I think there is something wrong in my brain: - I get distorted thoughts and perceptions and I can never focus on my thoughts. it's as if I can sense others' thoughts and i cannot recognise my own. - I don't get human interaction. The distortion makes it difficult to think and acknowledge what others do and how they react. - I also don't get how everybody seems so aggressive and uptight. People are always on edge and never calm and relaxed. Is this some point of human beings I don't understand? - Since I was about 17, I've never associated with people much. I'm now 31, and it's because everything seems so confusing. I think the reason I don't associate is since I didn't meet the cut socially. I try not to be negative. I watch comedies, I tell jokes, and do things to keep me content. But this distortion never goes away and it gets me down. What can be done to make it go away? Also, I really like this woman at work, but I think me not being able to connect with people will be a stumbling block. Link to post Share on other sites
redmelon Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 have you had a mental health evaluation to determine if your "distorted thoughts" are representative of a clinical disorder? Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 have you had a mental health evaluation to determine if your "distorted thoughts" are representative of a clinical disorder? \ That could be, not a bad idea to have a doc check you out. You could also just try pulling the pin and go out and meet people, lots of places around to do that ya know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted August 30, 2010 Author Share Posted August 30, 2010 have you had a mental health evaluation to determine if your "distorted thoughts" are representative of a clinical disorder? No, I have not. Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 I second the suggestion of getting a mental health evaluation. Your thinking process has led you to isolate for the last 14 years. Having an honest, open discussion with a quality professional might pin point the source of the issue. You really have nothing to lose by doing this except for some cash if you don't have insurance. A mental health evaluation is worth the investment. Link to post Share on other sites
SlevinKalebra Posted August 31, 2010 Share Posted August 31, 2010 - it's as if I can sense others' thoughts and i cannot recognise my own. - I don't get human interaction. ...difficult to think and acknowledge what others do and how they react. - Since I was about 17, I've never associated with people much. I'm now 31, and it's because everything seems so confusing.. If you are experiencing this you need to see a therapist. These are tell tale signs and need to be addressed. Recognizing this feeling of being out of step is a great sign. Do you have any sort of support system? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 9, 2010 Author Share Posted September 9, 2010 \ That could be, not a bad idea to have a doc check you out. You could also just try pulling the pin and go out and meet people, lots of places around to do that ya know. No, since colloquial norms prevent me from doing so. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 No, since colloquial norms prevent me from doing so. Go see a doc my friend. Find out what, if anything is going on with you. Life's too short to let it pass by feeling like you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 jean-luc - are you getting that the question about "have you seen a mental health professional" is not just a request for information, but a suggestion that you actually do that? You have a huge advantage that you have some awareness of your detachment and what you believe may be distorted perceptions, etc. This self-awareness may be very helpful to you in working through some of these things, but you may need a guide and some professional help along the way. What do you think about talking to a professional counselor/psychologist? Do you think you will do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 Go see a doc my friend. Find out what, if anything is going on with you. Life's too short to let it pass by feeling like you do. Life is not short. As long as I understand colloquial norms, so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 jean-luc - are you getting that the question about "have you seen a mental health professional" is not just a request for information, but a suggestion that you actually do that? You have a huge advantage that you have some awareness of your detachment and what you believe may be distorted perceptions, etc. This self-awareness may be very helpful to you in working through some of these things, but you may need a guide and some professional help along the way. What do you think about talking to a professional counselor/psychologist? Do you think you will do that? What would a doctor do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 I second the suggestion of getting a mental health evaluation. Your thinking process has led you to isolate for the last 14 years. Having an honest, open discussion with a quality professional might pin point the source of the issue. You really have nothing to lose by doing this except for some cash if you don't have insurance. A mental health evaluation is worth the investment. No it hasn't. It's colloquial norms stopping me, and me not understanding them. And please don't doubt me, I know my own reality. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyinInk Posted September 10, 2010 Share Posted September 10, 2010 what do you not understand about colloquial norms? are you just socially awkward or do you not like banter? many people do not enjoy small talk, but you have to relate to someone on this level first before a deeper connection can be made. what types of distored thoughts are you having? this could mean a wide range of things... Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 10, 2010 Share Posted September 10, 2010 What would a doctor do? For starters, they'd be in a far better position than we are to determine whether there is in fact "something wrong" with you, and work with you to arrive at a solution. But it doesn't sound as though you're inclined to change the way things are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 what do you not understand about colloquial norms? are you just socially awkward or do you not like banter? many people do not enjoy small talk, but you have to relate to someone on this level first before a deeper connection can be made. what types of distored thoughts are you having? this could mean a wide range of things... I don't believe that is true that people don't enjoy small talk. Everybody else talks why not me? Why am I the anomaly? You can distort if you want, but what you're saying is simply lies that hold no basis in reality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 For starters, they'd be in a far better position than we are to determine whether there is in fact "something wrong" with you, and work with you to arrive at a solution. But it doesn't sound as though you're inclined to change the way things are. I say there is something wrong. Nobody else has distorted thoughts. Nobody else is like that without something being wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 10, 2010 Share Posted September 10, 2010 What would a doctor do? I say there is something wrong. Nobody else has distorted thoughts. Nobody else is like that without something being wrong. OK, so is that just a statement of acceptance? "There is something wrong." If so, and you accept it as your own personal status quo, then a doctor wouldn't do anything for you, since you would appear to have no desire to change anything. On the other hand, if it is a statement that implies that you wish to change, "There is something wrong and I would like to fix it if possible," then you have two choices: (a) try to do it yourself, or (b) request assistance to have someone work with you and guide you in those changes. So before I can answer "what would a doctor do?" I need an answer to this: you believe you have distorted thoughts and that something is wrong. Do you have any desire and energy to change that, or are you just offering it as a fact, and noting that you accept it as the state of your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 Oh **** you. See, nothing you're saying is of any factual basis. Stop trying to deflect. Even if I don't believe you, who are you to stop me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 10, 2010 Author Share Posted September 10, 2010 If you are experiencing this you need to see a therapist. These are tell tale signs and need to be addressed. Recognizing this feeling of being out of step is a great sign. Do you have any sort of support system? No. Since colloquial norms stop me, and I hate my family. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 10, 2010 Share Posted September 10, 2010 Oh **** you. See, nothing you're saying is of any factual basis. Stop trying to deflect. Even if I don't believe you, who are you to stop me? Hmmm.. Since you didn't quote, I don't know if your'e talking to me. If you are, I'm not trying to make any statements of fact, I'm trying to collect some facts: Do you want to change, or are you going to leave things to stay the same? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jean-luc sisko Posted September 11, 2010 Author Share Posted September 11, 2010 Hmmm.. Since you didn't quote, I don't know if your'e talking to me. If you are, I'm not trying to make any statements of fact, I'm trying to collect some facts: Do you want to change, or are you going to leave things to stay the same? I want the same colloquial norms as everybody else. I was talking to all of you. Link to post Share on other sites
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