Gt.ooh Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Hey guys! Ajax your post reminded me of a post I put up last night about a ex friend emailing to apologise for being mean to me! I cut him off as he was really getting out of hand and he emailed saying sorry! I forgave him and we are going for a catch up after my exams so people can realise their mistakes! Come on guys, I think out ex's think of us lots! You guys really seem nice so I'm sure they miss you all. As for the sex! I'm 26 and scared as hell I will be crap with the next girl! It took a few tries with my ex before I was comfortable and didn't feel pressure to perform! I think it's natural and if the girls we get with are special they will understand and help out and make us feel at ease to just enjoy ourselves! Anyways I'm glad you guys are all doing well, I'm feeling really good about my ex today! I forgive her for everything and don't care anymore, I don't even mind being friends etc if she makes an effort and If she get with another guy who is nice I will actually be happy for her and me! Wierd but I think I may have made it through! Let's just hope I keep feeling this way! Thanks Always: glad your posting along with us. I like the group we have going now. Keep each others' spirits high and feeding off each other when we're in a bind. I try and check LS every night, sometime I don't get to and I miss a whole topic lol. But it's nice to be able to read up an follow everyone's progress. I think you pretty much nailed it..we're putting to much pressure on ourselves when it comes to the physical.. It's human nature, and some are really good others need guidance. And experience is also another big factor. But I know that we'll all make it. Online dating sites there are lots of girls that seem really down to earth. It just comes down to YOU yourself and staying true to your values. Being a young guy I have "urges" but in no way could I gt a bar tonight and force myself to pick a girl up, for me it has to be natural. Link to post Share on other sites
mgene15 Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 agreed, I'm also not the type to just go to the bar and look to get laid. I actually pride myself on not being that way, It's tough some nights when I get the urge and have random flashbacks of my ex.. but like GT stated it'll be worth it with the right women. It's funny because when I kiss this new girl I've been talking to the last month, she kisses different, and it's just something you gotta get use to, like baby steps.. everyone has there own little things they do differently and rather unique. But change is good,especially in the state that we're in.. Link to post Share on other sites
Gt.ooh Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 Indeed change will be good. We all need it at this stage, ESP to really find out just what are exes were about?? Were they really worth it after all? Questions that we wanted answered will be answered by moving on. Forward and onward in the new year. Merry Christmas guys' Link to post Share on other sites
mgene15 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Merry christmas GT,Ajax,Serenade. and everyone else who helped me so far, have a good one, and eat and drink like a pig, because you deserve it! Link to post Share on other sites
Gt.ooh Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I plan to! lol. Got some much needed floormats for my new truck, and since my PS3 crapped out I got a new one!! Woot! Along with other smaller items. Merry HO HO. Link to post Share on other sites
alwayshoping Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Merry Christmas guys! Just wanted to say hey! Thought the ex would send a text today but nothing. Kind of the final nail in the coffin, if you will. Oh well! new year new opportunities! I am going to make some new awesome friends and hopefully get to meet my perfect girl who shows me what love truly feels like! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ajax Posted December 26, 2010 Author Share Posted December 26, 2010 Merry Christmas guys! Just wanted to say hey! Thought the ex would send a text today but nothing. Kind of the final nail in the coffin, if you will. Oh well! new year new opportunities! I am going to make some new awesome friends and hopefully get to meet my perfect girl who shows me what love truly feels like! Yeah I didn't get so much as an acknowledgement of existance fom mine either. I didn't expect her too, and I don't know what I would have done had she reached out, but part of me was hoping she would. I thought if ever she were to try to reestablish contact it would be on Christmas. Guess I'll never hear from her again. It's actually helped kill off a little bit of the feelings I still had for her though. Link to post Share on other sites
mgene15 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Yea so I just got my phone back from my cousin as he had headed out, and I had a missed call from my ex at 4 o clock this afternoon...odd..oh well..it's better that I didn't have my phone because It would have been akward answering ...So i got a couple gift cards, sweater vests.. just a good christmas with the family.. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveBug1989 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) I too was hoping in vain for my ex boyfriend to text or call. I decided to hold off on texting Merry Christmas to him because I'm trying to give him space since he was the one who broke up with me 2 weeks ago. This holiday is particularly painful since I was supposed to spend it with him. His gift that I purchased earlier this month sits unwrapped and unwanted on top of the TV. I wonder what he's doing, if he's happy without me. I just want to hear his laugh again and see his wonderful smile and have his big arms around me. Edited December 26, 2010 by LoveBug1989 Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 I too was hoping in vain for my ex boyfriend to text or call. I decided to hold off on texting Merry Christmas to him because I'm trying to give him space since he was the one who broke up with me 2 weeks ago. This holiday is particularly painful since I was supposed to spend it with him. His gift that I purchased earlier this month sits unwrapped and unwanted on top of the TV. I wonder what he's doing, if he's happy without me. I just want to hear his laugh again and see his wonderful smile and have his big arms around me. im sorry lovebug...gosh, i SO get what u r saying... missing them so much, u want to smell them, hear their laugh, warm body at night to cuddle with...that fits perfectly next to mine... ack...u r not alone..but i am so sorry for your pain...truly... but u came to the right place..LS is full of amazing people... makes me wonder, how so many were dumped...really, such nice and caring people here. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveBug1989 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 im sorry lovebug...gosh, i SO get what u r saying... missing them so much, u want to smell them, hear their laugh, warm body at night to cuddle with...that fits perfectly next to mine... ack...u r not alone..but i am so sorry for your pain...truly... but u came to the right place..LS is full of amazing people... makes me wonder, how so many were dumped...really, such nice and caring people here. Exactly, that's all I want, at least just once more...it hurts so bad. I'm glad I came to LS too, and meeting all these people who are in the same boat, it really helps....I anticipate that LS will be an important part of my healing process as well as others Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Exactly, that's all I want, at least just once more...it hurts so bad. I'm glad I came to LS too, and meeting all these people who are in the same boat, it really helps....I anticipate that LS will be an important part of my healing process as well as others keep reading and posting...i started coming here 2 years ago, after my xh of 15 yrs, left me for his EA via fb..nice huh... but i got thru it, oh i still get angry moments...but LS always is here for me... and now, my recent break up with my bf...this one hurts worse...cause i am actually in love with this one... i loved my xh, but not in love...so like i said in previous posts, i can't blame him for seeking out love elsewhere....but dang, so harsh you know..it was ALL so ugly, i could never have gotten thru IT with out LS.... i find i am whining alot with this break up tho... gosh, it just hurts...miss him so much :~( i will go back and read your story lovebug and c what brought u here to LS... have a good evening, OK... and if u need to talk...LS is always here for us;) Link to post Share on other sites
alwayshoping Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) Yep, I know what you mean Ajax. A huge part of me was hoping she would text me. I was left disappointed. It's crazy but I was actually more excited about getting a text of her than getting any presents! I got a MacBook and some clothes etc. The silly thing is, i would have preferred a text off her and no presents! Crazy right? It's been nearly 4 months and I am still a fool for her. I kinda get what Mariah Carey was singing about when she sang "all I want for Christmas is you". Up to this point I used to think the song was cheesy and had no meaning, guess I was wrong! Oh well. I guess she probably spent it with the new guy, but still didn't stop me wishing she would acknowledge my existence. I hope you had a lovely Christmas everyone x Edited December 26, 2010 by alwayshoping Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) Yep, I know what you mean Ajax. A huge part of me was hoping she would text me. I was left disappointed. It's crazy but I was actually more excited about getting a text of her than getting any presents! I got a MacBook and some clothes etc. The silly thing is, i would have preferred a text off her and no presents! Crazy right? It's been nearly 4 months and I am still a fool for her. I kinda get what Mariah Carey was singing about when she sang "all I want for Christmas is you". Up to this point I used to think the song was cheesy and had no meaning, guess I was wrong! Oh well. I guess she probably spent it with the new guy, but still didn't stop me wishing she would acknowledge my existence. I hope you had a lovely Christmas everyone x Same here. Silly really. I'm with my whole family at my sisters. Still couldn't help wondering if she'd text after over 3 months. There's very poor network coverage at my sisters. The only place in the house where I can get reception is in the loft room so I kept popping up there to check my phone. SAD. She didn't get in touch. Added to that my 5 yo was asking about if we were going to see her this Christmas while we were driving to my sisters because the way to my sisters is also in the direction of her fathers town and he can read the damn road signs and knows where her father lives. Had to explain that we wouldn't be seeing her again. Heartbreaking. I thought the same as you Ajax. If she was ever going to contact it would be at Christmas. I guess the thought that she doesn't really care and that I'll never see or speak to her is really sinking in now. Edited December 26, 2010 by strangeways Link to post Share on other sites
alwayshoping Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Strangeways. My heart goes out to you. It must have been terribly hard telling a 5 year old that. In fact it must have been hard to hear that from them. Things will get better for you very soon, you really seem like such a nice person, and if there is any justice in this world, you will find the perfect woman that will love you and never leave your side x Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ajax Posted December 26, 2010 Author Share Posted December 26, 2010 I put on a pretty good show yesterday. I'm getting better at pretending to be happy. I do believe that we have to fake it til we make it. Tonight I'm having our mutual friends over, including her cousin who introduced us. I'm really hoping that they don't mention her, but sometimes they slip. I still miss my ex, but since I didn't hear from her yesterday part of me is feeling like she never really existed in the first place. It's as if it was vivid dream that I can't forget, but intangible and something I can't grab onto. I'm still hoping that 2011 is a good year, but this little world that I've created for myself since the breakup is still small and fragile, and wouldn't take much to crush again. Link to post Share on other sites
mgene15 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 so i got some hefty news you guys...last night at about 1:30... I get a call from my ex on a blocked number...she was crying...saying she made a huge mistake..asking me all my facebook statu's and what they meant... telling me that It may not seem like she is miserable but she is and has been for 4 months...she said she stopped by my house about a month ago but I was not home...and that she got my new number from a mutual friend.... She stated that she thinks about me alot even no she's been talking to a new guy for the past 4 months and that It's really tough for her and she's finally realizing her mistake and it's just now hitting home...and that we can never be seperated an all this stuff...I told her "you don't no how long I've been waiting for this conversation and the pain I wen't through...I still love you but I feel like I've matured and thank you for letting me no that you still think about me, It's all I needed.. but I'm talking to someone else now"... and she just started crying...see without the past 3 months bein on loveshack...I would have probably got back with her and woulda been jumpy to the situation..I feel like saying what I said and telling her I'm talking to someone else Is the best thing I've done in quite a while, and I feel like I owe it to LS. man it really feels good... and beleive me guys..they are thinking about you...I heard everything in the book from his girl...from "It's over" "we will never be together again" to "You don't exist to me" ...If this was a video game I completed the last level.. now she's sad and miserable.. I don't wish it on her but it is what it is.. Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 so i got some hefty news you guys...last night at about 1:30... I get a call from my ex on a blocked number...she was crying...saying she made a huge mistake..asking me all my facebook statu's and what they meant... telling me that It may not seem like she is miserable but she is and has been for 4 months...she said she stopped by my house about a month ago but I was not home...and that she got my new number from a mutual friend.... She stated that she thinks about me alot even no she's been talking to a new guy for the past 4 months and that It's really tough for her and she's finally realizing her mistake and it's just now hitting home...and that we can never be seperated an all this stuff...I told her "you don't no how long I've been waiting for this conversation and the pain I wen't through...I still love you but I feel like I've matured and thank you for letting me no that you still think about me, It's all I needed.. but I'm talking to someone else now"... and she just started crying...see without the past 3 months bein on loveshack...I would have probably got back with her and woulda been jumpy to the situation..I feel like saying what I said and telling her I'm talking to someone else Is the best thing I've done in quite a while, and I feel like I owe it to LS. man it really feels good... and beleive me guys..they are thinking about you...I heard everything in the book from his girl...from "It's over" "we will never be together again" to "You don't exist to me" ...If this was a video game I completed the last level.. now she's sad and miserable.. I don't wish it on her but it is what it is.. WOW! that was huge, huh? u must be feeling alot of dif emotions right now? first, r u really talking to another girl? or u just tell her that to make it easier to move on, etc.? either way, such strength, i commend u...good job..and with such class too...no name calling, etc...u should be very proud of yourself. keep us posted ok;) Link to post Share on other sites
alwayshoping Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Wow this actually gives hope to all of us. So what's the next step? Link to post Share on other sites
Fermentum Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 so i got some hefty news you guys...last night at about 1:30... I get a call from my ex on a blocked number...she was crying...saying she made a huge mistake..asking me all my facebook statu's and what they meant... telling me that It may not seem like she is miserable but she is and has been for 4 months...she said she stopped by my house about a month ago but I was not home...and that she got my new number from a mutual friend.... She stated that she thinks about me alot even no she's been talking to a new guy for the past 4 months and that It's really tough for her and she's finally realizing her mistake and it's just now hitting home...and that we can never be seperated an all this stuff...I told her "you don't no how long I've been waiting for this conversation and the pain I wen't through...I still love you but I feel like I've matured and thank you for letting me no that you still think about me, It's all I needed.. but I'm talking to someone else now"... and she just started crying...see without the past 3 months bein on loveshack...I would have probably got back with her and woulda been jumpy to the situation..I feel like saying what I said and telling her I'm talking to someone else Is the best thing I've done in quite a while, and I feel like I owe it to LS. man it really feels good... and beleive me guys..they are thinking about you...I heard everything in the book from his girl...from "It's over" "we will never be together again" to "You don't exist to me" ...If this was a video game I completed the last level.. now she's sad and miserable.. I don't wish it on her but it is what it is.. Wow, that's huge. Congrats man. That must have been so so SO hard to do, but it will be worth it. I'm glad you see that you're better off without her. Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 so i got some hefty news you guys...last night at about 1:30... I get a call from my ex on a blocked number...she was crying...saying she made a huge mistake..asking me all my facebook statu's and what they meant... telling me that It may not seem like she is miserable but she is and has been for 4 months...she said she stopped by my house about a month ago but I was not home...and that she got my new number from a mutual friend.... She stated that she thinks about me alot even no she's been talking to a new guy for the past 4 months and that It's really tough for her and she's finally realizing her mistake and it's just now hitting home...and that we can never be seperated an all this stuff...I told her "you don't no how long I've been waiting for this conversation and the pain I wen't through...I still love you but I feel like I've matured and thank you for letting me no that you still think about me, It's all I needed.. but I'm talking to someone else now"... and she just started crying...see without the past 3 months bein on loveshack...I would have probably got back with her and woulda been jumpy to the situation..I feel like saying what I said and telling her I'm talking to someone else Is the best thing I've done in quite a while, and I feel like I owe it to LS. man it really feels good... and beleive me guys..they are thinking about you...I heard everything in the book from his girl...from "It's over" "we will never be together again" to "You don't exist to me" ...If this was a video game I completed the last level.. now she's sad and miserable.. I don't wish it on her but it is what it is.. Phew. That is hefty news. You showed great strength. Link to post Share on other sites
mgene15 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 yea, thnak you guys. I think the next step is to just continue talkin to the girl i've been seeing the last month.. and just try to better myself. I will still be on here regualrly, because theres alot of great people who helped me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ajax Posted December 27, 2010 Author Share Posted December 27, 2010 so i got some hefty news you guys...last night at about 1:30... I get a call from my ex on a blocked number...she was crying...saying she made a huge mistake..asking me all my facebook statu's and what they meant... telling me that It may not seem like she is miserable but she is and has been for 4 months...she said she stopped by my house about a month ago but I was not home...and that she got my new number from a mutual friend.... She stated that she thinks about me alot even no she's been talking to a new guy for the past 4 months and that It's really tough for her and she's finally realizing her mistake and it's just now hitting home...and that we can never be seperated an all this stuff...I told her "you don't no how long I've been waiting for this conversation and the pain I wen't through...I still love you but I feel like I've matured and thank you for letting me no that you still think about me, It's all I needed.. but I'm talking to someone else now"... and she just started crying...see without the past 3 months bein on loveshack...I would have probably got back with her and woulda been jumpy to the situation..I feel like saying what I said and telling her I'm talking to someone else Is the best thing I've done in quite a while, and I feel like I owe it to LS. man it really feels good... and beleive me guys..they are thinking about you...I heard everything in the book from his girl...from "It's over" "we will never be together again" to "You don't exist to me" ...If this was a video game I completed the last level.. now she's sad and miserable.. I don't wish it on her but it is what it is.. That's what we all want to hear. But unlike you, I'm not sure I'd have been that strong. If my ex came back saying those things I'm pretty sure I;d take her back. Link to post Share on other sites
vandelay Posted December 27, 2010 Share Posted December 27, 2010 You did awesome! I would have taken her back and regretted it an hour later. So sad that I know that about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
alwayshoping Posted December 27, 2010 Share Posted December 27, 2010 Same here Ajax. I do respect him for being strong enough to talk away though. We all know it's the right thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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