SlevinKalebra Posted September 4, 2010 Share Posted September 4, 2010 A girl in my microbiology class has caught my eye. Caught her glancing back at me a couple of times and gave her a smile which was reciprocated. Got a couple of issues that I'd like opinions on. I definitely need a new social network but the cards are pretty well stacked against me for a while. I am not the type to put all my hope into one possibility, but this is the first time a girl has really piqued mt interest since the divorce. And odds are it won't be the last , SO here they are: 1. I'm sure I've got at least 7 years on her-- So I have a lot more baggage than she does. Kids, divorce etc.. I would like to be in a relationship, but more for what I feel I haven't had for the past three years. IE niceness, warmth, laughter,.... I feel very alone a lot of the time and really crave human contact. 2. As I have posted before I had to move back in with the folks a month ago and am looking for more work to help move me and my kids out into our own place. But even with my degree there is not a lot of options that pay well and are conducive to my schedule with my kids (whom are my prority over moving out) I don't know how to go about telling someone I'm interested in that I, as a grown man, cannot stand on my own two. 3. My flirting skills are very rusty. I was becoming very comfortable and smooth right before I met my stbxw. Three years of being demeaned and insulted on everything I said and did, I'm sure hasn't done much for my confidence. I now overthink everything and get nowhere. If I am being smooth I wonder if I'm leaving a slime trail. If I am more laid back, as I tend to usually be, I wonder if I am being stand offish. If I try to be talkative and exciting, as I enjoy being, I wonder if I come off as ADD and a braggar. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Share Posted September 4, 2010 first off stop this victim attitude. Who cares if your ex deameaned you this girl might try it to some day... but you'll have one hell of a honey moon period... Yeah you need some human contact and effection. Just be horny and your mind will do the rest. Ask her out, then kiss her on the date... thats all you need to know. Don't overthink this stuff just DO IT. and have fun being horny and around a girl ur interested in enjoy it. You don't have to throw all your baggage on her just keep the kids and living at home to yourself for atleast the first few dates then tell her in a way that doesn't use her as your psychiatrist. Link to post Share on other sites
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