Art_Critic Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 In the old days if a guy was looking a woman up and down many of them would say "take a picture.. it lasts longer" then they would turn and leave.. Well...? Yeah.. it's very creepy dude... I can't think of ever wanting to do that.. but it doesn't mean that you are creepy.. just stop doing it... Link to post Share on other sites
spriggig Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 You stepped over the line with this girl. What you did was not illegal, but it is unusual. If you're not attached to this "hobby", as you say you are not, then I strongly suggest giving it up completely--finding a mate is difficult enough, there is no reason to make it harder for yourself by engaging in this odd behavior. Pointing your finger at her is simply blame shifting. None of us can objectively judge her decision to leave you, we aren't her. Go NC with this girl, take some time to get over her and start again with some one new. Give up your hobby. Read this site: http://malexperience.com/ Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 http://www.rcfp.org/photoguide/ A guide to taking pictures in public and avoiding the legal issues... Link to post Share on other sites
Undine Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I would wonder about my husband's mental health if I found him doing something like this. And I would feel very creeped out and disturbed if I found out somebody had taken my picture without me knowing so they could look at it later in secret. Link to post Share on other sites
TOWinNYC Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Bill - I'm a woman and this has happened to me before. I was casually reaching up for a book in Barnes & Noble and *click*. When I glanced over the guy with a camera phone ran away. And guess what? IT TOTALLY CREEPED ME OUT! Maybe you were him? Lets just say, it's not cool. Stop doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
misternoname Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I like pretty girls as much as the next guy but if I caught you snapping a picture of my wife's butt I would without hesitation open up a major can of whoop ass on you! Seriously, you think this behavior is just an innocent hobby? I strongly suspect your relationship ended for many other reasons...the discovery of the pics was probably just the straw that broke the camel's back. I humbly suggest you seek therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted September 4, 2010 Share Posted September 4, 2010 Consider yourself lucky---why---cuz of her FOO problems---her parents divorcing, is the major problem she is facing, and you would have been dragged into whatever she was acting out against, due to whatever happened in her earlier family life That being said----Hopefully you have learned a lesson for the next time you find yourself in a relationship----concentrate on your partner, and only your partner Link to post Share on other sites
thrownaway Posted September 4, 2010 Share Posted September 4, 2010 (edited) Definitely creepy! You should have thought about what you were doing before you did it. ~ THINK, BEFORE DOING! ~ I'm not saying my behavior was "normal", but was it worth destroying our relationship? I do feel that maybe there was an already underlying issue here. That maybe something was amiss in the relationship and she finally just said "that's it, this is the last straw with him, now I have a legitimate reason to end the relationship and he will be the scapegoat"! Edited September 4, 2010 by thrownaway Link to post Share on other sites
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 5, 2010 Share Posted September 5, 2010 You wanted opinions from another man so here goes. I once asked a lass for a picture of her butt..... why, because it was stunning, she was stunning and every thing stopped as she walked into the club. Many blokes were doing the sneaky camera phone trick and i was not happy with that. I walked up, made conversation, asked the question and eventually got the picture. Hell i even had the offer to spend the rest of the night with her and her friends. This of course i declined. What your doing is actually invading other peoples privacy and in effect stalking them slightly. Its weird, end of. Imagine what your GF must have thought about when she saw those pictures, imagine how her mind must have raced wondering how many you had taken of her whilst she was sleeping or showering. You need help and i would suggest finding it soon. Link to post Share on other sites
freestyle Posted September 5, 2010 Share Posted September 5, 2010 Setting aside the "creepy", and invasive/inappropriate aspect of this behavior, everyone else has mentioned it, so I won't be redundant. I'd like to mention your gf's point of view. It's one thing for a single guy to admire a beautiful woman, or look at porn, whatever. But you're in a relationship. And while I certainly can't speak for every woman on the planet,I'd venture to guess that most of us, once we have committed ourselves to a man, want to feel like he sees us as the most beautiful woman he ever laid eyes on. *cue, "I Only Have Eyes For You" here* From her point of view, she might feel like you're still window shopping. She might see this as an indicator that you don't feel satisfied with her. And if you're ogling other women when you're out and about with her, she's not likely to appreciate it. Would you? Link to post Share on other sites
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