DazednConfused Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Hiya gang! Long time! Nice to see a few familiar faces, and not so nice to see all these new ones; but you are in a truly amazing place to learn and get support. Background on me: Learned of my wife sleeping w/ a co-worker summer '04; subsequently learned there had been others periodically throughout our 17 year marriage... divorced her in summer '07. I did try to work through it, and truly respect those that can... in the end tho, I could not live with the calculated disrespect and ended it. I packed my stuff and moved to Vegas to live single... my daughter followed me down a year later. She is now happily on her own, engaged, and due to deliver my first grandson in October! I spent the entire first year happily tearing thru girl after girl, all kinds of 'em...to most in this city, commitment is a four-letter word, lol, and it was kinda how I always pictured the sixties (No, I didn't live them, hehe). I did lose a couple really good ones because I was afraid to make any sort of commitment myself. (I'm breaking this into years, it's an over-simplification, but in the interest of brevity...) I spent most of the second year in a steady relationship with a wonderful woman who had recently divorced her husband... karma bus ran me over, and she was not ready for anything real. I hung in longer than I should have, hoping she might change her mind, but finally had to walk away. After that i kinda gave up... dated a little here and there... and then out of nowhere came this incredible human being. She was smart, charming, together, forthright, and stunning. The damn woman cut through my hardened blast-proof walls like butter and proceeded to steal my heart and began healing my tired soul. Life is pretty damn good again. My point for new and long time members... you can and will be happy again; you didn't predict yourself in your current position a year ago... who knows where you'll be next year? Stay true to yourself and it will work out. -Dazed Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Heya Dazed!!!! Not that many of the "old gang" around anymore, but nice to see you again man!!!! Very glad to hear that you're doing so well! Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Wow! That was so good to read your post- you've given me hope! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 My story is similar to yours, dating, etc, reached a point where I actually liked living alone, and did not want to ever fall in love again. Like a beaver, every day I strengthened and built my walls higher. It was useless, the right lady came along out of nowhere, and my armour plated, rebarred walls came down with the first kiss. She is way out of my league. In two months we will have been together for 15 years. This time I know what I have got and am going out of my way to keep it going for the next 15 years. Expect the unexpected when you least expect it Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted August 31, 2010 Share Posted August 31, 2010 YEAHH!!!!:bunny::bunny:Great news! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2010 Share Posted August 31, 2010 Hey Dazed, glad to hear you've met someone wonderful and are happy! That makes me smile. Thanks for the update and I wish you good health and happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DazednConfused Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Owl! Good to see you too my brother! Glad to see one of the most level-headed cats I know still here helping people... WW! Girl... I don't have the words... so nice to see you still kickin around here too! I'm sure you are still shocking people, lol... you've always had a knack for that! Yeah, going great for me here... finally gave up on and let my business go ahead and die (it was time... I was burned out on it ten years ago, lol). I'm tending bar in Vegas now; so now I pour, I'm a counselor, shoulder, peacekeeper/peacemaker, mediator, host of the party, bouncer, instigator, crowd control, political analyst, sports authority, and chief bottle washer. Hehe, perfect job for me and I REALLY love it. The new girl... well, if i get started, I will gush like Tom Cruise on Oprah's couch. So... in the interest of keeping some of my credibility, I'll just say she's amazing and I'm just hoping she doesn't wise up and realize that she's way too freakin good for me! I'm a little crazy about her, and with the walls I built up, this just hasn't happened before, hehe. So... puttin it out there again; it scares the holy hell outta me, but it feels so good too. Hey 2.5; thanks for the well wishes; I feel ya too... I reached the point where I was happy being alone as well, working out every day, loving my job, and content with focusing on myself and being a better person. Weirdly enough it's true... it does happen when you stop trying, lol. 15 years from now i hope I'm talking like you! Sorry to Jack the forum; I know there are a whole lot of hurt, angry, and bewildered folks here who need help... having been there and almost letting it crush my soul I so know what you're going thru. Your decisions are yours, your gut feelings are telling you true... no half-measures in anything you decide! Just make sure you can look YOURSELF in the eye every day... it's important! -Dazed Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 Dazed, Glad to see you're still around and doing so well. Takes time, but we're all a little stronger in the end. Peace, Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 5, 2010 Share Posted September 5, 2010 WW! Girl... I don't have the words... so nice to see you still kickin around here too! I'm sure you are still shocking people, lol... you've always had a knack for that! You are one of favourites around here and always there when I needed someone just to listen. Thanks for that! Once in a while something crazy comes out! Oh, I can't forget that humour of yours either. Something about a chair and a glass window? Link to post Share on other sites
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