Mike Posted July 24, 2000 Share Posted July 24, 2000 My gf of 2 years just recently broke up with me because i made her mad. She thought i was trying to compare her to another girl but i wasn't. She misconsepted me, she thought i was meaning one thing when in fact i wasn't. She said she hated me and didn't want to talk to me anymore and that i was 2 faced. I waited a day and tried calling her back but she still wont talk to me. I love her soo much and didn't honestly try to piss her off. I just say the wrong things sometimes without using my head. She told her mom to tell me that she will THINK about talking to me again but she said she doubted that she would. Im soo upset. I don't know what to do. Please somebody help me. What should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 24, 2000 Share Posted July 24, 2000 You simply can't continue to see someone who does not understand that you tend to sometimes say innapprpriate things at the wrongs times, as you admit in your post. This is something you need to work on. Even though you can be with someone a long time and they know that you have a specific communication problem, such as you do, certain words said the wrong way can still be very hurtful to someone else, no matter what you really meant to say. I she told you she hated you, she is highly irrational and probably not capable of learning to understand your shortcomings. You are much better off sending her a letter, that someone has proofread for you, apologizing for this problem and letting her know you would like her patience while you work on it. Also, by all means, let her know what you really meant to say. Emphasize that you truly care about her and you are very sorry for the gross misunderstanding. If she doesn't feel you are sincere or doesn't accept your apology, write her off immediately. Your post is short on details but I think this lady has some very serious problems if she can hate you and think you are two faced without letting you explain yourself. On the other hand, I don't know what was going on in the relationship at the time. Maybe she was justified. But one thing I know, your relationship with her needs a lot of work. Link to post Share on other sites
Nina Posted July 24, 2000 Share Posted July 24, 2000 Send her flowers and chocolates. Write her a letter telling her how sorry you are. I promise you she will meltlike butter. It sounds like a cliche, but it worked on me. Now I'm engaged. Who knew?! Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 24, 2000 Share Posted July 24, 2000 What a great idea!!! If only I had know thought of that earlier in my life!!! No kidding, I think that is certainly a good way to open up the lines of communication and begin to resolve this issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Mike Posted July 25, 2000 Share Posted July 25, 2000 THANKS YOU GUYS!!!! IT WORKED!!! IM SO AMAZED! I FILL LIKE I OWE YOU GUYS SOMETHING. I WENT OVER TO HER HOUSE WITH CANDY AND FLOWERS AND SHE CAME OUT TO TALK TO ME. SHE AT FIRST STARTED YELLING AT ME BUT I HANDED HER THE FLOWERS AND I HAD 1 TEAR GOING DOWN MY CHEEK AND SHE WAS LIKE "OOOH COME HERE AND GIVE ME A HUG" AND SHE SAID SHE WOULD FORGIVE ME THIS TIME, BUT IF I EVER DID ANYTHING LIKE THAT AGAIN THAT I WOULD NEVER SEE HER AGAIN. THANKS AGAIN, DAMN IM SOO HAPPY!!!!!!!! What a great idea!!! If only I had know thought of that earlier in my life!!! No kidding, I think that is certainly a good way to open up the lines of communication and begin to resolve this issue. Link to post Share on other sites
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