pandagirl Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 I agree, but I've come to the conclusion that most people lack compassion deep down, in that they might be nice on the surface, but will become selfish when anything is at stake. You don't really know where someone's goodness ends until you've known them for a long time, and witnessed how they act under duress. There are definitely exceptions (I know a few), and when you meet one of those genuinely good people you hold on to them. I don't know if people lack compassion, but I do think a lot of people become selfish. I think my recent ex is selfish, but he is compassionate. I think I am one of those "few." And unfortunately, I haven't met another person like this to complement me. They're all takers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 9, 2010 Author Share Posted September 9, 2010 OK, the brief extreme sadness passed, faster than I thought it would. I still feel some lingering sadness about it, but I'll be OK. I just need to not let myself feel bad. Link to post Share on other sites
tornandmarried Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 not sure what happened but he mighta just felt bitter about handing over money to you.....see it as a good sign that last conversation could have been alot worse...and when u get over him and he needs a friend u can tell him "no i wont"....i maintained friendships with most of my ex's and im grateful theyre still in my life to some degree...unless u really did alot to hurt him hes gonna think back and wanna talk to u someday Link to post Share on other sites
elaina Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 In even getting upset about this, you're relinquishing the power over your emotional state to someone else. You'll neve ever ever find happiness if you don't realize that YOU control your thoughts and take steps to control your own happiness. So true! I know it's hard but Shadow, you gotta get out of basing your happiness on a man. It's great to be happy with a wonderful man in your life, but that's totally different than being dependent on a man for happiness. It's hard, but you can do it! You are a very intelligent woman; you can become strong and be happy and love you for You! Link to post Share on other sites
elaina Posted September 9, 2010 Share Posted September 9, 2010 I just need to not let myself feel bad. True! Yeah good for you! You are an amazing woman, please don't cut yourself down or base yourself on ANY guy. Please enjoy life and have fun and breathe fresh air! It's all about mentality. Link to post Share on other sites
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