Webcamming/skyping

[Unistudent]

OK.... I read this in another post and was just wondering how common it is.

 

Does everyone and their SO webcam/skype through the night?

 

I know that my gf finds it comforting/she likes watching me sleep when she gets up in the morning (I am 5 hours behind her)... and I really don't mind watching her sleep... shes really adorable when she does and sometimes even sleep types to me... which is funny/fun to decypher her messages.

 

This may sound creepy to some... I know my friends think that its odd.

 

Let me know what you all do

[Citizen Erased]

We do it too. It's comforting that he's there, our time difference is insane (it's 2:30pm Monday here and 12:30am Monday there) so we have to take what we can.

 

He's adorable when he sleeps and he wakes up sometimes and says the most random things. It will be such a relief when we no longer have to use skype of course.

[Shakz]

I think it would be invaluable to a LDR. But, if you see each other in person on a regular basis, well, seems kind of obsessive to me. Or, I would wonder if she was worried that I was waking up with someone else.

[Unistudent]

Ah yeah.. not the case with me.. shes an ocean away from me .

 

WOW thats a huge time difference @ Citizen.... where are you two? Sounds like he is in Ontario (like me... because its 12:40ish now)...

 

jeez... I couldn't imagine

[electricity]

We don't. We only webcam once/twice a week as is, due to time differences. Every couple does things their own way - it really doesn't matter what your friends think, if it works for you.

 

You should be careful though - it sounds like she has access to her keyboard from her bed? Make sure you're not placing your laptops on your beds - the bedding can cover up the vent fans and insulate the laptop, causing it to overheat.

[Unistudent]

lol @ bonetrager... actually ive seen some creepy things before... and taken screen shots to show her later ( was just the shadows but it still looked creepy)

 

Woop... this time zone!

 

@electricity... I have a desktop that I just turn towards my bed... she has a laptop that's on a nightstand. Thank you for the concern though Some people don't realize the fire hazard for sure.

 

Yeah I just tell my friends their nuts...

[Citizen Erased]

I'm in Sydney and he is in Detroit. So yeah, Skype is a lifesaver.

[Citizen Erased]

You all are wack(no offense)

 

I'd be too afraid of my LDR SO and her friends over at a slumber party looking at me sleeping without my knowledge... All laughing and making pig, snorting noises at the screen... I could never sleep.

 

If I knew they were watching, I'd purposely do funny things...EG...get up slowly, turn on a light, do the hammer time dance..(Go Hammer Go Hammer) then go back to bed lmao.

 

Ha-Ha..the possibilities....this **** could be fun actually.

 

Seeing as you've never been in a LDR, or a relationship for that matter, why are you contributing to this thread? To make light of our relationships? Wow. You are so much better off all alone than we are leaving skype on to remain as close as we can be to the people that love us.

 

I understand that any kind of intimacy isn't something you are familiar with, but we do what we have to do in our difficult situations and to make fun of that is screwed up.

[Unistudent]

Well... I know my SO would be showing me off to her friends... so I wouldn't mind it too much.

But I also know that she respects me and wouldn't have me on cam to friends/family if I didn't giver her permission. I am the same way with her.

 

These LDR rely heavily on trust and respect... so generally you would only leave the cams up all night if you had both of those.

 

Like Citizen said... it's really a type of intimacy... we don't get to sleep next to each other so all we can really do is have the cams up so that it semi creates that illusion.

 

Thank you for your comment though... I asked for opinions and that is one.

 

lol @ Citizen... yeah my gf has done that before too... she has such a confused look on her face when she gets up mid sleep and then starts typing (we aren't using skype atm so there is no sound).... when she was here back in May though she actually started talking gibberish to me in her sleep. I couldn't understand her so I asked her what she said... she repeated the gibberish exactly three more times before I woke her up and we had a good laugh about it

 

Those types of memories always make me smile.

[Pyro]

I love skype. Sure beats a huge phone bill.

 

I enjoy watching her sleep at night and I especially enjoy watching her dress for work and undress for bed.

[impz]

I love skype. Sure beats a huge phone bill.

 

I enjoy watching her sleep at night and I especially enjoy watching her dress for work and undress for bed.

 

Nod nod. I particularly enjoy seeing my wife sleep at night with her absolutely blissful face, and lying to her when she wakes up about how much she snores (she doesn't and I do). That said, we are ending our LDR very soon, and she's moving in with me. I simply can't wait for the day when she moves in permanently.

[Omei]

Me (Canada) him (Arizona) we Skype and use msn webcam all day...not skype cam it seems laggy and too small of a picture. After his day at college he'll come home to me and we'll get on msn voice/cam and play alot of World Of Warcraft or watch movies or tv shows or we'll just sit quitely together while he does his school work, or we'll just sit and talk and laugh together. If hes -home- we're most likely together on cam we're both very clingy I guess nor I or him ever complain about the amount of time we spend together and then when the night ends we get on our laptops and sleep together the only nights we don't is if hes with his friends all night like tonight, but he always comes back after tells me he got home and sends me a sleepy cam we're so very big on using the cam. <3 it.

 

Btw reading a lot of the posts on this forum made me grateful just how much he spends his extra time with me all of it almost. We have a pretty solid routine I am grateful we only have 2 hours apart and our lives mesh at the right time allowing us to spend so much time together. Sorry to those who have huge time differences must be ever harder

[aerogurl87]

My boyfriend and I used our webcams together for the first time last night and now I can see why everyone loves it. We're two hours apart and I got to see his sexy self walk around half naked when he got ready for bed, hehe. Then we talked while we both laid in bed and it was like I was sort of there with him again, falling asleep beside him. We usually skype each other every day, in fact I don't think one day has passed since we have known each other where we haven't talked on skype aside from the first few days we met online and just chatted on msn. But yeah I love skyping and now webcamming too.

[madjac74]

It shows how much effort they will put into the relationship when they get the chance to be together for real... So in the long run..mayby an LDR is a good thing.

 

You seem to be making the assumption that all LDR's start in a chatroom or something. I actually met my girlfriend here and in person and then she had to move away for a job. We made the decision to stay together despite the distance. I understand how you would make those assumptions these days. I know a few people who have never met in real life and consider themselves in a relationship. I'm pretty open minded since I've been in an LDR but I refuse to believe you can be in a relationship without ever meeting first.

[Citizen Erased]

You seem to be making the assumption that all LDR's start in a chatroom or something. I actually met my girlfriend here and in person and then she had to move away for a job. We made the decision to stay together despite the distance. I understand how you would make those assumptions these days. I know a few people who have never met in real life and consider themselves in a relationship. I'm pretty open minded since I've been in an LDR but I refuse to believe you can be in a relationship without ever meeting first.

 

I agree. Although I met my fiancé on here, we didn't count ourselves as "official" until we met. We agreed we wouldn't see other people (not that we wanted to anyway ) but that was about it.

 

I don't envy you, that would be so hard to have them around every day and then...not.

[Citizen Erased]

My boyfriend and I used our webcams together for the first time last night and now I can see why everyone loves it. We're two hours apart and I got to see his sexy self walk around half naked when he got ready for bed, hehe. Then we talked while we both laid in bed and it was like I was sort of there with him again, falling asleep beside him. We usually skype each other every day, in fact I don't think one day has passed since we have known each other where we haven't talked on skype aside from the first few days we met online and just chatted on msn. But yeah I love skyping and now webcamming too.

 

The half naked part is the best...ok the fully naked is. I love waking up and seeing him there, it's so comforting.

 

The only thing, I'm not sure if it's just me, I wake up a lot when we have the webcam on. I see him smiling at me and I have to talk to him. I can't wait until this is over so I can get a decent nights sleep.

[Shakz]

Hell, I have a stupid cell phone I got today I am trying to figure out..It has a camera, apps and all sorts of options....I don't want that crap!....I don't even want a cell, but my job insist that I do:rolleyes:.......

 

I wanna go back to 1985:cool:

 

Remember when you used to carry change in your pocket for the pay phone and chat-up some chick while you were waiting for the line? That's a lost art, to say the least: lost forever. Ah, the good old days.

[aerogurl87]

The half naked part is the best...ok the fully naked is. I love waking up and seeing him there, it's so comforting.

 

The only thing, I'm not sure if it's just me, I wake up a lot when we have the webcam on. I see him smiling at me and I have to talk to him. I can't wait until this is over so I can get a decent nights sleep.

 

Yes seeing him fully naked is a whole lot better, hehe. And in less than 2 months I'll get to see him in person for 3 weeks.

 

And I don't think I could sleep with my webcam on. I'm weird and need my room to be completely dark to sleep well. So we turned off our laptops before we went to bed and then he texted me this morning before he headed off to work.

[controlledchaos]

not sure how old you are, but no it's not just for 'youngins' LOL.

 

i use it a bit here and there, not with a boyfriend type thing, but with a friend in iraq. we have a great time skyping! he uses it with his wife and kids for not only keeping in touch but also for some level of "intimacy" with his wife. since they can't be together they are able to make the best of the situation with skype and webcams.

 

my kids use it with my dad, and that is a pretty funny sight!!

 

i remember the days before cell phones, skype, web cams, etc. lol. seems SOOO long ago. i think Long Distance relationships are easier to maintain now because of all the cool changes in technology. on my phone alone i can chat via several different programs ( trillian is great for this) and it doesn't cost anything extra. it's super easy to keep in touch and have it not be expensive ( like talking on the phone for hours). and i think that's why i like skype and the like so much. it's easier to feel like the person is right there!!

 

 

 

Oyy, here it comes.... I"M ENVIOUS!! there..

 

Holy ****, it would be a triumph if I made it to the bar and had a small relationship even if it lasted one beer:rolleyes: let alone an LDR

I wonder if older LDR peeps do this web cam thing..... Seems like it's a thing for you youngyuns.

Just seems so bleek being far away for long times and nothing but cam..better than nothing, but I would literally go berzerkers and die.

 

Hell, I have a stupid cell phone I got today I am trying to figure out..It has a camera, apps and all sorts of options....I don't want that crap!....I don't even want a cell, but my job insist that I do:rolleyes:.......

 

I wanna go back to 1985:cool:

[madjac74]

 

Hell, I have a stupid cell phone I got today I am trying to figure out..It has a camera, apps and all sorts of options....I don't want that crap!....I don't even want a cell, but my job insist that I do:rolleyes:.......

 

I wanna go back to 1985:cool:

 

Haha! I used to hate cell phones (ok well I still do) but now I cant go a day without mine. You should have seen my first phone bill when she first moved away Does anyone remember twirling the cord when they talked on the phone in the old days?

[Unistudent]

I actually met my gf through a cam chat program. Like Citizen I didn't really consider us a couple until we met and saw how things went in person and if we clicked just as well in person as we did online.

 

I get to see my gf in her undies a lot of the time... drives me insane... lol... but yeah that is always a plus with the webcams up. I donno if I would want to see her fully naked though... well... I would... but I think it would drive me a little too insane...

 

Some nights (like tonight) she wakes up and lets me know that the light from the laptop is keeping her up. She then just says goodnight again and turns it off. It is really comforting to have the cams up though.

[Pyro]

I actually met my gf through a cam chat program. Like Citizen I didn't really consider us a couple until we met and saw how things went in person and if we clicked just as well in person as we did online.

 

I get to see my gf in her undies a lot of the time... drives me insane... lol... but yeah that is always a plus with the webcams up. I donno if I would want to see her fully naked though... well... I would... but I think it would drive me a little too insane...

 

Some nights (like tonight) she wakes up and lets me know that the light from the laptop is keeping her up. She then just says goodnight again and turns it off. It is really comforting to have the cams up though.

 

Skyping is a nightly occurrence between CE and myself so we are use to the light. It stays on every night.

 

I understand what you mean about the nudity. What keeps me from going insane is knowing that our time apart is only temporary and will be done hopefully by March or April.

[Unistudent]

Ah! I'm so jealous of all of you! well the ones who get to see/be with their SO really soon or permanently soon.

 

*sigh* I guess I just have to suck it up... finish school and get the ball rolling on the citizenship.

[Romance]

no. when we didnt see each other much at all we'd fall asleep on the phone together and let it go all night.

 

we never skype. we have like, once. i'd rather talk on the phone and so would he.

 

we see each other at least once a month for a weekend though, maybe thats why.

[LisaLee]

Although we haven't done so in the last few nights because of circumstances we usually sleep with Skype on and have for quite a while. When we first started talking we were in communication A LOT so there was a period of time when I kept waiting for our talks to taper off. In fact, the opposite happened, the more cemented our relationship became the more we were wanting to be in touch with each other, until it eventually got to the point where we were sleeping with Skype on.

 

The light doesn't bother me, btw. I go to sleep and my bf usually goes to sleep an hour or two later. He shuts off his light, mine is already shut off, and since he's fullscreened my computer is pretty dark.

 

I remember how glad I was when I learned that others slept with Skype on as well. At first I was embarrassed to admit it, but when others admitted to it in another thread I was relieved. But the more I think about it the more it makes sense. We're in a relationship, we love each other, and we want to maximize our time together. If you have the technology why not utilize it?

Edited September 7, 2010 by LisaLee
Lots of typos... not wearing my glasses!