shopgrl Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I don't expect to receive many responses b/c this isn't a really exciting post but any input would help.... To all you girls out there... would you want to know your bf is going to propose before he does or wouldn't it make a difference whether you knew or not? My sister told me that my bf said he is getting me a ring next month. Now don't get me wrong, my bf and I have talked about marriage, kids and everything so I kinda already expected to get a ring within the next few months. But now, I'm just scared that the proposal won't be as "special" since my sister sorta confirmed my expectation. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I think it's kinda of nice to have a surprise. I've been proposed to twice, the 1st time I knew it was coming but didn't know when. The second time I was totally off guard. I think being a surprise is what makes it exciting. I can't understand why people have to blow the surprise. I've only been on this site for about 3 weeks and I think yours is the 3rd time I've read that someone has spoiled the surprise. If it was a surprise birthday party would they have blown it to. At least you don't know when, where or how so he can still get you with the element of surprise. Tell your sister that if she knows anything else you don't want to know about it. Good Luck and I know the moment will still be special. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I REALLY don't see the point of having everything planned, especially the proposal. What the HELL do it for if she knows it's coming? That takes all the fun out. WHen it's obvious, how can it be any good? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 I never even really experienced a "proposal". We both just sort of decided that getting married would be good. There wasn't an event, just a dawning realization. That's the way I like it. I don't care much for surprises - I get a lot more enjoyment out of the anticipation of pleasure (mmmmmmm....) than having it thrust upon me suddenly (oof!). One thing I DID want is a chance to choose the ring. Yup, I had him take me shopping. We chose together, then I walked around the block while he haggled over price. That way I was sure to get a ring I like, and 15 years later I still like it and wear it. There are a lot of ugly, expensive rings out there... Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Now that your sister's told you that he plans to get you a ring (and I'm assuming propose) this month, there's nothing you can "do" about having this information. Does it really matter all that much if his proposal won't be as much of a surprise? I mean, what's really most important.....some big romantic surprise, or the fact that the man you love, who loves you, is going to ask you to marry him/spend your lives together. I think too many women get far too hung up on the scenario/details of "the proposal" and lose sight of what it all means.....the important stuff.....that someone is asking you to marry them. Just like too many women get all caught up in the details of the wedding and lose sight of what's MOST important: the actual marriage. Don't lose sight of what's really important. Link to post Share on other sites
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