impossible situation..save me?

[xomissraddox]

it was an uphill battle getting my marriage straightened out and back in order. my H is 21 and i am 19 and we rent out a 15x20' room for 500/mo at my parents house. i am the oldest of 4 in my family, and all siblings live here. i am expecting in 2 months and my parents promised us a much needed larger room in the house for the same price we pay now.

 

my dad is a drunk. point blank, but he is in denial. we get along just fine when he is sober, but when he drinks no one can reason with him. he isnt violent, and will only yell and argue and get in your face.

 

this passed labor day, we had a cookout. and he was, of course, drinking the whole day. there was a tiny bit of drama in my family and so my mom, my sister, and i were agitated after everyone had left. my H came home late from work and i put a pot of water to boil on the stove. i then went into the room to talk to my H and see how his day was and discuss the pointless drama that had occored earlier and when i went to check on the water it was off. i asked the family who had turned off my water? (mind it being about 11pm)that was it. i guess my sister had an attitude or something shortly before i came back out into the kitchen and my dad blew up on me. over pointless boiling water. he told me to get out, that i am a failure at life bc im 19, have a regents diploma, am married and pregnant and am trying soo hard to make ends meet?

he thretened to kick me out and knowing we cant afford a apartment(or trust me when i say id be out of here soo quick) told me to sleep in my H's car etc.

so that night my H and i went to his friends house and we staied there bc my drunken dad made him so uncomfortable(and this wasent the first time something like this had happened)

 

upon the way home the next morning (on the last turn onto my street) my H and i were rear ended by a truck owned by a very known water company. it messed up my back and neck and i was sent to the hospital (not only for myself but they had me admitted all day monitoring the baby). needless to say, we need a new car. we cant afford a new car and the 500 rent that is over due bc we forgot about labor day and the bank was closed for 3 days. now we have a hospital bill, monthly rent, and accident bills, not to mention our baby will be here in early november.

 

,yesterday, i somehow caught poison ivy and its all over my face. this is bad news bears because i am *highly* allergic to the stuff and now, i had to go to the doctor, and we are being billed for that. not to mention my cellphone bill had to be paid yesterday, and i wasent called in to baby sit in over a week.

 

now, i am being threatened yet again to get kicked out bc of a ridiculous argument with my brother over the volume of the tv. of course he goes crying to my dad whenever he doesnt get his way and with my dad still being poed over labor day he sides with my brother.

 

not only that but i feel like i have to be stepping on eggshells and kissing ass and do nothing but good plus pay rent to live here, when i am treated like scum most of the time. i feel like i am not allowed to get angry or i will get kicked out, and especially with my little brother i get into so much trouble because he is at that age where he questions authority and is out of control bc "im not the boss" or "i am not his mom"

i feel like i have no respect from anyone in this house but my H and my mother, who tries soo hard to help me out whenever she can(but even we clash heads sometimes) i feel trapped and stressed and i have nothing to do and nowhere to go until we make enough money to keep an apartment. i dont have a car or licence, which i have been trying so hard to get for years but i just dont have the transportation for it. i want to go to school in the spring, but idk if that will ever happen considering DSS wont give me any benefits.

i feel like the people i live with purposely push my buttons (especially my brother) and i am so afraid all the stress this house is causing me is unhealthy not only for me, but for my unborn son, and noone but my H, my sister, and my mother care at all about it.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Unless you live in Manhattan, you can get a room or a whole apartment for $500 a month. That's what I think you should do. You are a married couple with a baby on the way and you should be conducting your lives like adults, making your own decisions and dealing with your OWN issues. You'll have your hands full without all the extra family drama.

 

Why do you pay rent to live there in the first place? I could understand perhaps if they were doing you a favor letting you stay for free so you could save for your own place ...

[Mme. Chaucer]

 

 

upon the way home the next morning (on the last turn onto my street) my H and i were rear ended by a truck owned by a very known water company. it messed up my back and neck and i was sent to the hospital (not only for myself but they had me admitted all day monitoring the baby). needless to say, we need a new car. we cant afford a new car and the 500 rent that is over due bc we forgot about labor day and the bank was closed for 3 days. now we have a hospital bill, monthly rent, and accident bills, not to mention our baby will be here in early november.

 

 

The insurance of the truck will cover your needs, if this is the whole story. I hope you have insurance on your car?

[xomissraddox]

we live about 2 hours from the city. my H has a daughter and the commute is too great. idk why he is making us pay rent in the first place. we can barely afford it. plus we have to buy our own food, and he has a wheat allergy so he needs "special" food. not only that but our food gets eaten on us because we are "not allowed" to have a mini fridge in our room, and my siblings like to snack on what we buy. rent around here for a "decent" studio/1 rm apartment is about 800/mo. we dont even make 800/mo.

 

we have insurance on the car, people are telling me to sue for my back and neck pain just in case i am unable to work later on in life bc of it.