my sister is making me mad

[chucksbabygurl17]

well let me tell you about my sister her name is megan she is 19 she is

 

the meanest person you would ever meet. Well she used to be a good

 

person until she started doing drugs and now nobody wants to be around

 

her anymore because she dosent respect anybody and if she dosent get

 

what she wants she flips out it dosent matter who you are or where

 

she is at. Dont get me wrong she is my sis and I do love her alot but

 

I just dont want to be around her or have her at my house.. Because my

 

boyfriend and I lived beside her and the one day she started a really big

 

fight with us over somthing really stupiod and it got out of hand and she

 

started yelling in my face and one thing led to another she started to hit

 

me and my boyfriend tried to get her off of me and she wouldnt so her

 

boyfriend got in it and he started yelling at my boyfriend for just trying

 

to help me and he couldnt take it anymore so he punch her boyfriend in

 

the face and got my sister off of me. After that she got us kicked out of

 

our house and we had to find a place right away and he sucked cuz we

 

had no money for awhile... now the one day she had my mom call me

 

to tell me she want to have peice with us and I said we would but she is

 

not alowed at my house and I dont want to hang out with her and she got

 

mad and so did my mom and now she is fighting with me again I need

 

somones advice am I in the wrong for not letting her in my house or

 

around me I dont think I am but I feel like I am doing something wrong I

 

just want her to feel what I been feeling:lmao:

[jimrich]

I get sick sometimes reading about sibling wars because I know that all sibling trouble begins with BAD PARENTAL role modeling but siblings carry on as if it's all their own fault and doing when, in fact, these fighting siblings are just acting like little programmed robots carrying on the rotten examples they received from their parental role models at an early age.

 

What mystifies me most about our minds and memory is that we somehow forget all the little daily examples, conditioning, programing and influences we were given as little kids that have led up to our current BAD relationship with our siblings and never get around to the real question: why do I dislike and fight with my very own sibling? What is at the root of our dislike for each other? How did we get this way?

 

I'd guess that most of us, raised by adults who them selves were damaged in early childhood, suspect that something happened when we were little kids which created our current discomfort and that 'something' has to do with how mom and dad and others treated us (and each other) back then. But, since we either dare not or just can not put the blame where it really belongs - ON OUR PARENTS and our early UPBRINGING, we shift the blame and hate to a simpler and safer target - OUR SIBLING! Of course it helps if you are given training and programing to hate or dislike you sibling from the beginning by your parents.

 

re: I need somones advice

.... My advice is: do whatever it takes to realize that you and your sister are VICTIMS of early family programing to hate instead of love and respect each other BUT it's not too late to undo the emotional damage that was done to you both in early childhood and rebuild the correct and loving relationship you both deserved and should have had from the beginning. You can not only make peace with your very own sister but become loving, respectful friends again. It's up to you to reversed the rotten, unfriendly training you were given as a child by you parents and become your sisters LOVING friend now.

I suggest you search the web and in books for information about: siblings, sibling rivalry, or anything having to do with siblings and family, and get started learning how to build a loving relationship with your very own precious sister before it's too late.

And one more thing.

Please learn all you can about adequate parenting so that you DO NOT pass this horrible, hateful, insanity on to your own kids through hateful, ignorant parental role modeling.

I'd give you specific examples of what and how to do this but it would take up many many pages and there isn't room here. Just decide if you want to make things better and then dive in - it's worth it to have love and peace instead of the sh*t you are in right now.