lilylover Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months now. We were talking last night, and he can't remember the first time we told eachother that we loved one another. I remember it exactly, every little detail. But he doesnt remember a thing. This wouldn't bug me so much if he hadn't told me just the week before a detailed description of the first time his ex girlfriend of four years told him that he loved her. He can remember where they were, what what was said, what they were doing, everything. Is this just a coincidence? I can't help but feel that maybe that moment wasn't important to him, and that gets even more prominent with the fact that he remembers the first time his ex girlfriend told him ... four years ago. I know I am most likely just being crazy, but yeah. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Marty_McFly Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Was it a big production when his ex said it to him? Maybe they just happened to be in a unique place, or his ex made a huge deal about it or something, and it made him remember. By contrast, maybe yours was a little more low-key or more of a process to him rather than a big, instantaneous moment. Regardless, this is really unimportant. Every relationship starts differently. Maybe he was at a different stage in the relationship with you when you said it than he was when his ex said it. Or maybe he didn't really realize at the time that this relationship was going to turn out so well, so he didn't take a note of certain things when they happened along the way. None of that matters. The only thing that matters is how he feels about you NOW. Just because he maybe didn't fall for you as fast as he did with his ex, or as fast as you did with him, doesn't mean he doesn't care as much now. If he's giving you what you want and need now, and you are feeling love from him now, that's really all that matters. You should stop focusing on past events and look at now and the future. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Well nuttin' against 'em, but guys generally don't pay as much attention to details about this kind of thing as women do. It's just how we're different. But I do think it was very tacky and in poor taste for him to tell you the details of when his ex declared her love for him. What the hell was he thinking by sharing this with you? It sorta goes up there in the "too much information" category. Did you ask him WHY he bothered to tell you something so irrelevant? Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted February 21, 2004 Share Posted February 21, 2004 Well nuttin' against 'em, but guys generally don't pay as much attention to details about this kind of thing as women do. It's just how we're different. Perhaps she was his "first love" and that's why it stands out in his mind? But I do think it was very tacky and in poor taste for him to tell you the details of when his ex declared her love for him. What the hell was he thinking by sharing this with you? It sorta goes up there in the "too much information" category. Did you ask him WHY he bothered to tell you something so irrelevant? Link to post Share on other sites
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