Is bad sex enough of a reason to end a marriage?

[LittleTiger]

I think she has told him loud and clear that he sucks..... Above is just one of many posts she made.....

 

Good point TDP, I'd forgotten she wrote that. The words 'feedback' and 'tutorial' certainly aren't a good sign.

 

If it's as bad as the OP makes it look, I'm surprised her husband hasn't already walked. His self esteem must be in the toilet!

[giotto]

 

If it's as bad as the OP makes it look, I'm surprised her husband hasn't already walked. His self esteem must be in the toilet!

 

but if he loves his wife dearly, he won't do that. He will be hoping that it will be al right or maybe that she is going through a rough patch. If you love someone with all your heart, self-esteem can take second place. I think she should be walking, not him...

[LittleTiger]

but if he loves his wife dearly, he won't do that. He will be hoping that it will be al right or maybe that she is going through a rough patch. If you love someone with all your heart, self-esteem can take second place. I think she should be walking, not him...

 

Yes, I agree with you. He must indeed love his wife very much which is what makes the whole thing so sad.

 

She should be the one to walk, of course, it's her who isn't happy (apparently). I was just expressing surprise that, if the OP has indeed made it glaringly obvious how unsatisfied she is with her husband's progress at pleasing her, that he hasn't got sick of it by now. Even when we do love someone completely, we all have our limits.

 

I put my own self esteem in second place at the end of my marriage, I think a lot of people do this. I really wish I hadn't though because I would have got through the bad times so much faster.

 

I can actually empathise with both parties in this situation but I still think there's a missing piece here somewhere. If his self esteem is as low as the OPs posts suggest it must be, then how can every other aspect of their marriage be so good? I'm not saying she hasn't been honest with us (how would be know), I'm saying perhaps she's not being honest with herself.

[giotto]

I'm not saying she hasn't been honest with us (how would be know), I'm saying perhaps she's not being honest with herself.

 

and it looks like we will never know...

[tropicalfox]

Yes, I agree with you. He must indeed love his wife very much which is what makes the whole thing so sad.

 

She should be the one to walk, of course, it's her who isn't happy (apparently). I was just expressing surprise that, if the OP has indeed made it glaringly obvious how unsatisfied she is with her husband's progress at pleasing her, that he hasn't got sick of it by now. Even when we do love someone completely, we all have our limits.

 

I put my own self esteem in second place at the end of my marriage, I think a lot of people do this. I really wish I hadn't though because I would have got through the bad times so much faster.

 

I can actually empathise with both parties in this situation but I still think there's a missing piece here somewhere. If his self esteem is as low as the OPs posts suggest it must be, then how can every other aspect of their marriage be so good? I'm not saying she hasn't been honest with us (how would be know), I'm saying perhaps she's not being honest with herself.

 

If what the OP says is true and her husband is "not opposed to the idea of a divorce" then he is either a doormat or completely zoned out of the marriage already.

[jimrich]

I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that! Life is too short to be that miserable and know that it is not ever likely to change.........No, I'd be gone!

If you are that unhappy and unfulfilled it must be just about as bad for him so you both need to move on and at least try to find fulfillment and happiness with someone else.

[Tiberius]

Lets see you get his money, custody of the children child support the house, the car, maybe even alimony. I can see why you are considering doing away with the one thing you do not like.