Tips on attracting friends and partners

[Green]

You know what? I think her problem probably has nothing to do with sex at all.

 

Like you said, she is probably just lonely. What she wants is not a sex life, but a life.

 

Sometimes if not most of the times, when a woman claims to look for a sex partner, all she wants is actually just a company.

 

I'm not a woman but I know that they can and do use sex in a different way then men do. A horny man can just want sex... but its usualy not like that for a woman they get closeness ect. from sex.

 

I do agree that its a shame to see a sexy young women go to waste and that some guy should be enjoying her but we'll see. The truth is the guy is only 20 he really may fall under her spell if she offers him the chance to play with her naked and really give it to her in more ways then one.

 

I'm interested to here the updates and hope it goes well. She really might not go through with it though as it takes a lot of guts to do something like she is talking about and I think its really rare for a girl to be so bold like this. (it has a very good chance of getting her sex though if she CLEARLY offers her body up to him)

[Leigh 87]

STOP freakin telling me that " I need a life". OKAY? I KNOW what to do to have a life. Join clubs. Get a respectable job. Develope hobbies and interests/ BLABLABLAH. I KNOW what it means to aim for a good, fulfilling life.

 

And sex alone is not enough to make a fulfilling life. I KNOW this. But I have just moved to a new town, and I AM trying to look for clubs to join, and things to do.

 

I start UNI next year, and in the meantime I : do Pilates every day: am going to start going to arkido ( a form of martial art) once per week: I walked up to a group of girls my own age doing an out door PT session which I plan on doing once per week: AND I plan to go to my own gym once or twice per week for a hard session.

 

Aside from al of that, I plan to volenteer with vision Australia, to help vision impaired people. I have already gone on a couple of walks with them.

 

I also have a job once or twice per week,. which could turn into a long term thing throughout Uni.

 

I also love my own company, and have hobbies and interest. I like fashion and design and I WAS going to a once per week sewing class. I enjoy designing my own clothes, and I always used to get a tailor to make them for me.

 

ANOTHER thing, is I am looking for a new sewing groiup to go to, wear I not only get to PICK my design, but I get to learn how to do it myself, too.

 

EVEN with keeping myself busy, I DO need a sex life.

 

It is not that I am not fulfilled in my own life. I AM LONLEY. Plain and simple. And not only for friends, but for a bit of sex now and again. SHEESH.

[jamesum]

I'm not a woman but I know that they can and do use sex in a different way then men do. A horny man can just want sex... but its usualy not like that for a woman they get closeness ect. from sex.

Well, study shows that in most FWB relationships for example, the men tend to be more invested in the B part while the women tend to be more invested in the F part.

[Green]

It is not that I am not fulfilled in my own life. I AM LONLEY. Plain and simple. And not only for friends, but for a bit of sex now and again. SHEESH.

 

well you'll be having sex soon enough if you want it that bad. I'm sure you are really going to please some lucky guy in so many ways.

 

You should check out my "how do you sound thread" http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t241975/ I'm curiouse

[Leigh 87]

And about the PT - to be honest, i do not think I am hot or attractive enough to go and get sex based on my looks alone. I am going to have to go and develope my personality and iltelligence, and get a guy based on who I am; My looks r good enough to not put them OFF.

 

However, I am not thin enough, my body type is not lean enough to get a guy in a casual sex relationship, on my looks. It is upsetting for me to come to terms with this, but it is reality. I am just going to have to accept this, without resorting to anorexia again.

 

I saw the trainer at the gym and I said " can we book a pt session, I called ansd I sent u a text a few days ago about it, but u didnt respond".

 

I can not sense any interest on his part, so I am just going to work hard in the pt session and leave it at that.

 

I WISH.. I WISH I was hot enough TO be able to tempt a guy with my body. But unfortunately, 118 lbs, and an hour glass figure with DD breasts is not good enough. To be a knock out that guys would give sex to, I think you need a prettty face AND be 115 lbs and 5 ' 6 OR thinner.

 

*sigh*. I really do wish I could have the fun of being hot enough to just flirt with hot guys. It would be fun to be hot enough to have guys want me. I KNOW image is not everything, but HEY, It WOULD be fun to be 23, hot, and be able to get guys to want to f*ck me.

 

 

I WILL let u know how the training session goes. AT LEAST the guy will learn that I am no longer interested - I will use the session as a chance to show him that I am there to train, and not flirt or hit on him.

 

 

AGAIN - being sexually frustrated DOES NOT mean that you " need a life" in order to fix it. NO SEX SUCKS, plain and simple.

 

GREEN - I WISH guys like u would actually HAVE a desire to touch my body, but yeah. I am just not hot enough.

 

I will just make the most of the body I have, and try to have the best life that I can. I just have to get ove the fact that I am not hot enough to get sex from respectable guys.

 

I am just going to have to wait until I am more educated, smart, and put together, because the only way for me to have the s ex life that I want, is to draw a guy in through being smart, funny, and successful. THEN they will be attracted to me based on who I am.

 

I just thought for a second that I actually had the looks to have fun based on my looks. You know - hot enough to attract a hot guy for sex now and again.

 

 

I will let you know how the session goes. I WILL NOT be asking anything of the trainer though. I WONDER why the heck he told me I was attractive.

 

*cries*. things will be okay. I will just be a little sad now and again, cos I am dealing with an eating disorder, and I hate my body now it is 118 lbs, I long to be skinny, yet I know I have to work on getting a good life instead.

 

I am very depressed. But I am seeing a psychologist tomorrow- I am seeing two of them; one normal, and one eating disorder specialist.

 

Wish me luck. Wish everything.

 

I am off to akido, a type of martial art. Apparently they have BBQ'S and socxial events, and the wife of the husband seamed very nice on the phone.

 

I cannot starve myself and be anorexic again. So instead I am getting psycholgoical help, and tryingt o get my life together, AND working out at the gym, instead of starving myself.

 

This is so hard. I cry all the time. Every night.

 

I never got help for my anorexia, so tomorrow is the first time I will be seeing an eating disorder psychologist.

 

AFter 4 years of hell I just think that I deserve to be happy. without having to be skinny. But being hot and attractive is just something that I feel would make getting friends andr sex WAY more fun.

[Green]

stop crying you sound like you look great. If a girl weighs about the weight you do I really don't care if she has celulite or fat or whatever it doesn't really matter. You are only 118 so even if you have celulite or fat its going to look good at such a low weight so don't worry.

 

GO TO THE BBQ's they have that is a perfect place to make friends and get a bf who will just want to stare at your naked body and tell you how hot you are... men are also really perverse so thats not all he'll do but you get the picture.

 

You're going to be just fine you need to distract urself with the stuff you are doing. Have fun and find out about the BBQ and GO TO IT!

[jamesum]

Please dont take this the wrong way, but I think you have issues.

 

Your extreme obsession with your appearance is not healthy at all.

 

Men may be the more sexual sex, but that doesnt mean they are going to come up to you on the street and say, "Hey, wanna fu*k?"

[Leigh 87]

I know I have issues with my body. I had anorexia. My entirity was based on being bery thin. Being skinny was all I had.

 

So now I have had to build my life up, and base my life on other things, and NOT rely on being thin.

 

So of course I have issues I need to address. I have started to see a psychologist , and I am seeing an one that specializes in eating disorders, I meet her tomorrow.

 

As well as the therapists, I am also deloping hobbies interests, starting a degree next year, and just trying to be the best version of my self as possible.

 

I know that being myself is all I can do in terms of meeting people.

 

The lack of sex life IS frustrating, but that will come in time.

 

I WANT TO START A JOURNAL but it DOES NOT BLOODY SAY where to start it OMG.

 

ANY HELP? WHERE does one go to on this site to write in their journal!?!?!

 

You can all get updated there. Enough on this thread for now, until I make PROGRESS.

 

I am going to the trainer tomorrow because his life is the gym, and I want the best results, and he seems to want the best results for his clients.

 

A person who lives and breathes their job is what I need. Basically, to end the thing we had with his comments on my body, me actring intersted, and then him not having time to bother with me, I am ending it with a PT session with him that shows him " look, Iam here to get results because I want to look better, and you live at the gym so you seam to want the best results".

 

That way I can end out talks in a dignified way; I am there to get a good body, and whilst it was nice of him to say I was hot and stuff, that I GET he is not interested interacting socially with me, and I am just there to work out nd get results.

 

I need him to go throught he program he set for me as I did not concentrate hard on the first time he gave it to me LOL, as I was so sexually frustrated and he said I was hot and gorgeous and that DISTRACTED ME omg.

 

So after I have a PT session, in which he will essentially go through my program with me, I will then DO his program once or twice per week.

 

I will not bother talking to him after this session, unless we catch each others eye and he sais hi. In which case I will also say hi, because it is polite to be amiable with people.

 

The end.

[Leigh 87]

GREEN - I said hello on the voice thread you started! Lol you sound hot, what did I sound like?

 

gosh that mike is flattering to voices, I thought my own voice would be WAY WORSE omg.

[Leigh 87]

LASTLY - thanks green for saying 118 lbs is a low weight. Because of course, I am hard on myself and want to be thinner. I am only 5 ' 5 ish after all.

 

I am stepping up my fitness routine though si hopefully I can look lean at 118 lbs. At least I have a flat stomach.

 

I do not understand how one could live with themselves if they didnt exercise or look after their bodies optimally/ or at least well.... seriously.

 

I dunno how one could go out int he world and be HAPPY, and ACCEPT themselves if they didnt take care of their bodies.

[Leigh 87]

Oh, actually I have one last, very important thing that I have to say. because it is just SO facinating and all..

 

I am going to masturbate tonight, because I have PT session with the trainer, and not masturbating is a stupid thing, as it will only increase my sexual frustration.

 

Just thought I'd share that LOVELy information with you. LOL!

 

But seriously. turning up horny to a PT session with that guy, when I am trying to conclude things with him in a PROFESSIONAL manner, would be just stupid.

 

Unfortunately I will be horny weather I get off or not tonight, but NOT getting off would make me far hornier. Which I am planning to avoid.

 

goodnight people. not that any one will read this. OMG.

[Rashad]

Oh, actually I have one last, very important thing that I have to say. because it is just SO facinating and all..

 

I am going to masturbate tonight, because I have PT session with the trainer, and not masturbating is a stupid thing, as it will only increase my sexual frustration.

 

Just thought I'd share that LOVELy information with you. LOL!

 

But seriously. turning up horny to a PT session with that guy, when I am trying to conclude things with him in a PROFESSIONAL manner, would be just stupid.

 

Unfortunately I will be horny weather I get off or not tonight, but NOT getting off would make me far hornier. Which I am planning to avoid.

 

goodnight people. not that any one will read this. OMG.

LMAO... why wouldn't I?? this was hilarious, only if Australia wasn't half the world away. You remind me of this girl that came all the way from England looking for sex here and I had to be lucky enough to meet her on the plane!

[Green]

Oh, actually I have one last, very important thing that I have to say. because it is just SO facinating and all..

 

I am going to masturbate tonight, because I have PT session with the trainer, and not masturbating is a stupid thing, as it will only increase my sexual frustration.

 

Just thought I'd share that LOVELy information with you. LOL!

 

But seriously. turning up horny to a PT session with that guy, when I am trying to conclude things with him in a PROFESSIONAL manner, would be just stupid.

 

Unfortunately I will be horny weather I get off or not tonight, but NOT getting off would make me far hornier. Which I am planning to avoid.

 

goodnight people. not that any one will read this. OMG.

 

Of course we're going to read this its probably the most entertaining thread on this site seriously. haha

 

I really don't know how masterbation works for women as far as the relief it gives them but if it makes you feel better I say go for it.

 

For the men on here I tell them that when you are single and looking being horny can be a good tool and keeping masterbation to a minimum is best.

 

Giving dating advice is really fun for me because it reminds me of the problems I used to have with dating. NORMALY its men who have this kind of sexual frustration you are experiencing. And it is the men on this site that I usualy try to help with this exact problem by telling them simple no nonsense advice that I expect them to fill in the blanks for. I usualy tell them that ITS ALL IN THEIR HEAD which I feel goes for you too. You need to stop being so NEGATIVE and start being more posotive. Its as simple as you acitivly saying I'M GOING TO HAVE FUN. You can trick urself and then you realy will be having fun if you stop feeling so down because your adicted to being upset about stuff.

 

I went through all of High School and College never having kissed a girl. Finaly the Hornyness I felt was overwhelming and the summer after college at 22 I got my first gf.... I did this by simply TRYING for the first time in my life. Before that I was so afraid of rejection that I NEVER asked girls out and if by chance I spent alone time with a pretty girl I NEVER made a move (touch, kiss ect.) but that changed after college and I decided to ASK girls out and Touch, KISS them... basicly make moves and face my FEAR of rejection. What I found out was dating wasn't so bad and that I had been missing out on a lot of fun. It was all about changing my mindset.

 

There was a girl on this site who was a lot like you. She posted every day about how she smiled at men and how she was pretty and had big breasts. And I always told her that now that you what a bf so bad its only a short matter of time till you get one. Well a few months later SHE HAD ONE and she stopped posting on here.

 

Well same goes for you. A pretty girl who wants a man in her life this bad only has a short time to wait. It is gauranteed some guy is going to sniff you out litteraly and he's going to be like JACKPOT.

 

Don't be so hard on yourself body wise. A lot of girls are hard on themselves. If you weigh 118 any fat on your body is suposed to be there. If your stomach sticks out at 118 its the GOOD kind of stick out that looks good.

 

LMAO... why wouldn't I?? this was hilarious, only if Australia wasn't half the world away. You remind me of this girl that came all the way from England looking for sex here and I had to be lucky enough to meet her on the plane!

 

I'm glad Australia is half way around the world I have a gf and the distance turns this into pure entertainment instead of temptation lol.

 

But seriously you lucked out with plane girl haha.

[wcoastallstarz]

No offense, but it sounds like you're asking people how to be someone you're not. ****... Be yourself. Go with the flow. Everybody is pretty in their own way. Just keep ya head up and smile.

[Rashad]

I'm glad Australia is half way around the world I have a gf and the distance turns this into pure entertainment instead of temptation lol.

 

But seriously you lucked out with plane girl haha.

 

lol, I'm from Sudan and I was flying back home from my vacation and this chick sits next to me and you know, I spark a conversation and all and when I ask her what brings her to Sudan she had no answer for that, so I figured haha!

[abeja_reina_1989]

Sounds to me like you just need to put yourself out there. I'm sure you'll find the right person, you just need to be patient. Wouldn't you rather wait and find that right person than rush and find the wrong one?

[Leigh 87]

Ya think THAT is entertaining? well I just had another.. " free" PT session with hot 20 year old, and we talk about sex the whole time HA ha.

 

I turned up, and he said he would give me the session free, cos it cost a lot.

 

Basically, I told him " look, I am an honest girl and I just talk about sex with my guys friends - it is what I am like, and I talk about everything"

 

Lets just say he said he was finding it very...... " hard" to just sit around and talk about how horny I was.

 

He actually had to tell me to " stop" cos he didn't wanna walk around with a boner.

 

I told him " look. I want to have the best life posislbe. Best body, best personality, best of everything"

 

" I wan t to be rich, hot, and have as much as I can, and I do NOT need a guy or boyfriend to be happy. I have my OWN life".

 

He said he was sexually attracted to me. And he asked me if I was to him. I said I was.

 

He also likes my idea of casual sex.

 

SO. At the end of the session, I was a little annoyed that he said all of this, HE SAID he would WANT to basically f*ck me, yet he wo9uld not offer to relieve my sexual frusration.

 

So I got some water, and notices he walked passed, and instead of just ssaying " yeah.l.. bye" yet AGAIN, I was like' LOOK buddy"

 

I said " you think I am hot, so why dont u help me out?"

 

He said " he would bang the ***** out of me if he could. he said he was tempted".

 

But the went on to say " look. I woulkd feel weird about it, cos u have not had any sex for years, and I would not feel right about it".

 

... AND... he said " and I am kind of seeing some one, but it is not official".

 

He said that he needs to feel the right conmnection with a girl to want have sex with them.

 

I do not want him to want to have sex with me JUST cos he would screw ANY old thing; I would like to think that he would only be sexually attracted to me if I was appealing enough.

 

He said he was sexually attracted to me. And he is hot. So I am HOPING that he is not sexually attracted to just ANY average girl; I HOPE he is attracted to girls he finds HOT; and that he is nto sexually attracted to just an average girl.

 

 

 

I said to him " look, I am the kind of girl youc an gtell anything to, u can sit around and talk about sex with me, and u can talk about your girlfriend with me and I will give u advice"

 

He does not have any female friends that sit around offering him advice on sex and relatiuonship stuff.

 

I am a nice person, so I let him know that he can always talk to me about those things, to get a female opinion.

 

He went on to talk about the girl. MONIQE is her name. She is far younge than me.

 

He said " yeah, I cannot see us lasting, she annoys me how she talks too much"

 

I was like " yeah, it is good to be comortable in your own silence" and he was like :" yeah totally".

 

 

SO. You know what, I really had a good time just chatting to him, talking about sex and stuff.

 

I enjoy honest friendships with guys - to just sit around and talkl about sex and everything with them. I like to be the sort of girl guys can just tell anything to.

 

 

 

I enjoyed talking with him, and he did improve my confidence in my appearance.

 

He is hot, and HE thinks that I am hot.

[Leigh 87]

SO. I am motivated to go and live a great life - to become smarter, well read, interesting, and sweet.

 

AND, I intend to go to the gym and be one of thsoe hot women who can get younger guys haha. It is all for fun. It is good ot have FUn in life.

 

And he this guy is turned on by me for who I am, AND my body, then I will tease the hell out of him. For fun:).

 

If he comes and talks to me, I will just have fun with it.

 

For instance: we were sitting down closely and he was like " hehe, you need to shave your legs:".

 

 

Thing is. I WAX. I have gotten my legs and provate part waxed ( ALL of it, a brazillian) since I was bloody SEVENTEEN, THANK you very much .

 

I have gotten my private part waxed for the 4 years that I have had no sex. EVEN THOUGH NO GUY has seen me down there, I HAVE STILL kept my area nice and clean and hair free. WAXED, not shaved.

 

 

 

SO. If we get flirtly again, and after I JUST get my legs and private part waxed, I wil wait until we talk about sex again abd be like

 

" Hey, AS*hole, I got my legs AND my private area waxed, cos I WAX, NOT shave, which is WHY I get a teeny bit hairy about 3 weeks after each wax:)"

 

If he wants my body, then I plan to tease the hell out of him. HA ha.

 

What fun.

 

BEST PART. He deos nto think I should loose a kilo. Or POUND a syou YANKS say.

 

I realize I AM ME. AND the chick he is with, he sais is a skeleton. So he KNOWS what it is like to be with a model thin chick. He said he is nto particularly attracted to it. He said it is the whole package,m the personality and connection, too.

 

 

Looks like the whole package matters, hey? Good proportion; I am an hour glass shape, so my womenly, coke bottle waist, with larger breasts and a bubble curvy butt are well proportioned.

 

So a well proportioned body, a pretty enough face, and a great personality must be a winner.

 

I know that ONE DAY, ONE guy will love me and I will be perfect to him.

 

There will always be a girl prettyier, thinner, and better looking than me. The idea of love, is that some one will vie wyou as the most beautiful person TO THEM. Based on EVERYTHING about you.

 

 

 

 

So. I am hoping I have some spicy, sexy, intersting, and even funny sex stories to tell u about this gym guy.

 

If he ever wants me for sex one day, I whave a few fun things I feel like doing.

 

Like right there and then at the gym... I will grab his hands, and be like " so, do u like how my body feels"

 

if he gets very turned on by my body and feeling it, then I will be like " oh, there is something I need to chat to u about in private do ya mind?"

 

he has the personality to be like " oh yeah, sure"

 

And once there I will let him **** my brains out. HAH.

 

I will be tight after years without sex, do guys like girls who are tight down there?

 

 

 

lastly, GREEN - if u comem to AUS are u interested in relieving my 4 years of secual tension?

 

 

haha just joking.

 

I am going to stop masturbating for a week, and see if this guy changes his mind about me.

 

 

 

I mean, he DID ask if I was single when we first met. He has said he is sexually attractd to me. He knows I have an awsome personality.

 

And he DID tell me " oh I do not think I will last with this girl".

 

He did not speak very lovingly of her.

 

 

BUT YAY, I got a ANOTHER FREE PT session hahahaaaa...... Yay for me and my body.

 

But, ya know, I honestly do not need him emotionally any more; Today, at work, A nice guy said hi to me. He is well educated, but not as hot as the trainer.

 

But he is still aguy I would f*ck if I got to know him, and we had a connection if u get me? Boy friend material. Not just a hot f*ck.

 

So I really am moving on.

 

IF the hot trainer wants hot sex with me, it will just be a BONUS.

 

 

The end. Hopefully I will one day be able to update this thread detailing me hot sex with the trainer.

 

IF not, then.................. I will not come here AGAIN.

 

So if I ever comment here again it means I have gotten some sex after FOUR YEARS.

 

ANd I will go into all the details too:)

 

But if that never happens... then.............................................................................

 

 

byebye:)

[Green]

Wow just wow. You really need to save all your posts in a word document file or something because you could write a book with this stuff.

 

When I was a younger guy 18-22 I was pretty afraid of getting rejected by women. I would pretty much get shy and run if a girl showed interest.

 

Some 20 year old guys are smooth some are not. The guy you are interested in is obviously some where inbetween but you definetly have him into you.

 

You sound kinda wild and crazy but guys actualy like that as long as its not anoying and you are entertaining.

 

Make some girlfriends though it will really help with the loniliness. Remember this thread is about making "friends" and girls make the best friends for other girls.

[Miko]

If you really wanna get your mind right & make friends I HIGHLY suggest you, and everyone else for that matter, read 'how to win friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie. Even just the first half should do the trick, it's a quick read anyway. I found myself thinking about all the people that I enjoy spending time with and was like 'Woah, they're just like that, and I can be too'.

 

Check it out, sounds like you're cute and in shape but I don't imagine that'll get you many girlfriends lol

[Leigh 87]

Glad u find the ramblings about my life entertaining. But I really am just describing the day to day events.

 

Yes. Crazy is great. But when girls r crazy in a bad way, it usually results in emotional attatchment and being too needy. Or other kinds of crazy include the " stalkers", or obsessive types of girls.

 

Also, crazy can also mean when girls dump too much emotional cr@p on their boyfriend, or on people in general. I make sure to keep my problems and my despair between me and my psychologist. I tell no one else.

 

I will try not to waste too much time thinking about what the hot 20 year old REALLY thinks about me, however, I am done with initiating any contact with him. I am aloso done hoping for anything. I got very horny and wanted a nice f*ck from him, to relieve tension, but I have decided that masturbating with my hand will do for now. It works.

 

It is only when I DO NOT masturbate that I get too horny, and go asking personal trainers at the gym for sex haha. Well, I only asked this guy for sex because we were talking about sex for ages, he said he was sexually attracted to me, asked if I was sexually attracted to him, so I thought I had nothinhg to lose by asking a guy I am attracted to, for sex.

 

For all I know, he could have just enjoyed the ego boost he got from me telling himn that he is hot; he laments on how he thinks I am hot, so I simply tell him how I view him.

 

Because when it came down to it, I finally said " well, if u think I am so bloody hot and would f*ck me, then COME AND DO IT, SHEESH!

 

... And he did not accept my lovely offer. He said he would feel wrongly about it, and that he is also seeing a some body, but that it was not official, and he did not speak as though he was in love or crazy about the girl.

 

He could have decined the opportunity to SCREW me, for a NUMBER of reasons, which there is no point thinking about; as I wil never truley know what another person is thinking about a given situation. Who ever knows what another person is thinking any way?

 

 

I am just going to keep doing the best I can with my life, and if he wants me he is welcome to come and get me.

 

But I am done for now.

 

Although as I said, I WOULD love to be able to do something funny. For instance, if he ever approached me and said " hey, DO you want to get together after all?"

 

I would not just be boring about it. Heck no. Not after no sex in over 4 years.

 

No no no. I want to keep life interesting. I would like to respond by saying " hey, I have something I need to tell u, can we go some place private, I am too embarrassed to let any one hear me"

 

I would then follow him to the private area, and F*ck him right there and then.

 

*sigh*. One day, if I DO attract the attention of a guy that I feel is up for it, I would LOVE to just have a funny experience like that haha!

 

I am starting a journal too. Because I enjoy writing about my life, I like keeping a record of the daily significance to remind myself that I am alive, so the days do not just fade away. I want to make a mark through at least writing it down.

 

And one day some one close to me me can read it. And perhaps if my life is interesting enough, OTHER ppl may actually want to read the daily events in my life. Although I doubt it.

 

 

SEE ya all later. I probably will not have anything very facinating to report for some time. I am not counting on it.

 

Like I said before, masturbating is keeping me from going and wanting sex from the gym trainer.

 

Although even if I stopped masturbating and could not contain my self, I would still LOGICALLY know that I should nto ask the trainer for sex...

 

Because I have dignity and KNOW that it is WRONG to ask a guy for sex if he has already SAID NO.

 

But the logical, rational part of me ( my brain,.,,) may not function if the OTHER part of me over comes me.

 

Seeya later, whatever bored people r actually reading all of this OMG.

[Green]

I read it all it was great. If I were one of the many single guys on this site i'd be trying to fly you out already. Good luck

[Leigh 87]

Just read my post. I will just copy and paste them in one big document. And add additional ramblings.

 

I like reading real life stories. I enjoy writing about my life, and will do it for my own satsfaction, and my mother also loves to read such things about me. If any one else is interested, and are entertained by my life than it would make me happy that my life has provided entertainment for other people.

 

I basically see myself as a young women, who is not hidious looking, who is trying to have as successfull of a life as possible, and believes that building myself into the kindest, funniest, smartest women that I CAN be, will in turn, lead to a better sex life.

 

Because the more appealing you are over all as a person, the more options u have sexually. Wish me luck. So far masturbating once a day keeps me from wanting to have sex with random hot trainers at the gym.

 

Apparently guys are not the same;I have a friend, is also in a similar predicament as I am. He has not gotten any action for some time and is frustrated too.

 

However, he says that jerking off only makes him want sex more; where as if I masturbate I do not feel the need to allure a guy in just to please me. ON the other hand, if I DO NOT masturbate, it builds up and I want to have sex very badly.

 

Gosh, I think it i shard for ME to go without sex, at least I have masturbating to keep me sane enough to go about my daily life. It would be SO HARD if I had to LIVE with my sexual frustration, with NO respite through being able to relieve myself

 

soz bout the spelling, it is 12 in AUS and I am going to bed. I am not masturbaing tonight. I am eating some goats cheese and going to bed

 

BUt I will obviiously need to masturbate in the morning OR tomorrow night. Other wise the poor trainer boyt iwll be in my head too much.

 

AT least it is for his body, and I am not emotionally invested. It is just about sex thank gosh.

[Green]

wow... why not have sex with ur frustrated guy friend... (to good of a friendship... not your type...)

 

enjoy your sleep you truely are one of the coolest people on this site.

[Leigh 87]

Paul is a very good friend, who I am not at all attracted to; it would be like f*cking my own dad. Just WRONG.

 

He is also 40. I am 23. But I would go for an older guy if they were hot:). Plus I can probably get more attractive OLDER men, than I can the equivelent of younger men.

 

Paul lives a plane trip away. He is having delimmas too. AFter years of no sex he suddenly has 2 women interested. Unfortunately, they r mother and daughter LOL.

 

So yeah. I guess that rules having a threesome out. LOL.

 

BUt in all seriousness he is a great guy, he is a nice person like m e and deserve sot be happy. And free of the insanity that sexual frustration can bring.

 

 

Goodnight Green I like reading your posts, I justhad a snack and think I will end up masturabting before sleeping.

 

I am not so descriptive or open about sex with people in my real life, I make sure I have that sort of relationship with them,a nd they r the sort of person who likes that type of approach.

 

Thanks for saying I am cool. I have potential and feel I have a lot to offer to people, as a friend and partner. however, I have a lot of work to contuinue doing on myself.

 

I have psychological issues, like many people do ( I know I am not special), and get depressed, and once a day I have to cry loudly, and feel completely frozen in my pain.

 

I am giving life a chance because I have the tools to lead a good life ( financially, physically, intelectually). Many people have far less than I do and find reasons to live, and find things to live for.

 

Frankly, having everything I need and knowing I have a good chance at a good life is nto enough,. I still have psychological issues that make me very depressed. Every day.

 

I see a lot of hope at this point and am sticking around for it. But I am suicidle at times, but am currently forcing myself to hang in there. Because I have to at least try for a while and give life a chance.

 

I have managed to be able to go from not wanting to get out of bed, to going and trying to get jobs in my spare time, finding hobbies and interest, such as writing andf designing clothes, and I feel more hopefully now that I am at least doing cionsutructive things with me time.

 

 

I am going to buy that book, " how to win friends and influence people". I like reading, but have not read much laterly. I have too much despair and anxious thoughts in my head, to the extent where I cannot shut off my mind long enough to even read a bloody book.

 

Hopefully I will develop some great tips on how to attract men and women. AND have a happy ending, with lots of great sex.

 

 

in the meantime, HAVE GREAT sex for me haha. Iam not getting any, so I hope YOU all go and really enjoy it for me.

 

Goodnight.