Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 9 months ago a girl completely destroyed me emotionally... abusing me and using me and it broke my heart... I know the relationship was only ~5 months (not 2 years like many) but I fell REALLY hard for her... her words have tormented me for soooo long... and tonight... 9 months later... out of the blue.. she messages me. I have no idea what to reply back... if at all I reply... "hey, So... It's that time of year and i just want to let go of any grudges. I feel bad that i stopped talking to you. It had nothing to do with you and I was going through a really hard time, and im sorry if i ever gave you the impression that any of my frustration was because of you. It wasn't good timing when we met. So , im sorry for any pain or hurt feelings. I'm in a much better place now. I only wish you the best and hope all is well. -Nicole" .................................. You destroyed me emotionally... and that's it? F YOU BITCH. I've wanted this day to come for soooo long.. and now that it has, I regret wishing for it. I wish it never came. UGH.
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 Nicole - I have nothing left to say to you. You taught me how to feel pain.. how to writhe in agony... you made me realize women can be TRULY evil. Your message to me is in pure selfishness... months of guilt you tried to absolve by ****ing 2 new guys... but you will ALWAYS think of me. You are a selfish bitch and will accomplish nothing. Your guilt will NOT be appeased until I respond. And you know what? This is my response and you will NEVER see it. I hate you with all my heart... you destroyed me. I never want to love again because of you. I dreamed of this day.. that you would contact me... and now I wish It had never come. Be gone from my life forever.
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 For your own sanity dont respond. I've followed your story, it's a lot like mine. I refuse to give her the satisfaction of responding to her. you should too.
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 For your own sanity dont respond. I've followed your story, it's a lot like mine. I refuse to give her the satisfaction of responding to her. you should too. <3 ...praying for love... thanks man. 9 months later and my heart is still shattered.
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 <3 ...praying for love... thanks man. 9 months later and my heart is still shattered. so is mine I just can't seem to heal up, even after all this time. I'm beginning to wonder if it will ever happen. Do you think there is such a thing as a broken heart that will never mend?
Always A Lesson Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I was wondering what happened to you, You're the poetic smart guy. I used to follow your story. I knew one day she would contact you, they say they always do. It happened in your case and mine. What I did was not respond then changed my number the next day. when I think of it, I get a thrill of contentment,...sucka you can't hurt me anymore.... I don't like how Nicole just says "hey" and not use your name, kind of insulting. Well, I guess things aren't so good in her other relationships. Don't respond back Banana! Something tells me, this is not the end of her. Continue to show strength, you've come a long, long way!
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 so is mine I just can't seem to heal up, even after all this time. I'm beginning to wonder if it will ever happen. Do you think there is such a thing as a broken heart that will never mend? I'm not sure anymore.... this message just opened up a nearly completely healed wound...
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I'm not sure anymore.... this message just opened up a nearly completely healed wound... That's what worries me. I never have gotten over this girl. Not even close. but your healing mechanism seemed to be working, until today. Now you and I are once again in the same spot. I'm sorry for your pain bro, I don't think I could stand living it all over again
Always A Lesson Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 You have us here to talk you through it. Don't respond... she could be trying to wiggle her way back. It could be anything or nothing at all....She probably got a big dose of LIFE thrown at her ....and it woke her up....or she could have went through something that opened her eyes and realized what she lost. you were starting to be fine before she opened up that wound.
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 That's what worries me. I never have gotten over this girl. Not even close. but your healing mechanism seemed to be working, until today. Now you and I are once again in the same spot. I'm sorry for your pain bro, I don't think I could stand living it all over again You have us here to talk you through it. Don't respond... she could be trying to wiggle her way back. It could be anything or nothing at all....She probably got a big dose of LIFE thrown at her ....and it woke her up....or she could have went through something that opened her eyes and realized what she lost. you were starting to be fine before she opened up that wound. .... I haven't cried since the night she broke me into pieces. I don't like this.
Always A Lesson Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 hope banana and skydive find true love. or true love finds them. me2.
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 I feel she misses me.... I think she feels a **** ton of guilt. I think she wonders what could've been... ...then again, I'm not her. I have no idea what's going through her head. I always say dumpers feel the pain eventually and come back. I'm shocked it's only been 9 months. why is she messaging me now? What does she miss? Why does she expect me to absolve her now? After this long? I haven't responded back yet... ugh... Skydive... be strong, brother! Be strong. Yours is out there... I'm sure of it. Mine... I gave up on mine. heh. And thanks Always a Lesson. That means a lot It's funny... I changed my number because of another girl... not nicole. heh.
Always A Lesson Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Nicole, what is running through that mind of yours. you broke this poor guys heart to pieces, are you coming back around to finish the job?????? "I hate you with all my heart... you destroyed me. I never want to love again because of you." B11 you're not destroyed......you're wiser and stronger... and don't hate, the World's full of HATE.... Hate clogs you up.....you can't be that person you're suppose to be....filled with hate. You've been severely hurt... and now the emotional roller-coaster begins... you're already ballin.
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 Nicole, what is running through that mind of yours. you broke this poor guys heart to pieces, are you coming back around to finish the job?????? "I hate you with all my heart... you destroyed me. I never want to love again because of you." B11 you're not destroyed......you're wiser and stronger... and don't hate, the World's full of HATE.... Hate clogs you up.....you can't be that person you're suppose to be....filled with hate. You've been severely hurt... and now the emotional roller-coaster begins... you're already ballin. What nicole did to me affected my performance in grad school =/
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I feel she misses me.... I think she feels a **** ton of guilt. I think she wonders what could've been... ...then again, I'm not her. I have no idea what's going through her head. I always say dumpers feel the pain eventually and come back. I'm shocked it's only been 9 months. why is she messaging me now? What does she miss? Why does she expect me to absolve her now? After this long? I haven't responded back yet... ugh... Skydive... be strong, brother! Be strong. Yours is out there... I'm sure of it. Mine... I gave up on mine. heh. h. I wish I could agree with you , but I've given up too. I'm never going through that again. Hell, I'm still not out of the last one yet.
Always A Lesson Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 amazing how people affect our lives... B11 hopefully you'll get some good advice on how to deal with this chick. don't respond until you get some good solid advice, you don't want to regret it later, the agony will be worst. personally, i would sleep on it, and get a clear head so you can think better tomorrow.
Star Gazer Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I know what I'd write back, and I know what I'd say that would actually make me feel reeeeeeeeeally good. "Oh, f*ck off." But it's a personal decision.
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 That's a good Idea, just not my style,I wish I
dtyk Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 The love of my life (so far) has left me for a good 7 months now. I personally quite fine at the moment. We've been together for a year and half. We cherished and loved each other quite dearly but life got in the way. I think you should go and do something you've never done before in your life, or never had the guts to and just see how that feels for you.
skydiveaddict Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 The love of my life (so far) has left me for a good 7 months now. I personally quite fine at the moment. We've been together for a year and half. We cherished and loved each other quite dearly but life got in the way. I think you should go and do something you've never done before in your life, or never had the guts to and just see how that feels for you. skydiving is a good place to start
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 Not really sure what to do... all I know is I'm leaving a semester early with my Masters and entering the real world. I'm taking a leave from my PhD... relationships have taken a toll on me and it has affected my work. Apparently at this time I'm not as emotionally strong as I want to be and my adviser and I feel its in my best interest to move on for now and see where I'm at down the road. go figure. As far as Nicole... I have not responded. Still in shock... I really, really, really want to tell her. "Glad you're doing well. No good can come of us talking again. Take care."
Solear Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Hi Dante, The woman that dumped me last September got in touch a month or so ago. She was all smiles and hugs and was asking for some of her stuff back. I gave it to her hugs and smiles. I asked would she keep in touch she said yeah. She didnt and I was back to chasing her again. I've stopped now because I realise what I was doing. I'm deeply in love with this woman but she's brought my depression back full swing. I made the mistake of telling her I missed her the other week and she didnt even respond. My advice, Dont tell her you hate her as that would imply she has a hold over you. Dont tell her she messed up your life, thats a conversation to be had face to face. I would either just text back "Leave me alone" Or Apologies are much more sincere face to face. Good luck mate.
selena_cat Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 (edited) hey Dante,i'll tell the B**ch off for you,i lived in New Orleans before and we're very good at F U spells. Just say when.. but whatever you do do not respond,i'm telling you,silence is very golden. read up on this guy here name Limbo21,his ex screwed him up very bad,and she text him,he ignored,she kept texting,he kept ignoring. She e-mailed,no response,i'm telling you this woman couldnt stopi ts like she's stalking him,and she's the one that dumped him. Not sure if yoru ex will do this,but she'll feel the pain of you ignoring her,thats the best. Stay strong Edited September 11, 2010 by selena_cat
Author Dante311 Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 hey Dante,i'll tell the B**ch off for you,i lived in New Orleans before and we're very good at F U spells. Just say when.. but whatever you do do not respond,i'm telling you,silence is very golden. read up on this guy here name Limbo21,his ex screwed him up very bad,and she text him,he ignored,she kept texting,he kept ignoring. She e-mailed,no response,i'm telling you this woman couldnt stopi ts like she's stalking him,and she's the one that dumped him. Not sure if yoru ex will do this,but she'll feel the pain of you ignoring her,thats the best. Stay strong oh, i likey very much. this is what i shall TRY to do...
Author Dante311 Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 eh **** nicole went on two dates this evening, separately, with two attractive women I know from university. both women want second dates. I had fun. I did not kiss either woman tonight - but they want the second date... so then i'll make my move. good night!!!!
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