How do I move on?

[mike10522]

I'm currently 18 and working on joining the military to start my career which I would like to be a doctor. Issues I have are with my father and sisters. My father and I have a history of abuse, when I got to the point where I was to big to be pushed around in my mid teens, it was mental. When I turned 18 I realized to myself to forget about him and just move out. I am the youngest by far out of all my other siblings. I have turned to my sisters for help, but just been ignored. When I say ignored I mean they would say I will get back to you and they never get back to me. I do have a brother but I don't think once in our entire life have him and I talked. I can honestly say, I don't know him. My mother ran away from me when I was a kid so she isn't in the picture.

 

Right now the military is extremely full, then I randomly met a guy who is in special forces who told me of a way of getting in with same mos I wanted. For past half year I have been training with him. But I'm still quite a ways away before I'm ready. For past year I have been looking for a job, jobs within walking distance are only part time and low wages. My mentor *which he is now* has a job lined up for me as a laborer, but there is no bus route to it.

 

My issues is I'm trying to move on, I asked my sisters and brother for help to be ignored, I asked my father about a car, he really just laughed. Yet at the same time, this man who I hardly knew who is now my mentor, comes out of the blue and gives me a pair of running shoes for training, adds me to his gym membership, and sticks with me to train all this time, and he hardly even knows me, just makes you think. Anyone know how I can confront him and try to get his help?

[generator456]

hi,

mike10522 you can move on dear I know its hard. But prayer and time is best. With those, what you're needing will happen. We live in a "microwave" society and want everything fast, including our own healing from painful experiences. But in reality, this doesn't happen. You'll be all right. Believe in yourself enough to move on and become the person you should be, rather than wishing for the person you'll shouldn't be....which is someone who is too weak to move on from a dead relationship. Move on to a life-giving relationship. That begins with God.

[Amira4210]

HI, I kinda have the same relationship with my dad....and had that throughout my teen years, but what caught my eye here is that your dad is trying to be a part of your life again. Thats amazing and you are very lucky, my dad hasn't tried with me at all. You should be thankful, i think many times parents feel threatened when their kids grow up and become independent, so i think if you seek your dad's help or come to him for things, he will feel like he is still your "dad" and that you still need him even if you're moved out and moving. Good luck!

[generator456]

Hey mike10522, I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. It must be extemely hard for you, and my thoughts are with you. In terms of moving on, this is a helpful forum , giving relationship advice, and advice on moving forward in challenges and bettering yourself.