eagle_nate Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Free advice welcome. I'm new to this site but the last few hours have been tremendous in terms of sensing that others do feel what i am feeling and know the pain. It doesn't cure the pain but any remedy is welcome as i'm sure you all know well. Here's my story: We met 2.5 yrs ago at work. Fell in love fast and hard. Life was awesome. She got a new career going last year and things haven't been the same. To make matters worse I was fired from the job after she left and she has never let me forget it. I should mention she's now a cop which might play a role. Last summer i crashed her car by accident, the other driver was charged, and she gott real upset and asked for time and space to decide if we were to stay together...I was devestated to say the least. But after a tough month she came around and we stayed together and things were wonderful Until three weeks ago when out of the blue she broke it off. She said she was doing it for me as she was confused/depressed and couldn't offer me what I needed. After some prodding there's more to the story. She feels the past is a good indicator of the future and is concerned i could get fired again. She wonders whether we're meant to be. She sees all these marriages fail and doesn't want that for us. She is confused/depressed is all i keep hearing and feels I deserve more. I think it's a cop-out but i can't turn my back on it. i love her unconditionally and outside of this stuff , our relationship is pretty solid. Overall, she's concerned about her future... We've been on this break for 3 weeks now and I'm dying, we've met twice both went well except for V-day which was emotional but not negative at all. Its been a week since we've spoken and i can barely function. i feel like the rest of my life is hinging on a decision i have no say in. I'm trying to be understanding but it's hard as hell! I have been much more patient this time...last summer I sort of didn't take it too well and smothered her which caused some issues...this time I've been quiet and patient. She says she may need to go and see someone...anyone been through this and if so, what happened, i could use some advice. Thanks, Nathan Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Breaks very rarely work. It's probably not going to work out, you and her, you won't get back together. Start living like that's what's going to happen. Don't think she's going to come back to you.k Because chances are she won't and you'll be devastated. When you accept that she's not coming back, you'll be able to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author eagle_nate Posted February 22, 2004 Author Share Posted February 22, 2004 Well, thanks for your honest opinion. Maybe I'm dreaming but I can't accept that yet. Plus we had the break in the summer that worked out. But, you may well be right...I'm trying to take the hope for the best, expect the worst philosophy. Link to post Share on other sites
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